you didn't ... yet you were perfectly ok with it? I know there are many guys who love this, however in our society it seems that our sexual focus is on the male orgasm (when the man cums, it's over) I'm not specifically talking about the hobby but sexually relations in general. I, myself, get more turned on by male orgasm but what about this scenario: two people having great sex, the lady cums (the guy hasn't yet) then she gets up, cleans up then dresses ... As if when she came, it was the end of the sexual experience ...  Has this happened to you, how did or would you react, why is this not the norm? Ladies, has the focus ever been on just you and how did you feel about it, would you like this? Just curious about role reversal. Thoughts?

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Not trying to make myself out to be a sexual saint, but as someone who has never been a 100% orgasm during sex kind of guy, I'm perfectly willing to go until she has had her fun and then stop. I get more satisfaction on a job well done.

... neither of us had an orgasm.  Not very often, but it's happened.  

The less important the actual orgasm(mine) has become. Because of past life events, my first focus is now on pleasing my lady. I have also experienced that the more I make sure to pleasure her the more willing she is to return the pleasure. But overall, for me anyway, it has become the joy of the journey, not the race to the finish that I cherish. Thanks, Bri....good topic!

I love to make a woman cum... I like to get them off as much as possible before I get my turn, it just seems to make it so much more intense. But I also like to cum and many times. LOL
 My problem at home is sort of opposite to the norm. My wife is like the dude and I'm like the woman. She cums once and then off to sleep. Me, I want more. Sometimes I end up getting up with energy and doing something else. LOL

Let me start by saying that due to my circumstances (limited position capabilitys etc.) getting a woman off is like three quarters of the fun for me if I did not/could not do this well sex would be very boring for both parties; so I always try to have my game face on at all times (no pun intended I would say that my first really rewarding sexual experience was with a girl who was newly injured and did not know if she could… You know I was the first guy to help her with this post injury and thank the good Lord I succeeded I did not have an orgasm during the encoder but there was something about it that I absolutely loved it was a very unique opportunity that will probably never happen again but I'll never forget it that's for sure!

The lady always "cums" first. Her pleasure is tantamount to a great time.  

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As I have aged, I have become much more into touch and sensuality, and I love the closeness that never existed in my marriage. (Been divorced for years and never cheated.) I found it incredibly unleashing to acutally bring a woman to an orgasm- someone who actually appreciated the touch. Then I encountered some medical issues (dreaded "C").  Because of that, I never know if I am bringing my A-game, but it doesn't matter because I LOVE to bring a woman to orgasm- multiple is even better.  In fact, I have made 2 women squirt who had never squirted before.  So, YES, for me it is perfectly OK if she cums and I do not.  But when I do, it's a bonus.  There are many times where I will have a mental orgasm but no ejaculation (due to meds).  So even though I don't ejaculate, I still cum... if that makes sense.  Some providers are VERY understanding.  In fact one calls this my "ingasm."  Others--especially the young ones--are very impatient and sometimes get frustrated or laugh.  Yep. Laugh.  Any question why I prefer 30+?  Oh... I am not a FS guy... massage only. And there are a few (very few) who do like to cum...  and they are the ones who get my repeat business.  Needless to wite, I take good care of them.     Keep it safe!!

It's happened a few times.  I was either too tired or too drunk or just over-sexed.  I get to a certain point and say "well, this aint gonna happen".  Each time it has happened my partners seemed to be offended or insulted.  It wasn't them, it was me.

If a guy goes first, she is less likely to have an orgasm at all.
If she goes first, the lubrication is better.
Women's orgasms arouse me (separate thread).
If a woman is happy, she will help a partner be happier.
Bridget: I have never had some sessions that were not fun because of bad hygiene, chemstry, etc, but do not consider that the definition of a bad session.

not infrequently either.

There have been times when she climaxed more than I did and I was perfectly happy with it as I do enjoy seeing the woman enjoy herself as well but I think I always managed to finish at least one in those situations.

I sometimes hold back if I feel it's too early in the encounter to be "done".  Fairly often the result of holding back is that I can't finish later.  But if this helps her get there it's fine with me..the interaction is often more fun than a quick finish