Good morning!!

Hi Alana,

Alana, that's terrible!  Some cancellations are unavoidable of course (e.g. appointment is made a few days in advance and then the gentleman is called to go out of town on business at the last minute), but NCNS without a really good reason (and a followup) is unforgivable in ANY case, for clients or providers.  So sorry you had this bad experience on your first visit to Minnesota.  Hopefully it will not dissuade you from returning some day, and if you do you may want to ask local providers for help in screening clients, so you know who is likely to be courteous, and respectful of your valuable time.

...really answer. I notice you just got a very nice shill today on this board.
I've noticed that the Twin Cities really gets a lot of repeat visiting ladies as well as many first time visitors. I have to assume that the reason many ladies are repeat visitors is because they do well here. I'm sorry that you're getting flaked and cancelled on. You have stellar reviews and appear to be very pretty....just my type. Maybe it takes a few visits to build a reliable clientele here, I don't know. Personally, I am the type who tries to live up to my commitments all of the time; or I don't make them to begin with.
Again, sorry for your run of inconsiderate behavior.  

My guess is that you've got to stick with guys who have solid references, a review history, whitelist or P411.  Just as there are providers who are high-quality and won't cancel without notice, there are hobbyists who are the same.  But there are also hobbyists who get their thrills just from contacting the provider, and have no intention of following through.

Thanks everyone for your input! I only see gents who have several references from reputable providers or are verified on TER, p411, etc. that's what's most frustrating that these gents were all verified by other providers!! I guess at this point I'm just beating a dead horse!

I follow a few providers on twitter that I have seen before or would like to see in the future. There are four on tour in different cities all complaining about the same. One is in Chicago another in New Orleans. The one in New Orleans requires a deposit to make a appointment and she still had no shows. Something is definitely strange when you would no show and lose a deposit. She is a former porn star so her rates are not low and she gets 30% deposit so we are not talking small amounts.  
To all the gents that cancelled on Alana believe me you don't know what you missed

I have a theory that a lot of NCNSs whether guys or gals come from a handful of repeat offenders.  The ladies are generally reluctant to call the guys out publicly on this issue, so they continue to get away with it.  

Yeah.  This story repeats all around the boards.  Deposits are going to be commonplace soon.  get your "Hobby" credit card ready boys!

Hi Alana,

59 appointment made and completed, two cancellations that I made (both 24 hours plus in advance) and 9 cancellations by providers (most inside of 24 hours). I have never NCNS'd.

Thanks for letting us all know what a great guy you are.  I would never have known how reliable you are, if you hadn't posted your amazing statistics.  I guess its too bad, that you are batting "59" and only seeing well reviewed ladies, but for some reason don't make the effort to write a review that might help the rest of us.   I sure hope Alana reads this, and reaffirms your opinion that you are a true model hobbyist.

Realp4u: I’m sorry that my statement came off as braggadocios. That was not my intent. I know that you have been hobbying for a lot longer and seen many more ladies. I truly wanted to know if my experience was typical. You talk about posting reviews to help others out, what about answering the question to help other out? You also have been around long enough to know that just because you don’t see my reviews, doesn’t mean they aren’t there. I have in the past posted many, and if you bother to search my handle on the board you will see that I regularly shill for the ladies I see.

Rick-you offered to write me a review and I turned you down knowing the men who enjoyed writing them would.  It is just fine with me if you do not elaborate our fun to the world. Thank you for being a courteous gentleman.

But I'm not interested in "street cred". I have my p411 referrals and that's all I need.

Couldn't have said it better myself.... And Rick, I wouldnt sweat it. Some people simply aren't happy if they're not critizing someone or busy judging others.  

What's your fucking problem

It's nice to know there are some adults on the board.

If out numbers are typical, I get cancelled on as a client about half as often as you do as a provider. Would you say that P411 or TER WL clients are any more or less dependable than you other clients?  

Armour has a personal frustration with Casper the ghost: Let it go, and do not attack on a public forum.  
Here is my rule: I will never be upset/fuming/frustrated about anyone for more than 3 days.  Life is too short, to be lived with a frown. Let things go: Smile and Be happy.

Who needs to give a review to every lady he sees to earn "street cred" on TER? I've been in this a long time. I use to have many reviews under another handle. Now, P411 and my reputation with the providers that know me is all I need.  
I too have been called a troll by some on this board because I have no reviews, or "street cred". I've been posting for years on this board, As I've said in a previous post, I have my reasons for changing handles.  
Never, ever give out TMI, that was my mistake. You can meet strange people in this hobby. Thus, the change in handles with no reviews.  

Casey, in my case it bothers me so much because the opportunity for me  comes about so rarely.  I live a long way away from the cities and for me to see a provider is a treat.  I need to schedule special time and set aside money in advance.  A NCNS pretty much ruins my day.

Posted By: CaseyCase

 

Posted By: alanaalexander

Good morning!!  
     
  Let me first say that I'm not one to post on boards but my frustration has gotten the best of me! I have finally made my first trip to this very pretty city!! The problem I'm having is that it seems that some of the gentlemen here don't respect providers time! I have had several Ncns and even more cancellations!! I'm extremely frustrated by this because my time is valuable just as anyone else's is! I'm hoping to get some insight as to whether it not this a common occurrence because at this point I will never come back here!! I just wanna know if this is just a fluke or are gents in Minneapolis just this flaky?

   
 I get cancelled on all the time too, although I'm local and not on tour. For a while about 1/3rd would cancel (usually with 24 hrs or less notice), now it's down to about 1/4th or maybe a little less since I switched a few things around. But still, it's kind of ridiculous, and not much can be done about it. Especially since most people who cancel on me never bother rescheduling  
   
 I always wonder why hobbyists complain about providers cancelling on them, since it happens to me the other way around so often. FTR, I try not to cancel on hobbyists unless something unavoidable has happened (which does happen sometimes-- I'm not perfect. But I definitely don't cancel on 1/4th or 1/3rd of my dates.) Maybe both sides just suck... lol

I know one lady said she had over 800 emails in her inbox I keep her busy answering all my stupid questions
I hate waiting for replies and going back and forth can be frustrating when simple phone call would solve everything.
I also like to hear a ladies voice before I meet.
On flip side it’s a pleasant surprise and nice touch when I come in the morning and I have an email waiting for me from her even if it is just how are you can’t wait to see you or there is a picture attached

This has certainly been an interesting discussion!  I hope that the answer is not simply that MN men are flaky.  I need to believe that's not the case.  Everyone hobbies under different circumstances, and I think we all understand that sometimes cancellations are unavoidable, on both sides.  I this thread also shows that both providers and clients are generally understanding of cancellations (although disappointed) if they are treated like an adult and communicated with as far in advance as possible.

or not.  I try not to cancel, but I've had to on occasion.  I never NCNS, however.

And I am so grateful.

Yeah, but you are Élan. The carnal and sensual experience that awaits the gent cannot compare to any meeting he would need to attend. There are other providers for other stuff, but only one Élan. If we irritate you, we are screwed - not literally since we all know the rules.  

just that there is communication.   Many ladies do not have text on their phone and lead very busy lives.  Many of us do not have the time to text back and forth all day long.   And, when I am with other people, it is
rude to be on the phone texting.

He simply related his own personal experiences.  Giving him crap about it is uncalled for.

And while I am sorry this has happened and understand why you would not want to come back, I also hope you would give the TCs a 2nd chance.