With regards to Where Do We Find Ourselves in the Grand Plan, Ladies also have interesting tales to tell! I know some people are interested, because they ask, and others really are not. They don't ask, or don't listen to the answer even if they do.
A while ago I saw a movie called "The American" where George Clooney plays a man who cannot risk relationships because he is a hit man. So he sees Ladies, and in one town finds a woman he begins to see regularly. Still, even when he would rather leave the brothel alone than see anyone other than her, he later tells her in bed something to the effect of, "Don't pretend with me. I am here for my pleasure, not yours."
Does that seem harsh? Maybe, maybe not! For some in the hobby, that is exactly all they want and are asking of the meeting. Those are the ones who do not ask for a history, or ask but do not listen. But remember, it's a two sided coin! Ladies also can be of the extremes... wanting or not wanting the time spent together to be more than just about one thing. I believe most of us fall somewhere in the middle. Naturally.
Regardless, I find that the variety and honesty of the Pay for Play concept is good. Every meeting, from new friends to well known friends, is a unique adventure. Generally I feel there is a lack of judgement but then again maybe I'm just lucky. Lack of judgement may be part of what is Paid for, after all!
Interesting thoughts, tmt!
XO
Wendy
Was it a prgressive thing or did you know what you wanted from the beginning?
From the strret meeting for $20bj if she didn't get out of the car with your money and run off. Massage parlor with a sensual tease leaving you wanting more...continued appearances to maybe have her let you self serve and satisfy an exhibitionist in you? All the way to the top with xxxsrars with 1200/h tags or even the 10,000/hr girl that only the affluent frequent.
Is it innocense that started it and the urge that kept you going? Was/is it the excitement of the chase and unknown part of the expeirence that keeps it alive?
I know for me the fist time was purelu of chance, no searching by me, just a chance meeting with a payment at the end with a WOW did that really happen to me? Certainly one of my memorable experienes and happinings like continue to be at the back of my mind when ever I travel or go out on the town. I love the chance meeting, the unknown, the being the chased and not the chaser.
Yes I do occasionnally try to get the one that is NOT supposed to be available, sometimes a good thing sometimes embarrassing or a not so good ending.
I must say, these attempts of the unknown have netted me some unbeliebable non pay for play evenings as well, dangerous in their own way-might be a married lady or some other lady that could could make things uncomfy, but OH the hot encounter seems to trump any thought of what could happen later.
I have to make comment about some things I read here as for the lack of good providers here in Minnesota, bullshit, you are not looking in the right places! The NCNS, seems to get the goat of many, and baffles me to say the least. You you want a sure thing, Minnesota has some of the most dependable around. Oh but the Unknown prods at some and they want the unknown without the risk...makes everything humorous if nothing else!
Play on everyone, share if you like, we come here to read the stories, the accolades and the I CAN"T belive it happened to me events, good or bad!
With regards to Where Do We Find Ourselves in the Grand Plan, Ladies also have interesting tales to tell! I know some people are interested, because they ask, and others really are not. They don't ask, or don't listen to the answer even if they do.
A while ago I saw a movie called "The American" where George Clooney plays a man who cannot risk relationships because he is a hit man. So he sees Ladies, and in one town finds a woman he begins to see regularly. Still, even when he would rather leave the brothel alone than see anyone other than her, he later tells her in bed something to the effect of, "Don't pretend with me. I am here for my pleasure, not yours."
Does that seem harsh? Maybe, maybe not! For some in the hobby, that is exactly all they want and are asking of the meeting. Those are the ones who do not ask for a history, or ask but do not listen. But remember, it's a two sided coin! Ladies also can be of the extremes... wanting or not wanting the time spent together to be more than just about one thing. I believe most of us fall somewhere in the middle. Naturally.
Regardless, I find that the variety and honesty of the Pay for Play concept is good. Every meeting, from new friends to well known friends, is a unique adventure. Generally I feel there is a lack of judgement but then again maybe I'm just lucky. Lack of judgement may be part of what is Paid for, after all!
Interesting thoughts, tmt!
