I thought about this thread a bit today and here's my thought...

People have very different views about what sex "means" and the role it plays in their own life, and in relationships.

For some, sex is very, very tightly wound up in that.  Hence, if you are masturbating, then it must mean you are not happy with what you are getting from your partner, and that leads to all kinds of hurt and resentment in some people.

For me...  I am different.  It can be more compartmentalized for me...  sometimes sex is about affection, skin contact, and spiritual replenishment.  I love that kind of sex.  Sometimes it is about relationship, bonding.  Love that too.  There can be D/s aspects where sex brings out primal feelings about gender, dominance, submission...  Love that too.  The best sex blends nuances of all those things.

But often, I just need to cum.  I don't need sex, I don't need courtin', romance, mutuality, affection, the satisfaction of pleasing my partner...  I often want or need those things.  But often, quite often, I just need to cum, without all the trappings of sex, romance, partnership...  I just need the catharsis of sexual release...  And those times, it means doing it myself, or, if I am insanely lucky, having a partner who understands there are many aspects to sex and she says "I know you're not in the mood for anything more right now, I understand completely, so let me just get you off."

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