I know former hobbyists who have lives without P4P.  They stopped seeing escorts for various reasons but have made the transition.  I don't know how well all their romantic relationships have gone or if they ever told their SOs about their past as hobbyists but the transition can be done.

Now, all these guys were like me in being at least middle-aged when they stopped being hobbyists.  Reading between the lines, you sound like a fairly young guy.  I don't know what kind of difference that might make.  Of course everybody is different and what would work best for you is up to you to figure out.  However, if you don't date any women, the odds of meeting someone you want to be with are very small.  Romantic relationships with providers are very seldom successful.

Why would a thing like sex eat away at you?  Sex is a natural drive.  Rules around it are placed by society.   But the rules aren't natural.  They possibly benefit a society, but often at the expense of the individual.
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If you do decide to settle down, there is no reason on this green earth to burden your lover with tales of your debauchery. Be very vague about numbers if you must mention them at all.  I never understood the point of telling someone something that would upset them over which they had no power to change.  It's just cruel.

but it hasn't stopped me from having "normal" relationships, for that matter I have an actual girl friend right now who is NOT a sex worker.  

 
Of course my gf is forty years younger than me, and has never asked me to stop seeing hookers. As a matter of fact she gets off on it and wants me to tell her all about the hookers I see while we are having sex. Call me lucky I guess. lol

 
Now I have taken years at a time away from seeing hookers whenever I find myself in a committed relationship, If I can do it, so can you. I don't normally mention my whore mongering when dating a non sex worker, but if asked I don't like to lie. That doesn't mean I go around trying to intentionally sabotage my civvy relationships by volunteering things I was never asked about. lol

Even if you're dating civvies, you're still going to be spending money on them. And if you get married, and then wind up divorced, it can cost you a HELL of a lot more money. With escorts, you at least know exactly how much each woman is going to cost you, and you can budget accordingly.

If being a parent is attractive to you, I would try hard to find a nice woman to raise a family with.  Being a great Dad has been the most rewarding experience in my life.  Go into this knowing that it is rare to find a special woman who can keep romantic flame going (most of my many married friend all complain about their lack of sex life).  If being a Dad is not your thing, then I wouldn't worry about the FOMO.   There are risks involved with marriage and kids.  We have a severely disabled child who has made our lives/marriage very challenging and has cause my wife to become a very bitter and depressed woman.   I would love to get a divorce but financially and emotional toll to our children is way too costly.   Thus,  why I hobby.   OTOH, I have another wonderful child who has a great marriage and soon to be a Father.  Life is uncertain, choose wisely.
Nevertheless, I wouldn't tell your new wife about your hobbying past.  Trust me, she will not be impressed and will think much less of you.

...in your system if afraid.  I believe it's the desire of most men to have sex as much as possible and with whomever triggers our fancy.  This is our natural behavior to want to do so.  Lust isn't a vice, its a natural draw to do what we were put on this earth to do.  It all started when that apple was bitten.

I believe you absolutely can have a "normal" life without escorts. You just have to determine if you *really* want that.  

Frankly, I had to chuckle a bit when I read this post because I was having a similar conversation with a friend of mine. She asked me if escorting had changed my perspective on dating and I had to admit, it did a bit. Although I was surrounded by couples with strong marriages growing up, they all kept saying that they wished they had pursued more of their interests, dreams, etc before getting married and having children. And I've always believed it is difficult for one person to be "all the things" for their partner.  

 
That said, I'm honest enough to admit I'm still too "selfish" of my time, money, resources, independence, etc., to pursue  "real life" dating with the end goal of marriage and kids.  In addition, I had my eggs frozen last year "just in case". All of this combined with the low priority I put on dating, this world meets the needs I have now. For a brief moment, I have a partner who is on their best behavior and generous. And when our time is over, we go our separate ways with no strings and we either see one another again or we don't. It's perfect for me.  

 
You have the luxury that you will, given nothing paramount happens, always be able to father children. In addition, studies show that in general, people are waiting long to get married, have children, etc. Fun fact: more people are also getting divorced later in life once their children are grown. Finally, you have no obligation to tell a future partner of your past participation in this realm; however, should you continue to engage once finding a partner, that is something you have to wrestle with. None of us can tell you how to feel about it.  

 
Good luck, darlin'.