In the past several weeks I have seen commentary by hobbyists indicating while looking for a provider one of the things they look for is if they screen for compatibility. (not in this forum) I am curious to hear the opinions of ladies & gents here in beautiful Minnesota.

looking forward to reading your replies!

Luv ya!
Leann

How does one screen for compatibility?

The term "screening" is (generally) a term reserved for providers.

Hobbyists research (e.g., reviews, blogs, discussion board comments, images, videos).

Providers screen (e.g., law enforcement, previous poor behavior).

In any event, hobby choices are driven by the innate (single or combination) preferences or triggers (e.g., age of provider, body type of provider, race or ethnic heritage of provider, price or value of service) of each individual hobbyist

I want to be with someone I click with. That can be accomplished by reading reviews and board posts, they can give a snap shot of ones personality. It's probably not as important to the guys that just want to get on and get off but I want more than that in my companion.

I agree.  I try to figure out what kind of match we would be because if we click well I seem to have a better time.  From my viewpoint, some ladies try to do the same.  Others not so much.  In that case it's simply the envelope that seems to be  important.  I try to avoid those situations as that environment just isn't for me.  Guess that's why there's such a variety of ladies and gents.  Always can find like philosophies somewhere.

I don't necessarily make a point of looking for compatibility but if her reviews and posts intrigue me then I am definitely more likely to try and see her.  But it's not a priority for a 1st visit.  Now, if we get along well then I am much more likely to become a repeat visitor.

On the other hand I have seen provider reviews, posts, and ads that had the opposite effect and led me to rule out seeing someone because they displayed an attitude I felt was annoying or risky.

That's about the best you can do when deciding to meet someone for the first time. You look at the web site, read the reviews, see what piques your interest. For some it may be easier to find compatibility with someone closer to their own age but that doesn't always matter. If you do have it the first time you meet you are much more likely to repeat as it enhances the overall experience.  

But I have found out if you go with you're gut  you're going to come out alright. Nearly 3 years ago when I was "researching"one day I came across a new review that looked interesting to me. She was in the right age area, menu was "interesting" physical attributes intriguing. She had about 13 or 14 reviews that were excellent but not much of a web site at the time and no usable photos (she has a great site and photos now). It felt right though so I took the plunge. Well when I met her I was completely blown away. Never in my wildest dreams did I expect to experience what I did that day and needless to say I went back and continued to go back and WILL continue to see her.
So you just never know what you'll find on the other side of that door.

I do not have any idea who you are referencing. Please share her name.

My disability actually help with this because every provider I contact in the first couple of email I have to have a very "serious/professional"/respectful conversation about whether they are comfortable with helping the with certain things related to my disability getting in and out of bed/protection on off/helping me clean up afterwards. But rather than being all "serious/sad about it. I try to make it fun for them and laugh at myself. This is a very good screening tool for compatibility because this has to go on. Usually for several correspondence before we even get to the "dirty details of the engagement, and their response during the initial conversations help me figure out whether we are compatible or not.

Just my two cents

...it's pretty easy to get along with someone for an hour and if things should click between the two of you then you both can look forward to repeat visits. Anything more, like meeting informally without the sexy time to see if there's some type of attraction, seems to be overthinking this whole thing a bit. Neither of us is looking for a LTR outside of our pay for play quest. There's hardly any woman that I've seen that I wouldn't want to repeat with.

....a half hour of talk time in a public place before the first session, but she does not charge for this half hour.  She states that the client is free to cancel the session if the vibes are not there, and that she reserves the right to do so, as well.  Interesting approach.  Probably not practical for most ladies, since getting gussied up, traveling to a client, etc., would be too much investment of time and $$ to justify such a policy.  But, it seems to work with this lady.

Here in the U.S., I always have enjoyed it if we've established a small rapport via a few e-mails before the first session.  (Since I'm an "old guy," I prefer e-mails over texting!)

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Hobbyist don't only use physical traits to choose a provider .... I get requests that state how much they have enjoyed getting to know my personality on here and want to book. Personality and how you handle yourself definitely add to the intrigue, on both sides. There are some personalities on here and twitter or the manner in which we communicate that make me curious as well.

If I don't click with them it feels forced & reflects on the session & I don't think anyone wants that .
 Although I get along with most people I play with,
I'll turn away from a crabby pants or skeptic without batting an eyelash.
 I'd say it plays a somewhat large part in the experience for me.
- V.

I was surprised that the commentary I saw on the other forums was against the idea & ruled out ladies that exercise this form of screening. That's why I posed the question here. Nice to see folks here in our fine state aren't quite so shallow.

I chose to settle into the GFE way of providing for a reason. As a woman that has opted to remain single there is that void that no child, relative, or friend can fill. The desire for male/female intimacy. I still crave that but like many hobbyists who engage in this industry I don't want the potential drama, extra baggage or commitment that can come with relationships so having an intimate connection is what's most important to me. In short. I'm looking for a BFE in every date I accept. You can pass the typical screening protocol but if during the phone call (I require before seeing anyone) I either don't feel any level of interest or I get an uneasy feeling that's where it ends.

It was mentioned that spending an hour with someone you can "get along with" is easy. I beg to differ. I can "get along with" my worst enemy but I assure you it's not "easy." You also have to remember YOU are hiring me to provide YOU with satisfaction. Not visa versa. I'm sure it is easy to receive a BJ from someone you're not interested in but try having to give that BJ & convince someone you've no desire for that (s)he is what you crave. It's awkward & uncomfortable & I have a difficult time believing gents don't sense it when that happens. I just refuse to believe anyone is that naive or stupid.

You boyz aren't forking out chump change & I believe you deserve the best experience possible. For me to do that I HAVE to have a desire big or small for you or it will reflect in my performance. I recently discontinued my 2 for 1 contest because it took my choice away & I had a session that was difficult to get through. I'm sure he sensed my discomfort & that wasn't fair to him.

Ok. I'm rambling. Hmm.... for a gal who hates typing I sure gave this here keyboard a workout. Hehe!

Thanks for sharing your thoughts folks & have an amazing week!  

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