I am a provider have been for years, I keep to myself but lately I have found myself in an uncomfortable postion. When I see someone my lips are sealed but when I get a call a week or so down the road asking for a referal I am not quite sure what I should do, do I confirm that I have in fact seen this person and their phone number or say that I am uncomfortable giving out that info??????
What do you guys think?  Thanks

depends on if you know the other provider who is inquiring about the hobbyist.  If you don't kow her I would be very hesitant about giving out the information.

If she is a well known provider or is listed on a web site, I would see no issue in confirming that you haev seen them. I would NOT give out any additional personal information to her that she does not have.

If the guy thinks he is going to use you for a reference at a later time he should tell you something about himself that is unique. When he wants to see another provider who requires a reference he should tell her this as well. When she gives you this piece of information you will know its him and a simple "Yes I saw him" is all that is necessary.  Missy Petite visits this site a lot and perhaps she can provide some insight as well.

When I am asked for a referrence I email the providers I am asking to vouch for me. I give them the details and I copy all parties on the email.

I wouldn't give it out!... The only way I think that it should be given out is if the guy has told you someone maybe calling to do a referance check...
Just way to much personal info floating out there and best to try and control it as much as possible??...

I give references to any of the guys who I have seen
that were gentlemen that need a reference.
We ladies have to keep it safe for us and the also gentlemen coming to see us!
Mandy

Since I mostly tour, I use a code word method.  It has worked out wonderfully for me.   I am a reference friendly provider and do not mind giving a gent a reference should he need one since it saves him aggravation when it comes to screening.

Until I know the gent well, I use a code word system...I keep the gents first name and then ask him for a word that he can remember and the last four digits of his phone number.  When they ask for a reference, they would tell the provider they wish to see:
Hi this is Ted So and so...I have seen Missy and my code word is golfer8818.  

On my list I have his first name, code word and wether I would recommend him or not, if not why and I use an E or R next to that to know how he was originally verified.  I also note things like habitual tardiness etc...it is ALL in code so that mostly only I can understand it lol

If something were to ever go wrong (god forbid) that list would be worthless to anyone that gets their hands on it since a list of Teds Golfer8818 in Minneapolis means nothing.  Whenever the gent schedules again, he must give me a contact number since I don't keep them.

A simple yes I have seen him and he was on time, courteous respectful etc should be sufficient.  I can't speak for all ladies but I primarily want to know that I am safe and that he isn't going to pose any danger to me.  Cleanliness is a must too.

I would just confirm wether you have seen him or not....confirming phone numbers and such isn't necessary.  

Stay safe, references are a wonderful tool, alot of us would be lost without ladies giving them out.
Missy

That is a brillant method to maintain a reference list that means nothing to anyone else.

I have seen other postings from you here on the discussion board.  Do you have a website?

I am sorry I have not answered sooner but as of this time I do not have a website and I wish to remain anonymous on this board. thanks for asking

Too bad, you always sound like an intelligent, caring provider.  And fun too.  PM me if you have some time on your schedule.