Yikes, sounds like you are having a rocky start

With all the recent LE activity many providers have tightened up screening.

IF you are going to give out work verification due to not having any references..make sure that the lady is respected and has been around for awhile (most ladies, myself included, have NO interest in ruining anyone's life and commiting professional suicide by not being discrete).  

While I do offer that as an option for gents that can't be screened any other way and feel comfortable doing so..there are a few guidelines that MOST respected providers will follow.
a. she will call in a time frame that YOU pick so that you can answer the phone (just verifying that you work there isn't enough for some ladies since they don't know if you are using someone's name.  Therefore, they want to speak to you on the phone prior and then at work to make sure it's the same person). Many ladies will also call after hours to the main number and then dial your extension.  THEY WILL NOT LEAVE A MESSAGE unless they know ahead of time that it's alright.  If it is alright...most of us will leave a very simple message using our best Betty the Time Life operator voice.

b. They will discuss PRIOR to calling you what company they are supposedly calling from or whatever other story will not raise suspicion.


As far as meeting prior to...many ladies do this but NOT with a male friend instead of them (it kinda hard to feel comfy with a male friend there let alone meeting with him alone).  While I don't employ this method, many ladies go with their gut...I don't see how meeting with a male friend would help her out as far as you not being LE or a psycho. All it will do is let YOU know that there is someone watching her back.  

I would feel uncomfortable with that if I were a hobbyist (there are many risks  that go along with this..they now know what car you are driving, your plate number etc. There goes your privacy) While I am not saying that this is the reason why she employs this method, it is something you should consider. Every girl does things differently...different strokes for different folks but while her safety is important..SO IS YOURS.  There is a middle ground for everything.

Date-check is a wonderful service that screens you and we don't have access to your personal info.  It also allows for last minute apts with many ladies.  It is used by many respected providers.  It has a touring section, a local section and the ladies profiles are linked to their sites and TER reviews.  Once you start seeing ladies they provide references by your member name all in one snazzy profile.

Try putting up a post (if it's allowed) saying what you are looking for and what the situation is.  Many ladies see gents with no references and screen by gut, prior meeting etc.

Sorry for the wordy post,
Missy