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simply put.. until the lady is comfortable with inviting you into her personal space.  You are someone she has never met before...a virtual stranger, so to speak.

We verify you, most importantly, to make sure you're not LE, and also to make sure you're not violent or in some other way going to harm us. After a brief glimpse at our ads and our websites, you already know a lot more about us than we do of you - verification's an attempt to level the playing field.

I think it's very important for you to realize we are NOT out to destroy your life, marriage, career, or what have you. You are our livelihood and we couldn't exist in this job without you! When we ask for employment information, we don't plan on calling your employer and saying, "Hey, this is so-and-so's escort, and he's apparently really into having his balls licked, and also facials, could you tell me if he works there?" Hardly. Most of us will call in a professional voice and simply ask for you; when questioned, I've said that I'm from US Bank, Wells Fargo, his doctor's office, or his mortgage company.

Discretion, for most girls, is like second nature, and as long as you're hiring a reputable escort, you should feel comfortable giving her as much information as she needs to feel safe seeing you. If you're not willing to do that, there are still a few girls who don't require verification - mostly on Craigslist and Backpage - but either way, your escort will feel much safer and happier with you if you provide her with enough information to let her know you're not out to arrest or hurt her!

The girls were right. Their safety is paramount. Until you have seen a know provider or 2 you will usually have to provide your name and where you work.
I realize that it can be disconcerting to divulge such personal data, so I suggest that in the beginning you try to schedule only with ladies who have at a minimum 6-10 reviews, that their reviews are at least 7,8 and 9's and she has a web site and email. You should find that these ladies have shown the ability to be discreet and you possibly can get a date with one of them.
Your attitude and politeness when you email a potential date is also very important.  

The VIP membership is vital so that you can compare reviews to be privy to the "juicy details". \\IMO

Find some whose questions you are comfortable with and once you have a few who will give you a reference, then it should be much easier.  Or you can sign up with a verification service, such as P411.  Of course, they will ask questions of you as well.  If you really don't want to answer questions, there are plenty of providers on Craigslist and to a lesser degree Backpages and Cityvibe who don't require them.  Of course, there are risks associated with seeing providers who don't screen beyond their ability to decide if you are OK or not by how you are on the phone.

You don't want to risk seeing a lady that does not verify you.  Suck it up and give well reviewed high quality ladies your information. They have no reason to destroy your personal life.