I guess guys too if you have some helpful insight.

There is one provider that I have tried to contact on many occasions since December(not more than once per week). From what I can see she is beautiful and she has great reviews. I sent a P411 request, sent an email, called her phone number(s) a few times (left one voice mail message) and then left a message on P411 with a string of dates I would make myself available if she had time, going out a few months. I've watched my P's and Q's and I'm always respectful.

I've gotten no response of any kind. I'm trying to figure out if I crossed some kind of line. Maybe after so many failed attempts to contact a lady, we are instantly registered in the whacko, phycho stalker list?

I dunno. I guess I may just have to chalk her off as a lost cause unless there is something I've overlooked in the "Hobby Handbook".

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Unfortunately this is all too common. For whatever reason many providers are simply not responsive for no apparent reason. Given the nature of their profession I think there is a lack of natural accountability in the sense "the market" will punish them.

However, forums like this can provide a means to at least reward the ones that are responsive and professional and I would encourage all of us to do so...

Some among us just don't give references or wish to talk.  I'm migrating to the same....myself.

Let it go.

It sounds like she's not interested in seeing you.

I could be wrong, who knows.

If that IS the case, she should be courteous enough to just say "no thank you" so you will know to move on.

I would quit trying to contact her and try someone else.

Just my opinion.

Hugs,
D.

Your timing may have just been really lousy; she's been very busy at the times you tried to reach her and she's not real good at getting back to people some times, etc.  And yes, it's possible she's bothered for some reason by your attempts.  Sometimes it takes a long time to break through with someone you want to see.  Sometimes it never happens.  I suggest you put trying to contact her on the back burner for a while and try again in a few months if you are still interested.  Maybe the timing will be better then.

blah blah blah blah blah

Get over it.  Either she doesn't want to see you or you shouldn't want to see her.  That is the logical thought process.  Now I do understand obsessions but they can turn into restraining orders or stalking... again with the the logical. If I were your legal council I would tell you to find someone that looks like her and move on. OK I guess that I am bored.

Personally, I think it would be helpful if more ladies shared their (un)willingness to participate in the reference system to alleviate any confusion it might cause some hobbyists. Many times I receive emails from gents who use a particular provider as a reference. She does not respond to reference requests. It would save these men a lot of time when setting up meetings with new providers, if they knew this information about her. So, thank you for sharing your stance on being a part of the reference request system.

Xoxo.

I've gotten no response of any kind. I'm trying to figure out if I crossed some kind of line. Maybe after so many failed attempts to contact a lady, we are instantly registered in the whacko, phycho stalker list?

Dude see you in the psych ward.

CC: It sounds like you’ve done everything right in the "Hobby Handbook". And since she hasn’t reciprocated the effort you've put forth, it’s time to move on…

Honestly, you may not know if you did anything wrong in her eyes. There are several things that can turn a provider off. Of course these things vary from one provider to the next.

Below are just a few examples of reasons a provider might not be interested in or return a gent's email:

-Her site says she only accepts references. You emailed her without references.
-Your email only said "Hey. Can we hook up tonight?" "You available later, baby?" "Can I see you in Little Falls in an hour?" “Come to my outcall in St. Paul/Bloomington/5th St. Precinct in 30 minutes.” "Will you jump and trample on my dick?" "Hi. I'm John. I want a brown shower and that's all you need to know about me. Take it or leave it." “I know you don’t offer 30 minute sessions, but that’s all I can afford right now.” "I'm handsome, but I don't have references. If that doesn't work for you, there are other fish in the sea." Ok.
-She doesn’t care for the ladies on your reference or review list.
-You’re too young or old.
-She didn't like your initial email and subsequent emails simply became an irritant to her.
-She doesn't use verification sites.
-She just lost a family member and has no time to focus on new clients. Life is overwhelming enough as is.
-There was something about your physical description that turned her off.
-You yelled at her because she wouldn’t accept your references as golden.
-She might be prejudice against those named CarnalCry.
-And the list goes on.....

And, she just might be a flake. If that’s the case, contact one of the several professional escorts in the Minneapolis area. With the right lady, you won’t be disappointed.

Oh, and don’t ever expect a follow-up email stating why a lady is not interested in you, if that’s the case. After enough gents attempting to argue with me because I wasn’t interested, I stopped sending those “professional” follow-up emails. I’m certain many providers feel the same way.

Good luck.

I agree that he doesn't need a "follow-up email" stating  WHY she is not interested in him.

I do think the gentleman deserves a "follow-up email" telling him she IS NOT interested in him so he knows where he stands and can move on.

Maybe we are talking about two different things?

Great list Gia.  I think all providers can relate to a lot of them, and have many more to add.

Hugs,
D.

We should know.and I won't be seeing marie.

"Will you jump and trample on my dick?" AHAHAHA You mean that line really doesn't work? I seriously bust out laughing at that one...tell me someone hasn't actually said that to you.

Anyway, Giamarie thanks for the insightful list, and a good laugh. It sounds like you've had some interesting exchanges with people.

Marie, I don't completely understand your reply. I wasn't asking for a reference. I was just trying to arrange an appointment. If you think it was you I was trying to contact, it wasn't.

Golfersteve, should we be starting a club or something? Maybe it'll become a fad and we'll be the uber cool bunch. LOL

Thank You - Moving on...

Houston - we have a misunderstanding.  I will give references to any provider who asks.  I will not provide a reference to a provider who ignores my request for a reference.  That is the only thing I meant to say.  Here is a helpful hint to all hobbyists who need references.  If you are going to use a provider as a reference, ask her permission first.  I have had several hobbyists give me references of providers who don't give references.  Huge time waster.

That's why I was really confused with the post above.

I apologize for misreading it. I must admit that while I've excelled in math my entire life, I've never been the best at comprehension.

Forgive me hun.

Xoxo.

And while I enjoy accommodating others, I just couldn't imagine doing such a thing. I mean, wouldn't that hurt? OUCH!

I asked her back if she knew that I worked for Prudential, and that when she dealt with me she would be dealing with "a piece of the rock!"