Okay...so I like the removal of certain clothing to be part of the experience, rather than the often clinical process of both participants "getting comfortable."

Providers, if you are agreeable, or would like to inquire, please either post or PM.  Thanks.

Man, I'm with you!

There is something very clinical, un-GFE, almost awkward about the "getting comfortable" phase.  "I'm standing here, alone, undressing myself.  Not 10 feet away, in the next room, is a really hot, sexy woman, also undressing alone.  We're gonna get together soon and be really hot for each other, just not right now.  I guess I'll just lay here naked on this bed and ponder how awkward this moment is, while I wait for her to appear around the corner."

It's just one of those moments that seem completely out of place given the context.  Most often, I suspect it's a throw-back to days when providers thought that having the guy undress first would provide some LE entrapment protection.  Less often, I suspect that it's based on the idea that all guys love lingerie, and love to be surprised by some sexy outfit.

Give me a woman in plain street clothes ANY DAY.  An extended make-out session of lots of kissing, slooow and patient mutual undressing, roaming hands...  My blood will be boiling by the time the pile of clothes on the floor is completed.

And if there's somethin' kinda special on underneath those clothes...  It's thigh-highs for me, sounds like it's panties for you...  All the better, even if it's something that doesn't usually match, like thigh-highs under jeans or a lace or satin camisole under a polo shirt.

Oh, I also truly enjoy undressing a woman and having her do the same to me.  It definitely, makes it seem so much more real and allows me to lose myself in the moment.  There's a term I've heard, called "suspension of disbelief", which refers to the likelihood of someone enjoying a work of fiction to for the duration of the experience to be able to feel like the book, movie, etc., is real.  Obviously, the skill of the author, actors, etc. has a lot to do with how likely this is to happen.  I think this clearly applies here as well.

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That's very weird.  I mean, you're supposed to be shagging, not preparing for a pap smear.

I agree with you OZ.  There is a definite turn on when you are being undressed by the lady as she is kissing and caressing you each step of the way.  Similarly when you undress her to find out she has some very nice lingerie underneath.

What ever happened to the good old days of stockings and garters.  I think most guys wold appreciate seeing more ladies play the Lingerie card more often.  Some of them seem to be in too much of a hurry to get the "deed" completed and not realize how to really make that connection.

I think you'll see some ladies read this and take note.  The start can be as ackward as the finish.  

why don't you just ask that to the provider when you see her?  Ask her if you can help her undress?  I have done it a lot because I like to take that approach too.  No one has ever told me no they'd rather undress themself.

I couldn't agree more.

The seduction and emotional play of slowly undressing each other with special attention to details by little kisses here and caresses there is something that I think can make all the difference in the world.

Dare I say it, but I might consider that more important than whether the provider offers CBJ or BBBJ

Papastevie

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It does seem like many ladies want to retire to the bathroom to "prepare". I'm sure that preparation is something that is important to them, and us.

It's a real turn on to slowly undress and what a way to begin the meeting!!!  Yeahzaaa!!!

Hangin'

And you, ma'am, are shaggerific.

I think you'd be surprised by how common it is.  Providers seem to fall into a number of different habits that may seem "the norm" for them, but to another provider would just seem completely absurd.  It surprises me the degree to which providers are at the opposite extreme on some things, each thinking the other's way of doing it is really odd.

If you're one of those providers that likes to maximize the amount of time you spend in contact with your guy, going into the bathroom to don lingerie while you have him "get comfortable" seems "very weird."

If you're one of those providers who regrets how the business aspects of the hobby sometimes interfere with just connecting and spending time together, then asking for the donation up front seems really awkward, and counting it would seem absolutely ridiculous.

If you're one of those providers that just likes your time together to "flow," hoping that you'll both get as much enjoyment out of a meeting as you can, then the idea of "one pop and you're out" seems really artificial.

But as many here can attest, these things all happen.

Misty:

Tell us more about the Finish.....not finnish, but finish.

Your finishes are awesome......tickle our curiousity, please!!

Hangin'

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OZ - I agree, thigh highs blow me away. Take off the pants and they'll make my knees buckle. Love it not knowing what you're going to get underneath the outer wear; especially when it's something unexpected. I wish all providers would do that. I hooked up with one in Champaign Il recently and she took my breath away with her sexy under garments.

Take one part licking.  Two parts sucking and be certain he takes a left rather than a right out the door.

Misty thanks for the clarification...no wonder I keep wandering around those hotels aimlessly...turn left...turn left! Great post in general...hoping for that kind of experience in Chicago! lol

Worst hotel in Mpls is the Radisson.  You could get lost for days in there.  Reminds me of the old dorm rooms in college.

Seeya in Chicago, you bad boy you!

If you do see Misty, you better write down directions to your car 'cuz you won't even remember what the hell color it is, let alone where, when you step out in the hall.

Well, a friend of mine mentioned this thread, and I had to get in on the discussion!  

With regard to wearing stockings and garters under my clothes and being undressed: 1) Pants won’t come off over heels.  If the heels come off, the man wants to put them back on, or makes the sad puppy face that they’re off.    Okay, I can put the heels back on, but that seems as clinical as getting undressed someplace else.  2) As the pants come off, so do the stockings.  The garter belt that should hold them up only holds them up in 4 places while the rest get wrinkly, and the gentleman makes the puppy face about the wrinkles.    {{{sigh}}}  Okay, wear a skirt.  3) Well, if I’m out in public (more to the point if I leave my house in this outfit), my skirt has to cover the tops of my stockings, even while I walk.  Okay, wear a longer skirt.  4) If I walk in with a skirt that lightly brushes my knees, it’s the sad puppy face and the comment on how much sexier it would have been to wear a shorter skirt.   {{{another sigh}}}

Speaking only for myself, I admit that much of my motivation for taking the process to a different room is that I’ve never managed to completely reconcile the practicalities {{amateur}} and have always been awed by the women who have.  Well, at least I’ve mastered the taking-off-of-the-bra-while-still-wearing-the-shirt (although not during dates)!  

~Taylor

Taylor..No matter how you complete your process the end result is always awesome.  As you mention, you need wear respectable clothes when you leave your house which is why you move to the other room to change into something more sexy than you already have on.  I for one have never been disappointed by any of your outfits or process.  There is still enough lingerie on to complete to erotic act of the undressing/unwrapping the present.

Taylor is one lady that could make a pair of sweat pants look sexy.

When you see Taylor she is always dressed to knock out any guy (sometimes I'm sure gals as well).  Her dress attire is awesome and the clothes are always guaranteed to create comments.

What is truly amazing to me, is that when there are no longer clothes but beautiful lingerie (sp?), the result is more spectacular as when she is fully clothed.

So, in conclusion, no criticism of your approach lady, only ooohhh's and aaahhhhh's  

Hangin

Taylor,

I always like to read when you post, you write your thoughts out so well! thanks!  I laughed when I read about the skirt issue, I have run into the same problems and I love to wear garters and stockings. Maybe I am just getting old and crazy, haha, but a few years back I tryed wearing them underneath a longer riding skirt with boots with no panties and now I prefer to do it all the time that is, when I wear a skirt to a date, it just makes you feel hot even on the way to the meeting and to get there and have the guy run his hands up and feel the surprise of skin and more than that, is very exciting This how-ever does not work with a short skirt haha, unless you are feeling especially daring or don't forget not to bend over...for anything LOL.

Just alot more than my 2 cents worth, but you did get me to not be too shy and right in here, heehe. Have a good one- J.