BUT alas I am nowhere near NH just go buy one I guess and I am sure one of the lovely NH chicks will help your cause

Bend OVER and Grab Your Ankles You Dirty Slut!

Strap on play is definately a way to take it to the next level. I have like 4 different ones and strap on is just an end point. You should do anal conditioning and use different sized toys, maybe a gloved hand and maybe some anal beads. Kink is so erotic and wild, many won't venture there. There truly is a fine line between pain and pleasure.

and I certainly don't mind sharing

My favorite are of the no-strap double ended variety - that way there's something in it for both of us!

Maxine