Ok so I am new to this and I was wondering if they are any providers who will listen as to why you need them. I'm in a very one sided relationship and haven't been with my wife in a very long time (years) anyway is there a provider who understands what that means and will help me through the problems associated with it?
Also do they care what you look like, can they show care and compassion even though I'm old, short and fat.........?

They r good at faking it that's why they get the big $.

Your circumstance is very common in this hobby. You'll find many wonderful ladies on this board that would be kind, thoughtful, and understanding of your situation. Bear in mind that time is their biggest asset so be sure to block out enough time if you suspect you'll need extra time to ramp up. With that said most of the well reviewed ladies will never give you any indication that time is an issue, but be respectful. Don't go to overboard on the pity party stuff, remember this is supposed to be fun. You don't want your attitude to rub off on your companion friend.  

i would like to state that we indeed do care, we are human and we to have had our own issues so some of us can relate and listen well. We can and do give advice hun, no it does not matter what you look like, for some gals its a real connection with boundaries and others are perfect actresses. Though i have never been married i may not be the perfect person to talk with about marriage, but... i will listen and give the best advice i can offer. I'm very new so maybe someone with more experience can answer your question better. Good luck  
 

You're finally going to get some GREAT sex, that's what the "hobby" is all about. Don't spend time bitching about your wife, the ladies know why you are there.
Shower up, be respectful, have fun!

n all seriousness, I would suggest a minimum 2 hours in the company of one of MN finest so you can enjoy the foreplay and tenderness and intimacy you are missing. Oh and you get to fuck also.

However try to not do that upon initial contact, it's kind of intense to drop your whole life story onto someone you've just met IMO.  
One more thing; Believe it or not some of us really don't judge you on looks but more on personality and manners.  
Happy hunting! Xoxo V.

is listen and talk.  It's pretty much par for the course.  

I myself am overweight and unattractive, so I know what you are getting at. From what I ave seen, most of these are in this business for 3 things and not necessarily in this order. Money, sex and friendships. I can not relate to the your marriage as I have never tied the knot, broke off when I was engaged. However, I can say that on more than one occasion, I have gone to see a provider and never took our clothes off. Depends on the situation, the lady and the guy. But also keep in mind the that most of those ladies are probably not going to want you to spill your heart out right away. It gets hard for them as well.

None of the girls that I saw when I first hobbied were bad to me. I had plenty of personal distractions, but even a lady who isn't usually very GFE still picked up on that and did a relaxing session that was REALLY NICE

They are people, just like you and me.  They are all in it for different reasons.    

o hear your troubles and offer some advice from a woman's point of view (if you want of course!). I don't usually push subjects but am very glad to listen, and speak when needed. Everyone needs an understanding confidant.  

Depending on the depths of neglect and stuffed emotions you have, you need to be careful the type of provider you choose. If you see a real GFE provider, you may not be able to handle the release of all the crap you have stuffed down. There may be anger, tears and resentment that are released if the provider is really skilled. It may be wise to see a provider that lacks the GFE and excels at the activity.  

Once you've met with a provider the first time, you'll be hooked.  It is a wonderful 'hobby' for almost all that ills you, save for the money in the secret envelope.  That'll take a beating!  Good luck.  Enjoy these wonderful ladies.

I not a basket case (yet LOL). No I'm just concerned about the embarrassment of possibility of losing it after 10 seconds of having the provider show me a little tlc. Wills she understand that it's been 8 years?

Of course I was nervous, but human nature took over and had a great time.  It's not as nerve-wracking as you think.  I've been there.

There are many great ladies here that will listen to you, lead you, and give you what you are missing. They will calm your nerves and take you away from the bad stuff in life for an hour or two and leave you thinking wow, I forgot how good it feels to be with a loving woman. Take your time, check out the top 100 in Mn, read their reviews and you'll find what you are looking for. Be clean, be respectful, be on time, don't fall in love and have fun.

I kind of see it as a turn on ... The trick to it is if the girl can tease just enough and know when to stop or just let it erupt and go again.  Everyone is different and you know yourself better than she does ... Just lead the way!!!

Making a significant difference in the life of a gentleman just like this one is a reward of far greater magnitude than that envelope. Thank you, Leann- I share your sentiment and I bet you go to sleep with a smile on your face after you've visited with a gentleman like this because you've made him a happier man.  

WOW, well said. That is the candid reality, indeed.  

...and even if you can't recover for another round you can use the remaining time in body worship. I suspect it's also been 8 years since you've explored a woman's body with your hands, tongue and other senses. Think of this return to sensuality as only the first of many more to come.

I like that.  A lot.  

Excellent point!

For me,I think that is part of what I do naturally, a lot of providers do. To be with someone that does not mind if you take your time, open up as much as you feel comfortable. Every one of us can identify with your situation in one way or another and most of the fine lady's are empathetic, gentle and compassionate and will hypothetically,"hold your hand all the way, you should leave, relaxed, released and with a smile on your face as well.

Sensual therapy, I like the sound of that. I see beyond the physical, the eyes, your demeaner and touch are what I need, not a perfect appearance.

J.