Don't ask me for the name of the lady in question because it will not be forthcoming.

I agree with you 100%  it would seem like the provider would have to pay very close attention to the clock.
 (and if I were you that's what would have me reconsider, nobody wants to feel rushed)  
Sooo much to do between visits: one would need to get clean, clean area, change sheets ect. She must be super mmmm.....efficient.  

I would have been turned off by the up-sell and I would have canceled if that happened. In fact, I think the information in every provider's profile should be spot-on accurate and a provider should provide those things that are stated in her profile; otherwise, in my opinion, it's a case of false advertising. I think many of us base our selections on what we read in a provider's profile. So, if a particular provider states in her profile that she offers multiple pops, then she should always offer multiple pops! Nothing is more disappointing than leaving a session with the feeling that she didn't offer to you what she readily would to someone else. I can understand if a provider doesn't want to do certain things during a session with a client if it's a matter of poor hygiene or something else that is a concern to her. If a provider wouldn't want to see me for some reason, then I'd rather be rejected at her door than experience a session that she is obviously not into.

If your appointment was for 4:30 and the previous client just left at 4:29, that leaves no time for a shower and cleanup.
The gross factor just went up by  a factor of 100!  Most providers schedule at least a half hour between appts just for this purpose.  How about clean sheets?  Sounds like a BP lady. Also, sounds like you get what you pay for!

In regard to back-to-back appointments: yeah, that's a huge turn-off and I'd rather have to wait before an appointment for the provider to get clean and change sheets (I hope that happens more than I think!) before opening up the door.  

If she's running back-to-back sessions, with the clear implication that there was someone else after you, then how is there going to be time for a 90 minute session?  And why if you are running late wouldn't she just have said that session would still end at 5:30 because she was busy?

That's the part that doesn't sit well with me either .

... to see things from her point of view. My own life experience has been when someone I've never met warns me (s)he might be ten or fifteen minutes late, I had better plan on waiting 45 or 50 minutes. And any complaint that the delay was excessive gets met with a shrug. Having warned me, (s)he feels like there is no further obligation to be timely.  

I have no issue with my arriving 15 minutes late and the lady limited my one hour appointment to 45 minutes.  That's business.  A lady REQUIRING that I pay for 1-1/2 appointment will not get any of my business.  Ever.

My assumption, from the way the OP was phrased, is that he warned her he might be late and made it clear he still wanted a full hour. If I am correct, then for the reasons stated I think her response was reasonable and would not preclude me from seeing her.

I have been late, caught in traffic or what ever.  If I am 10 min late then my hour is now 50 min.  If I am booked from 8pm to 9 pm and I get there late I am still leaving at 9pm.  Unless the provider intended to burn this client her decision was very poor judgement.  

Thanks for replying Mindy, I'm not at all a frequent flyer here if you follow me, and it seems there isn't a global conscensus on certain aspects of client/provider etiquette, so I appreciate the input.  

I can understand a massage only provider doing that because they do often book back to back .
The other thoughts I have could be that she had to change the time for another client or possibly cancel them altogether in order to accommodate you so maybe not so much greedy but rather trying to make up for the lost appointment ? Who knows.
But it's your choice either way . I'll also agree that yes good customer service and good client/provider communication is a rarity as of lately . - V

Reading this post reminds me of an encounter  with a provider who I saw when I first entered this hobby many years ago. She was very attractive and very nice. I scheduled an hour with the gal. Twenty minutes into the session I was still impotent and explained to her that it was my first time and that continuing would only be a waste of her time. What she do? She hugged me and walked me to the door without wanting anything from me. I actually left a gift for her because, after all, she did her best to make things work that day. Now that is unusual for a provider to not expect a gift after that much time together!

You said you would have been her last appt.....then that means her next "appt" was either to go home, get kids from school,  go to an event, go to the gym....any number of things.  Some ladies are able to change their real life schedule if they can cover the extra cost of doing so (such as extra daycare, etc.   Maybe that is what she was trying to do without giving you too much personal info???    

She should always offer multiple pops just because the first reviewer says he got multiple pops????   Really?
Last time I checked, the providers body is hers alone and SHE says who gets what and who doesn't.   WO

It didn't add up in general. If she couldn't accommodate me for 60 mins at 5, how could I be accomodated at 4:45 for 90?

...and the minute I start to consider all of these possibilities, my interest starts to wane. So canceling was the only thing I could do.

you have said 3 different times now.  430, 445, and 5.    And, hence, very likely the ladies request that you book 90 min.  
Too often  5-10 min late turns into 30-45 min or more.  Either way, we have no idea what the lady was thinking since we heard only from you.  

You didn't mention how much time before your scheduled time was before you asked about possibly arriving late. This may have played a role in her decision and/or attitude in dealing with you. There was a time that I knew I was going to be dealing with slow traffic due to weather conditions and I emailed with nearly 2 hours warning that I intended to keep my time but that I may be running late. The response I got was one of gratitude for the heads up. In the end, I was right on time and the provider and I enjoyed our time together.

If your communication with her leaves you not feeling it there is no sense wasting your money.

Many of us do stay late at our jobs without additional pay.  Many positions are classified as exempt, meaning there is no overtime pay.

... If your late and want a full hour shes now staying til 6 instead of 530.. And she assumed you may be 30 min late.

It would have been akward asking for money in that situation but she kind of deserved it. She maybe should have given half or so back but really wouldn't have been out of line keeping it.  

Nah I did specifically say I wouldn't be any more than 10 mins late at the most. The more I think about it, this was a problem with her running appointments back to back. Just my impression, it's the only way it makes sense for me. I didn't even say that I would still expect the full hour. I just wanted her to know that if I was late, because it would have been a first time and she didn't know me, that I wasn't a NCNS.

Well, I was new at the hobby and she knew it before I set up appointment. Anyway, after I entered the her door things just kind of naturally progressed. No, she didn't ask for the donation before our session (which ism't unusual, is it? Although now days I I offer the donation first thing). And she is a kind gal. Yes, I gave her the donation anyway.

I'm just not quite sure how forcing someone to get more time would help her in getting clients in and out.  

There's nothing in the OP to make me think he's asking her to extend his session, say from 4:45-5:45, because he MIGHT be late. But there's also nothing to indicate that he's not asking for that either. Too many unknown facts obviously and only the words from one side.

in fact, usually longer hours are discounted