Actually, what you are talking about is being lazy in your personal grooming habits.
It takes you a month?
A real beard isn't "like 1 inch or longer", that is just being lazy.
There's a multitude of websites out there that will not only show you what a real beard looks like, they will also instruct you as to how to take care of it. And there's a multitude of products to help you do that, as well as natural oils and treatments that assist in it.
I've had a beard for years and not once has a provider asked me not to perform specific acts, or comment negatively on it.
But, like taking care of my beard, I do the other little things like be freshly bathed, brush my teeth and have fresh breathe, hell, I even wear clean clothes!
When you want to be a real man, and have a real beard, do the same thing you should be doing on this website, do your research.
One last comment, you will never impress anyone on a website like this when you use a phrase like "Like 1" or longer" There are a lot of ladies who do actually prefer that with people they see casually, as it doesn't stress them physically, and it makes their day easier, and I wish you luck in your endeavors if that is a part of the package you bring to an encounter.