However I've also gotten a "don't message me someone else sees my phone" type of request as well
Or it's been hours upon hours so feels very intrusive of me to respond but that could just be me worrying/overthinking about being polite /respectful of another's personal life
It a big pet peeve of mine, but cant stand when a provider flakes out on you or your texting and you dont hear back from them. I was in communication with a highly reviewed provider to inquire about a same day appointment Saturday early afternoon. She stated she would be available at a later time that late afternoon.
I wasn't sure it would fit in my schedule so told her I had to check and would text her back in 20 mins. 13 mins later I let her know the time she stated would work. I waited for a confirmation text but radio silence. Texted her twice more to see if she get my message and again, nothing.
I know this happens at times but nothing is more infuriating than not getting a response back from someone. It only takes 5 seconds to get back to someone.
This would have been a first time pro I would have seen, but it happens with regulars as well on occasion.
Especially when trying to set up a same day appointment—which I almost never do, but I know a lot of guys do.
This is one reason why I don’t like to use texts to set up appointments. I think I’ve used texts to schedule an appointment only once in the past several years, and that was for a few days out. I did it only because the provider’s ads said she preferred texts or calls. The exception to this is a provider I knew for many years and we often communicated by texts, not just for appointments.
My preference is emails, or for a first appointment with a provider on P411 I usually send a request through P411.
I have the same problem with p411 requests and emails at times, though. Just nothing for days and sometimes never. It's a pain in the ass when it happens, and seems to strike at random. That being said, there are a few ladies who are great on a consistent basis. Kudos to them.
The SW world is notorious for lackadaisical customer relations. Try to imagine them with attitudes like runway models or movie stars. Then your lower expectations make more sense.
I prize good customer service from providers and when one all of a sudden goes radio silent that is aggravating. Even if she has simply decided not to make an appointment I'd like to at least know that.
Well welcome to the hobby. Get use to it cause its not gonna change.
A pro uses a burner phone or a 2nd line. When they aren't working or don't want to, they simply don't look at it. You didn't arrange a time, maybe she decided to make other plans for the day. Or maybe in that 13 minutes she answered another inquiry that booked your nut time.
Would it be nice if she just responded and told you no or something, sure. Is she obligated to? Nope.
I get all that but still doesnt make it right. She wasnt available at the time I asked and requested a later time. I told her " give me 20 minutes to see if that works", she texted" okay sound good". I texted her back 13 minutes later stating the time she requested would work. Even if she had a burner or second line, I specifically said I would let her know in 20 mins, so it seems hard to not notice the text or make other plans that quickly.
Again, she is allowed to not set a date, but at least have the decency to let someone know. She has a lot of reviews on here and in the ones I read, haven't heard about her flaking out, so willing to give her another chance, as I know things happen. Just wanted to point it out because it happens far too often in this hobby and its totally irritating when you get ghosted or you get a return text two days later
From her side, how many flaky customers does she have to deal with on a daily basis, who waste her time? It's a two way street.
That only make sense if she does to customers she knows to be flaky and how likely is that?
Actually, it's probably my #1 pet peeve (radio silence, that is). I normally scedule well in advance, and when there is absolutely no response at all I always wonderwhat is going on. Worse, because I have a misplaced sense of trying to be fair to the provider I only make a request of one provider at a time. When I don't hear back I wait and finally send a followup email saying I am moving on. I suppose I should not wait, but I always do.
Please don't jump all over me for this. But I have to defend this poor gal because this happens to me a lot with my emails. I turn my phone on around 7am and off around midnight. It is almost nonstop beeping. I'm either getting a text or email. I just can't keep up with them all and accommodate the appointments that come from them. All the screening and this is 7 days a week. I have zero private life. I'm glued to my phone. I get attitude if I reply late because I had to pee. Sometimes we have to pee. So please, cut us a little slack. Maybe the gal you contacted isn't in the business anymore because of covid. How did you approach her? Were you Gentleman or did you you text her "hey' at 3am? There are many factors why a gal might not respond beyond her just being a flake.
And ya'll need to stop calling us ho's or whores when you're mad at one of us but when you're all horned up you call us baby and beautiful. It's pretty sick and kinda scary.
Hi Betty,
This was a Saturday afternoon communication. If I remember correctly I asked when she would be available and I think she said 3. I needed to see if I could make that exact time work so I told her I would text her back in about 20 minutes. When I did text her back 13 minutes later, nothing. A few follow-up text and still nothing. I totally get that things come up and I don't trip out a lot about things but we had just been talking and had a tentative plan and was trying to confirm things and then radio silence.
Kinkyman69
I'll address you first. You seem like a rational adult.. I'm really sorry for her her flake on you. The only thing I can say if you really liked her is to give her a 2nd chance. Who knows what could've happened. Because she doesn't know you and that you really are dependable she might have just thought 'ya ya 20 minute whatever that's what they all say and forgotten about it. She may have fallen asleep (done this one myself more than a few time) or an emergency could've come up... who knows. I'm sure she just flaked but it seems like you were really interested in her so give her a 2nd chance. If she flakes again, run!
And to you rocketman
Calling me a Ho or a hooker is similar to calling a black person the N word. Not quite as severe but pretty darn bad. So don't flipping call us that and expect a good response. I'm a provider or a sensual massage therapist. I'm just saying. Please show a little more respect on these boards where both clients and providers can see. You can think and say what you want but I'm asking you and I'm sure many agree that younot share those here. This is a forum for respectful hobbiests to share not to go around and insult every provider that steps in. No wonder the forums are a skeleton of its former self.
So please, show some respect for the women of the hobby you you're in or simply go elsewhere.
No need to reply with something snarky.
Betty,
Not 100 percent sure I want to try with her. Common decency is a big deal to me. However I might be interested in seeing you in the future as I prefer a more mature provider and you seem interesting.
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I'd like that.... text me at 612-414-6635.
Just so you know that wasn't my intention but I do like the results. I just like a happy ending (no pun intended... well, a little pun.) And I wanted you to know that sometimes we get overwhelmed. But I also totally see your side as well.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Don't waste your breath on rocketboy. He's a lost cause. I don't even bother to respond to people who are tsttt.
Echoing Betty here, and thank you for articulating it perfectly !
For me,
I have a hard time responding promptly these days mostly due to service issues when I'm within my incall, as in I don't get a very good signal there so sometimes & I'm not seeing any messages until hours later, it's very frustrating when you don't have control over that situation.
Most of the time if I don't respond it's because I'm trying to respond to or I'm occupied by others can't use my phone lol ....no, no one spooked me rather, there's no emotion behind it at all I'm not doing it maliciously...I'm trying my best and assume others are as well 🙂
And yeah that's a HUGE reason why a lot of providers simply avoid coming here now, including myself, we really don't appreciate being talked about or spoken to like that . Have some decency, kindness....it might get you a bit further with us ladies ? just saying...
However I've also gotten a "don't message me someone else sees my phone" type of request as well
Or it's been hours upon hours so feels very intrusive of me to respond but that could just be me worrying/overthinking about being polite /respectful of another's personal life