As I got older I find myself self developing a kinky side. Nothing too crazy,  I think
Since you not supposed to discuss details over email, text or phone etc. How do you approach a provider beforehand?

read her reviews; the truth is always  found here... Still in  doubt?
PM  a reviewer; they know the straight dope
i'm not the charitable type; but today i feel weak...

and if you click, ask about things on the kinky side for a potential next visit.

and I know you're a good guy and are serious about an appointment with me, you can ask me anything.    and I mean Anything.   That's just how I do things.  Because I am in the same camp as you, why would I want you to show up and want me to do something that I don't or won't do.  That would be crazy.  and a terrible waste of time and money.  and since this about YOU, the client, you would think a girl would want YOU to experience what YOU want/need to.      With others,  I guess that's where you need to have VIP and do a search in the reviews to see if you can find specifically what you want.    

Posted By: langeweile

As I got older I find myself self developing a kinky side. Nothing too crazy,  I think  
 Since you not supposed to discuss details over email, text or phone etc. How do you approach a provider beforehand?  
   
 I hate to show up ask for something and then she is either not in to it or refuses.  
 Plus I really believe that a provider has to be experienced to provide what I am asking for.  
   
 Thanks

Join and a lady may list her menu on the site.

Once the first visit is done and both of you are more comfortable with each other then it makes other things easier to bring up.

You can make a note regarding it so when you send a request the provider can read that and decide.

I find if I show up wearing clown makeup and ass-less leather chaps, it helps to break the ice. What provider wouldn't want to get a little kinky with a guy dressed like that. Although my sexual tastes are kinda vanilla. I just like the way the chaps make me feel and the way the clown makeup looks on me.

But, remember,  a yes does not always mean yes.  It could mean, "yes unless your dick is the size of a horses"  or "yes, unless your dick is dirty and nasty and stinky".

You've seen many providers so far, including me & thank you, you're a pleasure and we're a pleasure and I like being me when I am with you. You may feel this sort of affinity with a number of providers.  If you have certain desires I would say see the provider and establish that you like each other and then share what you would like to do with her and see if she is receptive and you might be surprised that she already likes what you suggest already or is excited to try something new!  

Mmm... Portia, you say the dreamiest stuff! I love the almost non-existent list of what you're not into

Do providers ever read a hobbyists reviews prior to seeing him when he schedules an appointment??
No wrong answers...
thanks
Kram

If they're smart they do.

..... but  "My SUGGESTION to you is this:  once you are screened, and she knows you are safe to see, politely ask her if you can write a scenario to her of something you'd like to experience and if she would be okay with you sending it to her and to give her feedback on it.  
Just be super polite about it.  and hope for the best.  and have a back-up plan. "