This is the kind of question important for any personal relationships, especially for intimate ones.  How do you fun/adventure with mutual respect?

sounds like a stoner question

First - nice worthless reply alias.

Second and more importantly - it's about communication with your partner. IMO if you don't express your feelings and thoughts your cutting out a big part of a great intimate relationship.

BTW Foxy op was an alias as well.

Sex is the most intimate thing possible  between
a Man and a Woman! Both partners should want
to please as well as being pleased!! Not just
physically getting off!

thought he might post the question with more clarity.

Wow.  Didn't intend to create any confusion with this one.

Mostly a softball question for the faithful (though I think an important one) on the ways that both parties build and maintain mutual respect and trust.

Communication was identified.  That's perhaps the most important.  Especially on expectations.  And being willing to engage in communication in non-hurried fashion.

Another is selection.  Working to connect with people with whom you share some commonality in personality and interests.  So that the experience is more complete.

I see reference to being a gentleman on various provider sites.  This is what I'm getting at on the guy side of the equation.  Things you do to make an experience go well for both parties.

That's what I was getting at.

thanks for clarifying

The comment sounds a stoner question seemed pointless to me. Yes I know he is also an alias.
But the reply about the guy jonesing up and asking a honest question to me seems nothing more then taking a shot because you can. But think he got what he was looking for in the end. Some decent comments and help.

One of the great things about the hobby is that it makes the "bargain" of the encounter explicit.  I give you $, you give me special time.

In any relationship, there are boundaries.  Some couples leave the bathroom door open, others do not; it's a matter of where they decide to draw the boundary.

In the hobby, the key to respect is to observe boundaries.  What does that mean?  As a hobbyist, you show up on time or give adequate notice that you can't; you pay the agreed price and don't try to short; you're freshly showered and mouthwashed; you observe the provider's rules and don't try to push them; you don't overstay your time unless invited; you don't ask the provider about her personal life.  If there's some aspect of the experience you like, you compliment her; if there's room for improvement, you tell her politely and discreetly.  

I'll leave it to the providers to fill in their side.