XO
Wendy
An interesting road, indeed. When I got started (under a different ID) the impetus was a severe void of intimacy in my life, due to a broken down relationship. While I have been unable to walk away from that relationship due to several complications which aren't relevant here, the resulting lack of intimacy was by far the worst part. And by intimacy, I am referring to touch, conversation, gentle caresses (both ways) and an escape from all that was crumbling around me. It's hard to beat the feeling of a soft and nice smelling woman...especially when they make you feel like there is nobody in the world that they would rather be with - not just that you are the 2:00 appointment.
While I was occasionally successful in finding said intimacy, one look at the (fictional) reviews I have chosen to write will reveal that I have also sought out providers where I knew going in that it was quite likely that there would be NO intimacy - i.e. shorter, less expensive liaisons. It's all a part of the process I suppose.
However, even in those instances, sometimes you just "click" with someone and intimacy comes from a place that you never, EVER would have expected and it completely blind sides you. I have also had that happen, and that has without a doubt been the most fulfilling experience I have had in the hobby. While I understand and respect the ground rules and boundaries of the provider/hobbyist relationship, I am happy to call this person my friend. And although I have no illusions of us being in a "relationship," for me, it has given me a glimpse of what a fulfilling sexual relationship could and should be like - as opposed to the dysfunctional one I have been involved with for far, far too long.
A provider that I was seeing on a regular basis was really working to keep me interested. But she was too into the facade of the business. One night I told her that she should surprise me by being naked when I arrived. She thought that this was a great idea until she thought it through. I think that she realized that I was asking to be with her, nothing else, no outfits, no props, just her. It never happened.
6 months ago I had 4 favorites on my ter account. 3 of the 4 have retired. Any other ladies looking to get out of the business?
In the movies you see men like Steven Segal, and Mel Gibson play a cop that puts his family at risk or other careers that might leave a relationship in turmoil, great point! When that one person of the opposite sex just turns your head or takes your breathe away it is very difficult not to stray from the hobby rules!
With marriages with such a short shelf life, it seems less likely that men see escorts only to fill a gap in relations. It also would suggest that men are the only ones in the game for that reason. I wonder if women see escorts for the same reason or possibly become escorts for that reason. maybe with different motives, but for the same motive. A man may do the hobby scene while deciding on divorce and/or bettween relationships possibly. The lady may get in the hobby for the same reason or possibly to get some quick cash to pay for the divorce and start a new. it would explain some of the very short lived men and women experiencing and leaving.
Those speak of the short term, how about the long term? their have been men and women in the hoby for quite a few years, one can only imagine what continues to drive them in the hobby. I have read here some of the vast changes others have experienced over the last 20-50 years!
I am looking forward to watching the changes over the next 20 or so years maybe longer if I live to be very old, it has been an exciting roller coaster ride so far!
Who here looks for the newest and most exhilerating rides coming out? I for one can not resist the newest roller coasters. Hands up everyone, the ride is awesome!
A great thought-provoking topic.
I've given this topic considerable, deep, introspection. I've analyzed this from many different angles, and considered my upbringing, my past relationship experiences, my emotional and physical needs, and my present personal situation. I've tried to take into account my financial capacity, while prioritizing the various demands made on both one's time and finances.
After conducting this inward looking exercise I have reached the conclusion that I'm here because I really like blowjobs.
You'll pay dearly and hunt long and hard for an outstanding BJ even in the hobby! LOL It is deffinately there, but certainly not by all the ladies available. Seems it takes a LOT of practice and even more "want to"! I mean if you are looking for the action and the finish to the gulp!
Well, I suppose I sort of had one when I got started, which was to end my celibacy streak. Mission accomplished many times over!
But that plan has changed over time in response to my experiences. There was no way I could have possibly known what I was getting myself into when I started this. The overall experience has been far better than I expected because I simply did not know how much was possible. Nowadays I do things in a number of different ways. Sometimes I want to see someone new because they catch my eye or I just want to see someone new. Other times I want to see someone I know and I anticipate the pleasure of getting together with her again. Sometimes my plans are no more than going down a list of escorts I have seen and seeing who answers me first and how soon we can get together. Other times are planned days, weeks, even months in advance.
I find myself exactly where I expected to be. The hobby is a minor part of my life. Sexual release when I want it and can afford it. It has no deep meaning or purpose for me. It also shouldn't. I am paying an actress / stuntwoman for approximately one hour of her time or a masseuse with an expanded repertoire.
I'll try to remember to let you know when I finally have a plan of any sort.