not many replys to this post - maybe because as one reads it they are speechless and wonder why the world can't see things "our way."  What a wonderful place this world could be if people could try not to control each other so much, and spend more energy focusing on their own self-improvement. The article calls us "addicts." We are sometimes starved for some touch and affection that comes with no overbearing demands and "strings attached," - and crave the attention of someone who will make us feel special.....even if for a little while, because the world has beaten us up over and over again....   As males we are taught to sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice - ever since the beginning of our species - for the tribe....... sometimes it just takes a little serinity and compassion instead of a pill (As our therapists may tell us),  to make us "OK" in this ugly role we sometimes must fill.........