Pivoting off the orgasm thread below, I have a different question.  If the TER "Love Doctor" board were still around, I'd post it there, but it's gone.  I don't have time to spend several hours on the Web researching this, so I hope y'all will help out.

Here's my question:

Do you ladies have different ways of expressing that you've climaxed?  Let me explain.

With some ladies, it's absolutely clear: they are convulsing, squeezing my head with their legs so hard that I'm smothering, or yanking my hair to pull me off their clit.  Those are great moments, which I've (and they've, it seems) thoroughly enjoyed.

But, with other ladies, I will work the kitty and clit with my tongue for 10, 15 minutes or more, or I'll finger fuck them for similar periods, and it's clear they're enjoying it, but there's no "explosive moment."  I've asked several to tell me how to make them come, and they smile and say "You already did" or "Mission accomplished!"  Some say they've had several O's during that time.

But, I cannot detect when the moment is.  I do not want to OVER-do it, and make them sore or sensitive.  

So, can anyone help this relative newbie understand this particular part of the hobby?

Thanks!

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much to 'understand' other than we're all different.  Your experiences I would say are fairly
common to us all.  Some yell and scream, some are quiet.  Some have "O's", some don't.
Same for the guys....screamers, quiet, O's and not.  And different strokes do different things
for each of us.  They will let you know when to quit just as you let them know when you
are done if they haven't figured it out.  I don't think everyone has an "explosive" moment.

Women are different than men in that there is not the obvious sign of orgasm of a man - the ejaculation and I believe that their experience may be more shaded and nuanced than ours (although men do also have as anyone here can attest different level of experience). My experience is that the physical expression of arousal - whatever that may be - peak at orgasm and taper off afterwards. How women react is very different and very personal, so I wouldn't generalize on the specific way it manifest itself.  If there is arousal there is a change of orgasm, although often arousal may peak and taper off without orgasm and to me the most indicative and most sure sign of arousal - even more than vaginal wetness - are flashes on the chest. I do not believe anyone can fake that.... nonetheless, there is no guarantee of orgasm. Personally, I am flattered if my provider orgasms, but I am not upset if she doesn't. I do like when she enjoys our interaction - although in the boundaries of our business - and appreciate her focusing on me even when she may not much into it.

On a separate note, I believe the providers who are highly reviewed are also highly sexual persons who while making a business out of it, do actually in generally enjoy sex and are self assured in their sexuality. Look at it  this way, great cooks do actually enjoy food even though it is their business. If you try to be a cook only for the money... well at best you will be flipping burgers at McD and in this business that means probably ending up as some bottom of the barrel BP girl.  That applies to so many other professions: you can't be a good vet if you do not like animals, you can't be a sport coach if you do not like interacting with young people (ok as I wrote this I realize that it may be seen as a joke or a sexual innuendo and it wasn't meant to....  so to make it clear that POS Sanduski deserves a particular hot spot in hell and if he had done anything like that to one of my kids it would be my pleasure to deliver him there with my own bare hands....  his way of liking young people is way beyond joking)

Back to topic... with our top ladies, because of their nature and attitude,  I do believe that orgasms are possible and arousal likely if the client is not a complete misogynistic douche-bag of which I sure there is quite a few unfortunately...- it helps here that women are less visual and more cerebral than men and we do not need to be all be Brad Pitt lookalike. This may also explain some grade inflation as a woman who is responsive to a man - as long the man is not said douche-bag - will end up looking much better to the beneficiary of such an attention than a cold as a  stone playboy model.....  and since beauty is completely in the eye of the beholder there is no grade inflation after all...

instead of scouring the web and likely finding inconsistent information, to read a short, best-selling book.  the technique to stimulate a woman to a clitoral orgasm is a combination of skills and sensuality; those skills can be learned...but more importantly you must desire to please your lover, always taking your time.  Yes, we are complicated creatures! Thank you for asking the question. This fine art is not known by many, make it yours and see how you are appreciated in the future

Whether or not there is an apparent "explosion" at the time of orgasm- there is no mistaking when this has occurred. I'm no squirter, but the fluids I produce at this magic moment tell a story. A story of the finest satisfaction. I call it an explosion, absolutely.  Muscles tense, sugar walls tighten (which you will feel if you have inserted a finger) the exposed swelling and redness of increased blood flow are present. The moisture produced at the final moment will vary...

The rewards are all yours, believe me.  My lover takes me there, and I adore him...

.....this issue.  I know that I have in the past.  As wingman wrote, we are all different and sometimes men and women can react differently even from session to session, depending on lots of different factors.  When 2 people are alone (ok maybe a 3rd lady playing too), these issues fall away in the enjoyment of the moment.  And, as has been written here recently, most of the ladies will tell us what feels good and if we ask they will tell us what gives them pleasure, but it is to be shared in the intimate moment.  
And OG, you have written about how you have enjoyed the intimacy of a session even when there has been no O on your part and some of the ladies wrote this as well in the recent threads, so the O while fabulous is not always the goal in a session.  Like many of us "mature" men this has been the case with me as well.  We all know the answer is to relax and enjoy ourselves, let's remember that is what we are paying for.  
I also think that the longer the "date", say 90-120 minutes or longer vs 30 minutes lends itself to a higher level of sensual arousal and enjoyment where as the 30 minute is more fuck, cum and go, ideal for the young stud on the move....lol.

They fake 'em. They work for tips.

I would appreciate it if you did NOT lump us all into one assumed category. It's as ludicrous as claiming that anyone who chooses the handle Morris likes to be pegged.  I am a provider.  I do NOT EVER 'work for tips.'

But I do luv the way you work the tip

Of course you don't.

You must be seeing the wrong ladies then

You've gotten some great answers (and the NOT) and this is a great topic.

When a young lady is out of breath and her face and ears are flushed red and the obvious juices are flowing, you might have just done something right! Even if she is quietly breathing through her mouth and did not say anything.

And if she is shaking her head in dis-belief and seems somewhat bewildered, she just might be wondering how the hell some old guy did that when she never expierianced it with the hot young studs she had been dating.

And when a more expierianced lady is yelling at you that you had damn well better not stop and a few seconds later pushes you away because she cannot take anymore, you might have just done something right again!

So what do you say when a young lady tells you that she has never had an orgasm from oral before? "Well heck darlin, neither have I!, you can certainly give it one hell of a try but there is no way you will get me off orally"

Seriously, everyone is differnt and that is part of the fun... Figuring out what does it for each person, you may not always succeed but the journey is all part of the fun.

And Women deffinately respond to different stimuli than men. I'm not really very good at it, but on two occations I was able to mostly talk a couple young ladies into orgasm, one was a stripper who never let me really touch her but she was doing the grinding thing and asked me some sexual questions as part of her routine, I had drank just the right amount that I openely answered them all in great detail and it turned her on so much she made a terrible(ly wonderful) mess all over me. I'm sure it was the talking about sex that put her over the edge as there was no way she was going to do that during every lap dance.

Then there was a young lady who was new and I am sure had a very low opinion of herself. All I did was to be nice to her and find little things to compliment her on and she got very hot and worked up. Sometimes just being pleasant goes a long ways... Except when you get the demanding screamer swearing at you to do it harder... Then just try to keep breathing and do as your told and hope she does not tear out what little hair you have left!  lol

My experience has been if she is really having an O you can tell. If you can't tell you don't know her well enough. There's only been a few cases where I've questioned if a provider was faking it or not but reading the body language it was believable enough for me.

Heh... Well, that's different!