You may want to elaborate yourself if you feel like you lead a double life so others will join in. I will say that sometimes it kind of sucks, leading a double life that is.

The closest I've come is when a friend is over and starts to do an internet search on my laptop without asking, I have to swipe it and put them on the guest account or just do it for them to avoid any creeping eyes on the history in the URL bar or search engine...


Otherwise it works very well! I don't let my personal and promiscuous lives mix....

well hidden,  for the hobby stuff, looking and appointments. so far...ok

They say cats have 9 lives...

but they are consecutive.  We all have multiple lives simultaneously.  I have yet to meet a SOUL who doesn't have some sort of secret... Depending on the crowd, everyone behaves differently.  Everyone has several 'lives'.  We manage.

Because my closest friends and my family know (( I have an awesome family))
And im blessed because they all support me ..
Most of my friends and all my family are liberal and believe in the decriminalization of prostitution and all that..
So when I decided to start working I talked to them about it to get their input, and i'm able to have pretty open conversations with them and my parents for that matter about that work.
They bring up safety concerns, but im pretty stringent about safety and security since I have been a PA, scheduler, screener for almost 3 years as well prior to working myself..  
I dont know if its really a double life for me as in my real life im pretty vocal and open about sex positive health practices and all that..
The one person I was concerned with finding out about it was my ex and he did and now its water under the bridge ...
So far so good for me

~Cat ,, meow meow xoxo

But then things fell apart, as will happen. It was due to incompatibility, not this thing of ours. That is still my secret.

I've found there is a relatively easy way to keep a secret. Don't tell anyone. You'd be surprised how hard that is for some people.

….I have always believed in living my life with integrity...meaning being the same on the outside as I am on inside.  I hope no one reading this thinks I am being judgmental toward anyone, because please believe I'm not.  What I write belongs to me and me only.  I understand the reason many in the hobby and other parts of life have to live a “double life”  NO judgment on any of you ladies and gents.  I disagree however with the notion that we all have different lives that we compartmentalize and HAVE to keep one part away from another.  We create that kind of life, it does not just happen.  I am in my 60s and have never lived like that.  If you have read my posts in the past you may remember I wrote about marrying a provider several years ago, it was 24 years ago in December.  But I was married before that.  I was a horn dog in my early 20s, but had met a wonderful young woman and fallen hopelessly in love and we got married.  Didn't have kids, (that came later with wife#2) but I loved this woman with all of my heart and never strayed.  She developed an aggressive cancer and died before she reached 30.  I was devastated of course, but in the years that followed I found the “hobby” (only we didn’t call it that back then).  I was very active seeing many extraordinary young women and was never shy about what I was doing or did I have the need to hide it.  I have been  fortunate to have always owned my own enterprises so never had an employer to hide my activity from.  I did fall in love with an exceptional young woman I was seeing professionally (yes, in the hobby) and I promised to give her anything she ever wanted in life and she finally agreed to marry me.  I  did not hobby and was not unfaithful to her.  We had 3 kids but eventually she got bored with monogamy and after 15 years, she moved on and I concentrated on raising my kids.  I  resumed my hobbying about 6 years ago, which I have done to this day.  My kids who are now adults know about my younger “girl friends”.  My daughters think it is quite funny (course they think I am getting senile...LOL).  Anyway, I can report that I have never had to lead a double life in all my years...about anything.  Lucky?  Maybe, but I have always believed in the power of the truth and living with integrity.  WE create the lives we live.  And no, I am NOT religious.  I consider myself  libertine. I don't think living with integrity is incompatible with the hobby, although marriage without an open minded partner?  Yes, it creates all kinds of struggles  with the hobby, hence all the double lives being juggled (and destroyed in many cases).  By the way, I do not think that the struggle between marriage and the hobby will be any less if prostitution becomes legal, in fact even though many of us yearn for this, it could make the marriage struggles much worse.  I will end this with what I started with, I make no judgments about anyone else and their circumstances, but I do think we can live a rich full life without it ever being a secret.  Living a double life is just too much work, imho, but I wish you all happiness, I have certainly had my share in this life!

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as I've stated before, I don't have closed minded individuals in my life therefore nothing to hide.