How does one decide something was off the menu?  And if you got the service then it wasn't it on the menu?  I've never met a provider who gave me a menu.  Are providers required to do the same things with everyone?  

What's a reviewer supposed to do, lie?  (Let's see, I got a BBBJ but I'll say it was CBJ.)  

Do you have examples where a provider was upset?

Most likely just BS.

Most of the times the provider will say that she doesn't usually "do that", and that is telling me that I should not put it in a review.
I have been asked by CBJ providers not to tell anyone that I just came in her mouth

You can't always fault a reviewer for putting something in a review that is not a normal service offered by the provider. There are times when providers do expand their menus and fail to update their own profiles. Providers also have the opportunity to ask that something not be put into a review.

If the provider does not want BBBJ or anal in her reviews, then don't do it. If she does do it and says nothing, then she has only herself to blame.

However, I fail to see the motive that a hobbyist would have to do that after he received extras. That makes little sense. One would be inclined to think that he would be grateful for that CIM or facial

I still believe that it is rarely done to damage a provider, but it could happen.

 

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3-4 times now I've heard the complaint that someone posted a review that stated they received something the provider doesn't do. Most commonly greek or BBBJ. Then you'll usually see 'YMMV' in the review, basically leaving everyone that sees it thinking it's BS.

If you actually got that service, and it made you happy, great! But why would you want to upset a provider that did something off the menu for you? Do you want to make sure no one else ever gets that?

Hmmm.....

More likely just BS.

Are we not to describe our experience? If something was provided, it was provided. We are doing a disservice to each other if we don't share details - then what's the use? If you're not going to give all the details, then just skip the review.

this is a review board. It is here for the Hobbyists, so they know what to expect when they see a certain Provider. This board is not for the Provider, it is for hobbyists, we let Providers use it and partake in it, but it is for Hobbyists.

Exactly ! like the providers who do or don't do stuff and then they don't want them to be on the review and specials or different rates than in the profile ... lol

Re: Why do guys post reviews with details that the provider isn't comfortable with?

That was my question. Why would you do it if you knew it'd make them mad?

So far people seem to be saying the review has to be pin-point precise. I'm not buying that.

I think it's either a) an ego thing or b) they made it up.

Plain and simple. I write an  accurate review unless I have been specifically asked not to for a good reason. I don't go over my review with the provider and ask if it is ok.

I believe it most often happens because the guy doesn't think things through and realize that every other guy who reads that review is likely to want that extra service that maybe she only provides for certain favored clients or she just felt like it on the spur of the moment.

The extras I have gotten I do not put in the reviews.  Why?  Because it will annoy her because other guys will ask for it and be unhappy they don't get it and she's not very likely to keep doing it for me.  And it's not going to do the other guys who read it any good anyway.

I allways ask if the lady would like a review and only one time has anybady ask that I don"t mention something. otherwise it"s fair game if you ask me.

...if all the reviewers who are getting extras are getting the same extras from the same provider who tells each of them, "I don't usually do this."

It doesn't help the TER rejects reviews, even more so for newbies, that aren't juicy enough. I think a reviewer should be allowed to review in his own way and rejected only for name calling, etc.

You keep saying something will make them mad but give no evidence.  Speaking of making something up...

"I'm only doing this for you, so don't tell anyone."  I assume that if a provider performs an act (or lets me do something) that it is part of her normal service.  Therefore, it never occurred to me not to truthfully report what happened.

If she did say I don't normally provide BBBJ or some other service, I guess I would consider the idea that I shouldn't report it.

The issue is not the hobbyist making up things.  The issue is the hobbyist telling the truth.  I agree the reviewer should not state things that didn't happen but that is not the issue being discussed.

I also have had many providers tell me that what she just allowed me was not the norm.  Later I would ask, do you want me to leave that out of the review then?  As often as not, the answer is no, its ok.

Remember that if you are seen as a potential regular, or if you are a regular, you may very well get special treatment but its also very possible that its her standard practice yet she just want you to feel special.  

Just the same there have been providers whose actual menu is less open than her reviews might suggest. A typical explanation might be - "well the reviews are bullshit".

Agreed that's and issue.

I think I've had as many rejected as I've had accepted.  No consistent explanation for that either.  Very good--and very bad reviews have both been refused.

That said I don't let that frustration weigh in on this matter.

It's simple enough for me--just ask the provider if they'd care if you write a review!  If you have had a great time--or even a fair representation of their stated service--that's the respectful way to do it IMO.

Some well reviewed gals occasionally want to stay UTR.  Completely, or they may not want to do for everyone what they did for you.  

If they've been very bad experience--rip-off, didn't offer what they said they would, dramatic upsell etc...then I'd go ahead and write without even being asked.

Good luck getting it accepted though....

Your thread title was
Why do guys post reviews with details that the provider isn't comfortable with?

It wasn't
Why do guys post reviews with things that were made up?

If I'm going to write a bad review, I just write it without any mention of the impending review to the provider herself. This is for the benefit of fellow hobbyists.

If I'm going to write a positive review and the services I received were beyond what I saw in previous reviews (usually kissing or bbbj), I ask the provider if she would like a review and, if so, was there anything in the session that she would not like me to report.  The providers almost always want a review as she obviously knows it will be positive given my demeanor during and after the session.  Regarding the menu items, most of the time she says to write what I want.  However, several times a provider has asked me not to list the kissing, bbbj, bls, fingers inside, etc.  I do as asked and everyone is happy.  I'm happy.  The provider is happy as she is getting a positive review yet won't be pressured to perform services that she wants to be selective about.  Finally, and most importantly, fellow hobbyists are happy in that they choose to see her based on the info consistent in all the reviews, so no disappointments.  However, they may even be extra happy like me when they have a great time with the expanded menu.

This is all pretty basic, as I see it.

You chose your nickname wisely. ~YAWN~

Facts are a bitch, aren't they.

c_mon C'MON some guys post some things they know full well a provider won't be cool with and it poses a huge headache for her.  She gives a guy a little extra time then all the others after EXPECT IT, she swallowed his cum and everyone else expects it, she gave him greek no charge etc etc etc

Yes yes yes for the hobbyists by the hobbyists but we (the providers) get the "butt" of it all good or bad.