There've been a couple of times I've called a provider and the first question out their mouth is "what nationality are you?"  - what the hell is that about?  Once I said, "green, as in money, as in, you're not getting any of mine!"

I know...that was bad...but what the hell is that about?  Is this too another arena where racism rears its ugly head???

I think it is just preferences. I certainly have preferences with regard to race, size, hair color, etc. So what?

Wow! Never should it be a factor!!!Sometimes I ask because I hear a beautiful accent but never make it anything else! that is really hurtful and I'm sorry that happened to you!

I agree with both Aleister and Suzanne, I am sorry that who-ever it was presented it that way when you called, everyone has their preferences I guess, but there are polite ways to express it. I have met so many different races/nationalitys working and concider myself so much richer for it, there are many of us like this out here too! Its all good! Don't sweat it and I bet you have had some really hot and nice times too!

Jackieblu xxxoo

or do not choose to see people of certain backgrounds as a matter of personal taste.  Given the intimate nature of what they do, I think they have to be allowed that kind of latitude.  Perhaps the providers you have spoken with have handled it with a distinct lack of tact but it's better than waiting until the guy is knocking on the door to tell him.

hmmm...I appreciate some of the posts.  And I'm definitely a person that tries to live a life where I give folks the benefit of the doubt....but the times it has happened...it's just the feeling in my gut...can't explain it.  I definitely feel it's their loss.  I'm  a professional with a career, and am a very easy client to please - but, oh well.  

It makes me want to not venture out much and just stick to one or two providers.

I agree.  From our end (hobbyist), we get to pick whom we call.  I have preferences as do virtually everyone out there, I suspect.  It can be with respect to appearance or, in a cultural manner, how they approach sex.  Latinos, asians, and the French are my favorites.  The English, not so much.  

On the provider side they do not get to see photos of who calls, so they have to ask if they prefer not to see a particular race.  While this is a business, it is also an intimate affair so I agree that some latitude should be extended to the providers.

Agree

Unfortunately for personal experience I can tell you that a lot of the WHITE providers in Minnesota prefer not to see LATINOS. Many times as soon as I let them know by email or when providing my last name I never hear back from them like if I had a fucking decease. They should state that in their websites and not make you waste valuable time.

I agree with all the comments here.

Most get a hint from my accent, but if she chose to ask, I would tell honestly. I would rather be told that she cannot see me than having her no-call-no-show later.  

I once asked a provider if I was her first "foreign" encounter. She said yes and she decided to see me because I sounded nice on the phone. She is the type of super hot blonde that I never thought I could make connnection with. Since then, she has been my ATF for more than a year ......

I guess being honest, respectful, nice and having an open heart on both ends (provider and hobbyist) make this hobby wonderful.

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Sooo it be personal choice yes and yet rear its ugly head as well? My daughter looked at me during supper yesterday and stated racism is still here and its 2007 she has a job as a cashier and people wont touch her olive hand to get change... But where are the lines drawn in a case like this? I wonder where a provider can state such before a gentlemen calls  with out being called a raciest???A really hard call...its sad but true you should be able to pick who your comfortable with...gut instincts are usually right too....

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I've heard girls say things like, "I won't see black men," and I've heard girls also say things like "I have my preference."

Yes, I think it's racism.  You can't have a "whites only" restaurant in the U.S. because of the civil rights movement, but racism runs rampant in the sex business.

In fairness, I have heard A LOT of racist comments about my Asian heritage from hobbyists.  So, the racism is on both ends.

FYI, I see men of ALL colors.  And, I consider that to be an important thing to do if you are opposed to racism.  That's my belief.

Also, it is my pet peeve when people conflate nationality (citizenship) with race.  My race is Asian.  My nationality is American/U.S.  There IS a difference.  Just because I am Asian doesn't mean that I was born there, raised there, speak the language(s), and am "fresh off the boat"!  People assume that all of the time, and it drives me insane.

I have lived all over the midwest and the south.
I noticed in places with a larger immigrant population, like Minneapolis and Florida, a lof of the racism is directed at immigrants, particularly Latinos/Latinas.  In contemporary U.S. loci with high immigrant populations, it seems like racism against Blacks isn't socially tolerated as much, but you can still let the verbal diarrhea run when it comes to Latinos, and nobody will bat an eyelash.  

However, when I've lived in cities that are more populated by people with bodies considered Black and white (and there's a very small immigrant population), racism against Black people still runs with the same gusto you'd expect it to 50, 100, and 150 years ago.  When I lived on the Mason-Dixon line, in particular, I've never heard white people casually use the word "nigger" without apology so much in my entire life in any other U.S. city.

In either case, I think ALL people of color face a myriad of social stereotypes in this country.  It's unethical, unjust, and contrary to freedom and equality.

Sorry to hear about white providers blowing you off.

I have seen sme of the things you wear I have no doubt you like all colors!  We were talking about clothes were'nt we? :P wink

I only see all colors when a pretty woman slaps me upside the head for grabbing her cute ass at an inappropriate time.

Really, I am color blind when it comes down to people, what I see is the way they treat me personally!

I have little patience when it comes to things like racism.