I read this question on another thread and I liked it.  Also, I decided to start communicating more and everything seems to be a little slow.  Here I go.  Being a newbie, I learned to read reviews from people who were willing to share their experiences.  Hobbists and providers taught me to be smarter and don't jump into something that looks too good because it probably is.  I learned to be a better sexual partner from a few ladies on this board, almost got caught.  I was asked where I learned this new position.  Thank God I said porn.  I only wrote one review on my experience.  I learned I owe it to the ladies to write a review.  They deserve it.  I need to do a better job on this.  Just some random thoughts.  Anyone like to comment?

Your random thoughts are an excellent  basis to ponder what have I learned. I am not sure of the answer. but here goes:
- There are many wonderful providers that are willing to share an intimate expierence with a person who they don't know intimately..."thank you"  
- We are all searching for some missing piece in our lives. I suppose that is true for all
- I completely love the physical beauty of women that must be primordial
- The act itself is almost unattached but yet fulfilling
I would love to know how the women feel, I suppose there is no conclusive answer

-Improved confidence in my interaction with women outside the hobby (mostly so I can try to get some without having to pay)
-Women in the hobby expect and appreciate the same things that women outside the hobby
-Its not all about the sex but the time and affection shared (little sappy but true)
-Good communication before session sets the girls at ease=better session
-Be yourself and relax this is supposed to be fun, the girls can sense anxiety and cause a less enjoyable experience
-The good ones provide a great performance, but the great ones make you believe it!!

...this might sound a bit cryptic but as I have found that, in this shadow world of aliases, board handles, stage names, bait & switch and cash & dash, there are many things that you assume and believe which later turn out to be something quite different when seen under different lights. Beware. Be skeptical. Trust is something that both Hobbyists and Providers should give out stingily and cautiously.

Not long after the "Honeymoon" period, my last wife started cutting the sex life back. I loved her and enjoyed the sex, but it got less and less. Got divorced over other reasons (money) and started to hobby.
Now I have better sex, with better looking women, and when I am in the mood (and have the extra money). The best thing is if I decide to stop hobbying I don't have to give the last provider half of everything I own!

- Not to worry about your "performance", it can be only about me if thats how I want it.
- However, when it clicks for both (or at least seemingly so) it is awesome.
- Nearly every provider I've met is someone I'd enjoy "civie" time with and , on a couple occasions have.
- Its not the 'dark and dirty', drug infused, enslaved world we read about.
- That the 'no strings attached' part is really cool.  It takes very special ladies for this to be right.
- That spending my hard earned money hobbying is extremely satisfying.  Extremely satisfying.
- I can be with women that I'd have absolutely no chance at.  Like being in 9th grade longing for the hot senior girls!  LOL!
- Be careful, cautious and listen to the advice on the boards.
Hobby on!

1) how to be more assertive ... I am naturally a people pleaser which is beneficial in this biz yet in the civie world it can be a downfall. So I have learned how to balance the two; letting my emotions and intimacy flow over me for the moment then bring myself back to "reality" when I need to.  

2) that I do still enjoy the time I spend with the wonderful friends I've met in the hobby. My ex was a prude and I truly understand where many of the guys are coming from; often I felt like the man and my ex was the woman in our marriage. He has no idea what he was missing out on!

the diversity of people I have met is amazing.  "they are the best of us and they are worst of us"  most of the men are kind and really enjoy the company of the wonderful women we meet.  They are generous and truly wish the best for the ladies and then there are the guys who rent pussy, and brag about pulling hair and 'pounding' 18 year old children.  

among the ladies; there are givers "she came to me so peacefully and took my crown of thorns, come in she said I'll give you shelter from the storm"  and then there is the pretty little gal mentioned earlier who will meet you with a kind smile and then you meet her large black boyfriend with the knife who takes all of you money.  

Where else in our experience can you meet the angels and the devils in the same place.

END OF MESSAGE

That the lady I really want to see is out of town or unavalble.
The second lady I really want to see is way the hell over on the other side of town.
Why are all the good ones on other side of town?
That the third one is out of my league.
That there is so many women chose from so little time

END OF MESSAGE

......and not enough money!!

...I can detach love from sex.
...Providers are very convincing in their passion for you - in your time together.
...I am not comfortable with any provider. It's me, not them.  
...I am cheap and try to find release for the lowest possible cost.  
...More people hobby than I thought...
...VIP is necessary to navigate the hobby.

I'm MUCH bigger than the average guy! (it must be true, I've heard it so many times!)
I function best on 2 drinks prior to a session (stamina-wise) It doesn't matter if it's 10 am or 10 pm, I'm having exactly 2 drinks before a session,  no more, no less. Then several breath mints...
That I really don't like fake boobs much.
Hugging is way underrated.
To check the windshield for parking stubs before heading home

Foolish, foolish man. I feel sorry for him.

I think it has given me a much deeper appreciation for women.

I cannot tell you how many times I have been in this situation...  I knock on a door.  A stunning woman opens the door and greets me with a smile.  And even though I am probably not "her type" at all.  Not even close.  She bathes me in affection like I am the hottest thing ever.

The ability of a provider to just see past all our ages and chubbiness and poor hygiene and lame technique...  to just ignore all that, and instead look into each one of us, look for something good to latch on to, to connect with...  It's an amazing thing.

And sure, it's a job, and the money matters...  But over the years I have met so many providers for whom this is really a genuine expression of their real sexuality.  I have been around this for a looong time, and over the years I have had the opportunity to meet quite a few women for whom this fulfills a much deeper need than just economics.  For a lot of providers, the need to just love on you--to be a nurturer and lover, to be a replenisher--runs very deep and is a very honest expression.