i just want to express my hopes that WE all refrain from judging, and remember that there is a version of the Golden Rule in ALL major world religions, dating back over 5000 years, for good reason--it's a great great guide to relationship, on all levels, of all kinds.  I also hope that everyone has a peace-filled season, whether you are with loved ones, or you have no one with whom to spend time this season, or fall somewhere on the continuum between.