Hey Ladies...I'm having an interesting problem and am wondering if any of you have encountered a similar situation and what you did to solve it....
A hobbyist, that I have never seen, PM'd me suggesting my rates are too high and that I could make more money by seeing more clients and charging less. He also suggested I see him at a lower rate. Now I'm not sure about you, but my motto is quality over quantity and I actually limit the number of clients I will see per day to ensure a positive experience for all, myself included. I turned down his advice and he continued to make mention of his issue with me and my rates both on the board and even by PMing a regular client of mine. He suggested to this client I'm not worth it and also made very offensive racial remarks and told this client he hopes that the client will enjoy others and not me. He also made it clear he will never recommend me, which I find strange seeing as he has never even seen me in order to know what the experience is like.
I thought it wasn't a big deal at first...he isnt the first to complain about my rates and he won't be the last, but the fact that he is bad talking me to other hobbyists when he has never seen me seems like he has gone too far. I believe it is my right to charge whatever I feel is appropriate and if a hobbyist believes it is too much, he should simply not see me.
Does anyone have any insight on a situation like this??
I would keep your contact with that gentleman limited (but really don't talk to him at all if possible!) and definitely don't see him. His disrespect could become dangerous in person.
The guys will see his TER username (you said he is PMing?) and will see that he hasn't given you a review-the smart ones won't take his word for it if he hasn't reviewed. Others know that some guys are not fans of every ethnicity and will still take the plunge themselves as they can see you are a beautiful and well reviewed young lady! Don't worry too much about his slander. Everyone has haters.
It IS your right to ask whatever you'd like as a gift, YOUR business strategies and marketing efforts are YOUR business, none of his. Don't let him get too far under your skin 
Some guys just always want a "deal" ....
Hugs
Natalie
This guy has gone beyond haggling. (IMO) He's a bully. One PM is too much but to continue after you've declined his offer & PM'ing your clients?! That is outrageous!
Nobody but you knows best how to run your business in a way that is both prosperous (according to your needs & expectations) as well as comfortable for you. That is all that matters & as long as it's working for you, keep doing it YOUR way.
I would give him one final warning to stop harassing you & your clients. If he continues I would definitely report him to TER & encourage you to suggest your clients to do the same. Hopefully you & these gents have saved the PM's in case you need to show them to TER.
Sorry you're dealing with this nonsense.
Hugs
Leann
NO ONE can or should tell you what your rate should be. If your rate is to high for him there are plenty of ladies that have lower rates. If your rate is truely to high you will know by the lack of intrest and you can adjust it accordingly, or not. Only a real asshat would be slamming you without ever having met you and he deserves whatever negative consequences he has coming his way.
Was your recent visit to several North Dakota cities pleasurable?
Yes it was nice. Will be back soon😀
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Was your recent visit to several North Dakota cities pleasurable?
Take it for what it's worth, but most times guys don't stop & consider if we only visit with 3 or 4 guys a week, we simply can not go below a certain rate, not only that -this: this is industry has some extremely terrible assumptions, it is the oldest profession & certainly probably one of the most changed/evolved thanks to the internet.....
yet most of the time government agencies put out misinformation & like to lump a lot of independent women in with the hot button words like "human trafficking" which is very real & completely wrong, but maybe not as common as we are lead to believe...but maybe- I sure don't know, all I know is it's not the case with me.
So we get a bad rap all around from mainstream society, there are so many misconceptions out there it's hard to think of all of them.....trust me I had some of my own before my enlightenment... The truth is when a women decides to step into this lifestyle, most of us think long & hard and know that we fully accept the responsibility of any of those not such nice words, like Ho, hooker, prostitute, street walker, ect.
Possibly leaving a stain on our good name and reputation, there is always a huge risk of safety not only because of laws, but the possible shame .....of family, co-workers, friends, neighbors, kids, ect finding out about this & we take in consideration all those possible situations, not only that but the abusers, the manipulators, liars, & maybe even serial killers that we may come close to (hopefully everyone screens very good & the chances are low) these few things I mention are really just the tip of an iceberg worth of stuff we have to take into account anytime we so much as meet someone new.
So let me say in conclusion: who in the world can put a price on that? I think your rates are exactly what they should be.
Wow...thanks so much Mindy, I know we have all probably thought about this at one point or another, but you really nailed it, this is exactly it!! Im sure a lot of guys haven't thought about the many risks because they have never been in our shoes. Thank you for the insight!!
To both you and Mindy,
I have never thought of any of the women I have been with as anything more than a woman who deserves my respect. Not all have chosen to respect me in return, and they are no longer visited by me. But to those wonderful, WONDERFUL providers who have graced my life with warmth, love, compassion, and friendship, I hold them most dear in my heart!
Kia, always remember King Solomon "this too shall pass", and hopefully this person who is bringing this pain to you, will move on.
In business, "We reserve the right to refuse service to anyone" holds true here as well.
Have a wonderful day all of you lovely providers who have enriched my life, and even to those who I have not had the pleasure of meeting as well!
From a buyers standpoint( If I were one, I wouldn't take what they said seriously but rather see them as nothing but a shit starting bully with too much time on their hands( they're akin to a YELP review IMO.
Those are the type of people I refuse to negotiate with and loath to see in person, nothing dries me up more than when someone comes to visit me & does that the whole time.
In other words ; More for me !
As for assumptions, it continues to amaze me year after year how ignorant people can be about how we as providers operate ... Ignore that too because you're doing exactly what you should be . :
Frankly if I was seeing someone and got a PM from another so-called hobbyist such as you describe, I would ignore it. And most of us are quite capable of seeing that if a well-reviewed provider suddenly gets a poor review that is at best an outlier and pay little attention to it.
