Over the last few weeks I have encountered a number of hobbiest requesting gfe/bbfs.  When did gfe turn into bbfs? There is no way in heaven or hell, would I ever indulge in such a thing. I love being STD free, and strive to remain that way(all thanks to being safe, PCP, and GYN).  Why would I endanger my life longevity,  to entertain your frivolous desire for a few moments of pleasure. There's also the possibility of getting pregnant(not all providers are on birth control). Do they even think about the consequences? I'm getting weary of having to explain this. Has any other providers experienced this?

I don't think I'd like the burning sensation.

Either these gentlemen are INCREDIBLY new to the hobby and are making asses of themselves, or are making asses of themselves in general, or are just generally stupid. Now all of us would like to assume that we are sane, safe individuals and would never put anyone at harm or risk, but asking for such a service?  That is just . . . no.  Just no.  I wouldn't BBFS someone unless I was in some form of a relationship with them and regular testing was done.  

I had one provider tell me, within the first few minutes of meeting her, that she did NOT offer BBFS - as if she was anticipating the question - and then admitted there was one client she did that do that for that she saw two-three times a week.  Hearing that I immediately left.  It was nothing against her at all - what she chooses to do with a very regular client is her business / choice, but I am terrified to think what may have happened had I not been aware of this.  I have heard and read stories of some "providers" offering BBFS, and I'm sorry, that is simply unprofessional.  This is the 21st century and there is no excuse for not playing safe.  Now granted, I am not a fan of CBJ, though I certainly understand and respect when a provider requires it - what am I going to do, start complaining when the raincoat is put on before anything takes place?  It's not like anything I have to say is suddenly going to change a provider's mind.  So it is what it is in those cases.  

I mean hell, even PSE isn't BBFS.  I just don't get it.  Disease and pregnancy - two issues that kinda sorta NEED to be dealt with in a mature, intelligent, safe fashion.  Anyone who isn't willing to do that - well, run in the opposite direction.  Honestly, I think that if I were a provider and a client asked me for BBFS, I would likely terminate the session right there.  Just seems like a client willing to take that risk may have engaged in it before, and may have something that even being safe might not cover.  Sigh.  I'm sorry you've had to deal with this.

... so for me that request is super rare (thank goodness). BBfs is not the new GFE.  Kind of surprised  that you've gotten so many requests for this recently....assumed most people knew better.

I did not partake but it did cross my mind.

She had a client ask for what he called Ultra GFE. What the F$@K kinda BullShit is that made up term???? I said then and will say it again it's unthinkable to me in 2014 in this world to do BBFS!!!!!!! It's not responsible as a client to ask and completely unsafe on many levels as a provider. We are all adults and seemingly have a little intelligence at least enough to be here on this sight so how does an intelligent person think BBFS is ok for them, the provider and everyone whom is with either of them after????? I don't care what you call it BBFS or Ulta GFE it's proper name is FKDup!!!!!!!

I have the same response for anyone that tries to engage me in explicit talk by phone or email, even if it is a regular client.

"In what world do you think any electronic device is private"

"If you need a menu perhaps we are not a good match"

The most I will do is use terms like "I am a safety girl"  or "I am a mature women and I am sure we will get along just fine".

Bottom line is we need to call these HIGH RISK CLIENTS OUT, as many think they can get away with giving us unjustified reviews because we won't engage in risky behaviors.  It is just as risky to discuss these things in by any electronic device.  If a client does not have the sense to be discreet, then I prefer he doesn't even contact me.

Now they are moving on to call bbfs Ultra GFE as the guy that just posted ,looking for this in Boston and claims he has a PHD.  I replied to the thread and asked why a EDUCATED man would engage in such risky behaviors.

One of my other favorite phrases is "Do not assume all whores are stupid"!

for BBFS in the New England area. I just delete the email or PM and continue on with my day. I survived cancer and you want to kill me over because you don't like protection--haha that is funny--but I feel like if somebody has the nerve to ask such a thing, I don't want to know/see them anyways!!  

Gfe never tuned into bbfs!! If you want bbfs you will need to be with your wife/husband/SO...Even when I dated in the "real world" I used protection.

I've hobbied primarily in So. California and New England as I split my time between the two coasts. I've never sought BBFS but it's happened several times. I don't initiate it but in the heat of the moment it just happens when they just slip me in uncovered. After a screaming hot BBBJ it just kind of seems like the natural next step! lol In there defense I've never stopped and asked for a cover. I've assumed that they are on BC and always confirm after. Although it's no excuse, a few of the ladies just assume it's OK. It's nice while it's happening but I always feel a little guilt/shame after I've gone. I'm low volume and I seek and pay a premium for low volume ladies (except for one lady in Portland, ME that I later learned is apparantly not so low volume) but you never know. I know it's like playing Russian roulette but it just happens from time to time. I'm divorced and don't have a SO, but I do have teenage kids. I owe them their Dad's safe health. I never intend for it to happen and I've got to assume that if they're doing me BB they're doing everybody else the same way. It's out there even when you don't seek it. And it's  not always the guys seeking it. Be careful and play safe.

It seems we all decide what risks and pleasures to indulge in.  
Some will make sure they are always using condoms,  some will give bareback blow jobs and some will have vaginal sex without protection and others will go for anal Au natural. Each act has it's own risk. It is not up to me to tell others how to live their lives. Please do the research and come to a decision that you are comfortable with.

Instead of trying to code word all of this ridiculousness let's just call it what it is? That way those of us who prefer to screen around those who engage in riskier behaviors can do so.  

Some of us prefer to play safe and practice risk reduction methods, test regularly, and employ safer sex practices. Others can do as they choose.

 
Grace