I may not be what you are looking for , maybe? As I’m fully thera-sensual (not fs)
I highly value consent and safety of my nipples (rings) that have been slightly torn by 3 out of 10 visitors who roughly handled them without my permission or notice during our sessions through my 19 years
Unfortunately i dont ask for references as some sources were not reliable .. if our new friends are not pictured on reputable website or a very established LinkedIn account is not able to be provided - I sometimes may ask for gvmt id along with some sort of proof of employment, addresses and income may be covered , but names and hours , sometimes DOB must be included
this isn’t because I WANT to know your dirt .. but it’s also a vetting process on a psychological level - these ppl are less likely to treat me poorly behind closed doors
I came here as an example, but also to give suggestions that may help you either put your mind at ease or finding another way
- REVERSE Search on the provider contact info and seek her reviews , there some here , erotic money , adultlook , private delights , slixa , before giving out such sensitive information .
-personally I would also pay attention to how long they have been in the business , if no complaints then she’s most likely just protecting her peace .
- CREATE an established profile :
May be worth the ask to have them give positive reports on your email and phone number - if u need to protect your personal life , I’m sure you can get creative - (keeping your same hobby email and phone number will help)
- Try to see if p411 will accept new accounts to begin your profile and seek getting “ok’s”
Nothing wrong with asking ahead of time if the providers will honor these
- Adultlook - where only providers can look up your email and number to seek positive feedback , no media is allowed in these reports and usually it’s complaints . But I HAVE seen positive notes , This is a site where some providers may not be fully verified but most times their photos are lightly screened and you can see a check marks next to their photos
- reference based providers : just keep trying to find providers who are open to references, I think some reviews might even suggest they use em in their screening process, not every John focuses on speaking about these things but some do .
- ask your provider who they can link you with or suggest you should see , as some providers may not give reference outside of their circle but may within .
- lastly offer compensation for favors , may work