I was wondering about when providers ask for references from other providers.  Would it be proper to let you know that someone is going to be e-mailing for a reference or just ask if it would be ok ahead of time?  If it's a provider I've never seen before, I will mention that I have some reviews posted here and that I'm a member of Date-Check.

Also, I only hobby about 2-3 times a year and consider myself rather forgettable.  What could I do to let a provider know that if someone asks for a reference to remember me?

Any other help would be helpful.

Thanks.

A head's up is always nice, checking to see if see if she remembers you. Your description, maybe what you talked about, anything that might jar her memory if it has been a long time since you have seen her.

preferably via email and ask if she is OK with her giving a reference for you.  If she doesn't remember you, have her call you and talk.  Or, tell her when you saw her, and anything about yourself that may jog her memory (your profession, build, area that you are from)....

I always appreciate when a client does this.  It makes giving references so much easier.  Many times, I will contact a provider and she won't remember the client, so she'll ask that I have him email her or call her first, so this just makes it much faster.  

Good luck!

I try to let providers know to expect a reference if it's been a while since I've seen them. That way I can try and come up with a memory-jogger if they come up blank on me.

I try to come up with some bit of conversation that might ring a bell with a provider. Since I like getting to know partners a little, it's usually not too hard to find something we laughed about, or something memorable that I commented on. But then I avoid high-volume providers too, so it might be easier for them to remember me.

less forgettable. Try showing up wearing a Hefty-Bag poncho, and an aluminum foil hat. She's not likey to forget that.

Seriously, I notice that you have six reviews, but no whitelists. There's nothing wrong with asking a lady to whitelist you, if you had a good time with her, and you think that she did as well. Date-Check also has their own referral system, where you can request a referral from a lady that you've seen. Some ladies won't give these referrals to guys they've only seen once, but some will. You don't know until you ask.

Join Preferred411. In my experience, a lady is happy to give an OK after one visit if you are neither LE, an ax murderer, nor overcome with body odor. Heck, they get some sort of credit when they give an OK. On the flip side, many P411 ladies will accept recent OKs from reputable ladies as sufficient verification.  

OKs also help with memory. She can go from the OK to your profile; if you filled it out it should help. And, if a lady has given you an OK, even if she doesn't remember you clearly she should be willing to state that she wouldn't have done so if you were objectionable or obnoxious.

It is sort of understood that a lady who has given an OK in P411 may be contacted by another lady for a bit more info. You don't have to warn about something like that. OTOH, if you are going to give someone's name as a reference, youdamnskippy you should warn the lady in advance, or better yet ask for permission at the time you see her, if you don't want the reference process to boomerang in your face. It's simple courtesy.

Final point, you want to be memorable? Keep writing reviews. If you resist just stringing out the acronyms (DFKBBBJRCGetc) and put some effort into describing what was memorable for you, the likelihood the lady's memory will be refreshed by reading the review is increased exponentially. Free, limited VIP lets them read their own reviews. Course, if you conclude with a 3/3 rating you might not want to give out that name.

As you only hobby a few times a year perhaps you could ask the girl if it is OK to use her as a reference and then point out something to help her remember you by (you wear a distinctive piece of jewelry, you have an unusual hobby (besides this one!), etc).