Was wondering if anyone has ever had a monthly or bi weekly arrangement with a provider? If so pros and cons? Would you do it again? Ladies feel free to comment with your experience as well.

I have one provider that I have know for six years. She was twenty-two then and I have seen her many times. For the past year and a half I have been seeing her every two weeks and am her only client as she now has a professional job. I saw her twenty-five times this past year.  

Plus, that way the guy is financially strapped to the woman, but she can see others.  I never quite understood this. But..... I'll sit back and wait to read the replies because I am sure I am about to be schooled.

Several years ago I asked a massage provider if she was interested in a long term mistress thing and we came up with a 3 month arrangement.  I saw her twice a week until she went away to grad school.  I got what amounted to 4 essentially free (if you don't count dinner/theater/movie) dates a month and she got a guaranteed income -- I gave her the money upfront each month.  I also got a great friend, although I lost track of her after she graduated.  And the dates were off the clock.  And and and...

If I could find someone like her again I would jump straight back on.

You lock her in a cage when you leave the home ?  Just curious.

Too busy to give upfront cash.  I used to see providers when I had time, plus it's a drive.  I felt that if I paid upfront, there would be months in which I couldn't get away....hence, a waste of money on my part.  Through experience, bad and good, my eyes opened to the pull of variety.

How did your arrangement work out, though, financially?  For example, if her standard hourly rate was $150, did you pay her $600 up front and get four hours plus your "dates"? Or did you pay more so the dates would be included?  Did the dates include anything more?

im interested.... lets talk

Questions have been flooding in, so excuse me if I don't get back to everyone.

The cost was significantly less than half of what it would have been singly for multiple hour GFE sessions.  I paid a fixed sum at the beginning of each month.  

There's no template -- people and needs are different, but there are real benefits to both parties in this sort of arrangement.  For the provider maybe it's a guaranteed check in advance and a reduction of the unpaid extra hassle of advertising/set up/admin/screening.  

For both, there's the relaxation and fun that can come with a steady fuck buddy  We really looked forward to seeing each other and were sad when it was over.

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I had a situation a few years ago where we literally became very good friends. But she wanted out of the hobby which probably made our friendship different than the arrangement you had.  I helped her with a number of things including going back to school.  But we never had a flat fee or really discussed the money. I helped her out many times in many ways.  Sometimes she and her daughter would just come over and we'd watch kids movies and grill.  Sure do miss having her around.  Nice when we have lunch and recall the good old days.

To be blunt, we started out with an agreement for FS twice a week with payment made in advance.
She continued to provide body rubs to others.

It got more involved than that, not surprisingly given the frequency and that we liked each other.

I wouldn't. Almost  have  to expect she's going to have as many arrangements  as she can handle. That's why I wonder what's  in it for the guy? Why not just pay per date?

From hearing about other guys who are into the SD/SB world, your arrangement sounded very much like theirs.  But whatever you want to call it, sounds like you both really enjoyed it and that's the main thing.

I've had them before & I have one right now, however I will caution BOTH parties make sure you clearly state how much time is on the table, even if you enjoy every minute w/this person & you're both free to see others whenever & as much as you want, if one party feels taken advantage of it can lead to resentment & this is NOT ever good.
                   While there's many (& fairly obvious) reasons for the provider to make this offer-  
Provider: beware of people pleasing .....
off the clock shouldn't mean he's  squeezing in non agreed upon days & extra hours, when I present any agreement I consider the financial aspect deeply, I pride myself on fair, direct & honest behaviour, YET I know my value.
 this is a VERY tricky balance ESPECIALLY when you really like someone....so like I say -make sure your time is clearly defined, & maybe check in now & then with one another to make sure you both are feeling good about it...resentment is a bad thing you don't want any of it on either side,
                              I've been in the scenario where I layout a very good offer, bewildered, I was left wondering if I somehow skewed this persons opinion of me (since the offer was so deeply discounted) has me thinking for some -the old adage you get what you pay for could run so deep that it's subconcience, guys check w/yourselves having an agreement shouldn't change how you think of her, this is supposed to be light, upbeat & fun....know it for what it is.  

Guys: beware if you know she's going to go off clock but she gave a lose outline of time try your best to stick w/it, also IMHO a very classy move is to bring a gift or tip it helps to keep the outline strong & just shows appreciation, one of the guys I've done this with showed me that,  nothing extravagant, but boy it's true- those that feel appreciated WILL often do their best to exceed expectations!  
u know who u R -luv ya!
                           TRUST is huge w/ this kind of thing a guy shouldn't ever feel he needs to make sure to get his $'s worth by expecting more in the first two dates or hours of the month, you should know the provider well enough to trust the agreed upon availability & as long as nobody has any of these issues it can be a VERY beautiful thing.  

Sorry this turned out so long, but hey maybe I helped some of you that are considering this. Happy hobby-ing

 
P.S IMHO the difference between these agreements & SD/SB is simple -honesty: knowing full well you both are free & able to see others.  

 

 

Mindy- Your contributions are intelligent and positive and always appreciated by me.

An awesome gentleman that I've had (not this specific arrangement) at times certain arrangements with, he also knows how to make a gal feel special...
Ahhhh so many fine men, so little time in a week lol  

...and a few days apart.  Thanks for the perspective.  (To the other readers, I do not know Mindy- have never seen her.)

Given what you wrote, do I correctly infer that for you an arrangement is a certain number of hours or an allotted time each month paid in advance at a reduced rate?  And when time is up....time is up?  You noted that it is nice for guys to give a gift now and then.  Nice touch.  But is there any reciprocation?  Does the provider ever give extra time for the nice touch?  What if there is some falling out or the provider decides she's out of the biz? Is the guy out the $$ he paid upfront?  (Notice I used the term provider to keep this about the scenario.  I do not in any way want this to be about Mindy or her specific situation....just about the topic because other than a discount for paying upfront, I just see this as the usual pay to play.)

An interesting side note to this.  I was contacted by a provider, whom I will NOT name- ever- not even via PM, so please don't ask.  We swapped communications about perhaps having an arrangement. I have never met this girl but have seen her ads.  We were going to meet for dinner (on me) to discuss details of an arrangement.  Not long before the scheduled dinner, she asked me how much I was going to compensate her for her time at dinner.  Huh?  I don't even know you or know for sure if I want an arrangement with you or what the details would be.  She wanted $100 just to meet to discuss.  (Just so you know, she's a massage girl, not one of the classy women who commands $400/hr.)  My time is equally valuable.  I mean, I could be meeting with another girl or doing something else.  What's to say it wouldn't be a free dinner, $100, and adios?  The way I see it, this was to be a business meeting to discuss a situation that would be beneficial to both. Why am I paying? I'm buying dinner.  If I could charge my clients just to discuss something that might benefit them... well, I'd have retired years ago!  Any way, the dinner didn't work.  She let me know she's not an escort but wanted $2k-$5k per month for an arrangement.  Not an escort.  But you want $25k-$60k a year to do what?  Watch TV with me?  I never learned what I'd have gotten for my money.  Didn't really expect any details in communication though to be honest. Just humored me.  

Glad you got a good arrangement, Mindy.

mature or business savy enough to deal.  Bad idea around these parts.