query:have any providers ever met a client that they just couldn't service? I mean maybe too fat,homely,or smelly? How big is too big, how old is too old,etc. I'm just curious because I've seen reviews that said they couldn't get off because of some problem with the provider.

And I always get the BEST service available. Some providers even return the donation and take me out for dinner. Most of them agree that they should be paying me. Life is good.

Although I am not a provider, an essential skill that a professional provider should possess is the ability to service nearly any client they choose to visit with regardless of some of the negative attributes mentioned in your question.

I remember reading a comment about a young man telling a friend in a crowded bar that he envied the positive side (money & plentiful sex) of providing. He felt that he would enjoy the line of work (being a male prostitute). His friend quickly challenged him to pick out the most unattractive woman in the bar and envision himself being able to service the woman. That reality is what he would need to come to grips with if he truly desired to enter the pleasure business.

In any case, the coping mechanism that most providers possess is the ability to focus on one positive attribute of a hobbyists' appearance. If they can identify something positive, it is much easier for them to engage themselves into provider mode for the session.

Ive had friends ask me if there were times I just couldnt see someone. Usually not. Not that I dont have standards, but I will "get through" the call and not see them again if it was THAT BAD. Looks are not important to me, what I can stand is someone who smells bad or doesnt take care of their hygiene. I will usually just suggest a shower. Its something you have to work on, to be, like the previous poster said, able to find the positive. That really helps. Also, to just make the most of it, and like I said, if they really just arent ok with you, you just dont see them again, but thats only when Im more or less "creeped out" by them.

But if they're smokers, drinkers  have bad hygiene as well as a bad attitude
I don't grin and bear it. I decline the appointment and tell them to leave just as some gentlemen will show up at a providers Incall and do the same thing. If I'm not having fun neither will you.

I have no thoughts that I am Gods gift and have no problem if a lady doesn't want to see me a again.  Just don't tell me I am welcome to contact you again when you don't want to see me.  Ladies just have the balls to let me know.   My .02, but seems like good buisness practice to me.

..... oh luv the only time i've had someone I just couldn't service it was because they were a dick (which is saying a lot because I can let even a little 'tude slide genuinely with a smile and i don't offend easy either).  It was 100% because of personality/actions not looks.  Too old or too big i've yet to meet.

Usually when the door opens I hear a shriek, or a fall to the ground crying "Oh god put me out of my misery", but that was just my ex-wife.

I always fear doing the opposite. I don't think I have ever showered so much in my life until I entered this scene. If I think that I won't see someone for more than an hour I shower again, using TWO different soaps. Worse is I always put on cologne, then forget I have no sense of smell so thus no clue to if I put too much on. Maybe I should just bring the cologne with and let the girl apply it

Yes this is an interesting thought. I do wonder at times if the other person finds my manly 6'5" 210 linebacker frame repulsive (OK I lied, more like....oh keyboard problems). Maybe more precisely others are as pathetic as I am in having really narrow tastes, or weird tastes. I know poor Natalia has had to suffer through all my weird stories (poor girl, someone needs to give her a hug) about my narrow minded tastes. So I do wonder sometimes if I am exact opposite of what they would find even as acceptable. But in the end you do the best you can do. Don't show up slobbering drunk, don't be rude, offensive, and insulting, and yes this may not be a "date" but there is no reason why one can't wear some nice clothes. Your not trying to impress her to fall in love with you, you are trying to impress her that you are worth her time to see again, or if need be go that extra mile we all need sometimes.

I have a face that frightens small children and a body as soft as an end of session tallywacker, however..... I'll typically shower when I get there, have a small penis and don't last very long.
I've been told these are all very redeeming qualities and have been invited back.

It really isn't about looks and that is an amazing skill I obtained upon providing.  You learn to like people for who they truly are and I suppose that will help tremendously in "real world dating" later in life.  After a while the old "your type" becomes a new "your type".  I am super attracted to an intelligent mind.
However, I have had some fellas that needed a shower.  When it's 115 F outside, it doesn't matter if you just showered....You can break a sweat from the car to the room.    So I just ask them to join me for a little shower foreplay=Nice way of saying wash your balls please.  I also refuse to see somebody that is drunk or crazy from drugs.  A few drinks-no problem.  Drunk-problem.  Just not my thing to deal with a crazy person that has altered behavior from a substance.

I hate it when you guys talk about me

I can find attractive qualities in almost everyone I see.  For some, I might find his sense of humor sexy...for the next, it might be his intelligence that turns me on...the next, I can get lost in his baby blue eyes and MELT!  Or maybe it is his commitment and love of his job/family.  All fine qualities!

I have only had to refuse two gents....both got a bit rough and hurt me.

I've never discriminated based on size, age, race, religion, or, LOL, because he was "homely"!  Smelly...there is a fix to that (soap and a shower) so even that is not a deal breaker, in and of itself.

I do worry that a provider might have an issue with my weight (I'm about 350 lbs.) or my hygiene (when you're big, it isn't always easy to reach everything that needs cleaning). The latter I can control - if the provider's incall has a shower, then I'll take the first 10 minutes of our meeting to clean up. At the very least it makes me more comfortable.

As for the weight, well, as much as it stings sometimes to see a "no extremely overweight guys" rider in a Backpage ad, I'd much rather know before scheduling a session that the lady prefers svelter clients.

Judging by what I see in the mirror every morning, I am guessing that most providers develop a high degree of tolerance for us ogres. A fresh shower and mouthwash helps tremendously. I think Ive had one encounter where she wanted to turn the lights off but I got a glimpse of her naked when we were done and I dont think it was for her benefit as much as mine, lol.

....be far less judgmental.  I end up with someone who I may not have hooked up with in "civi-life" and then I get to know them and realize that I have been missing a lot of really fun, funny, and great guys with awesome personalities.  I try to find the good in everyone, too.

For me, it all comes down to the cleanliness thing and respect.  A sense of humor is a great plus!  I have now met men from all walks of life, with unique life stories, and I have enjoyed getting to know every single one of my clients.  All  of the above is a "perk" of this biz that I did not expect upon first becoming a provider.

Unless they come out with a magazine about overweight middle-aged men!  Yet the ladies see me anyway so I guess I'm doing something right.

if ther is an EMOTIONAL/INTELLECTUAL disconnect.....that makes it really difficult.
LOOKS? I DO NOT GIVE A SHIT.....as long as you know how to dine at the Y......I dont give a SHIT what the FUCK you LOOK like......

LOOKS ARE OVER RATED!!!!!!     xoxo

For the ones who dont think they can cut the mustard any more,its sooo much fun to lick the jar.

What vulgar language I use! I sound like a truck driver when Im enjoying my fine wine.....
So embarrassing!
I will try hard to clean up my act!! Well, sort of hard.....not really hard.....

be warned! I use the  F word a lot when it's good!! And while Im teaching you!

One of my fave pussy eating DVD's :  http://bestsexpositions.com/free-videos/seymore-butts-how-to-eat-pussy-like-a-champ/

It was horrific I have never smelt someone from a distance like this in my life but seriously once he started talking to me he was so sweet and so nice I couldn't judge him. So I guess my answer is most of the time ugly, overwieght or stinky clients alot of times see escorts because they are self conscious why would I judge them when they don't judge me.



Kyla