Last Thursday I wanted to use a provider, and the independent provider told me that she will need me to have one or two references, before I am able to go to her.  I am totally new to this hobbie, in fact that was my first call to a provider.

My question is who do I go to and get my feet wet in this hobbie, then use that provider as a reference, for the provider I really want to go to.  Is there a protocol to this, that I have to follow?  Please advise, Thanks.

Not all providers will ask that but you must understand the high risk we take every time we see new clients.  This is why most popular escorts ask because of this high risk.  And as far as having to follow that would be a yes if you want to be seen by her.  Providers have rules for good reason and it is scary that you ask if you have to follow the rules.......

If a provider doesnt want a refrence you should consider to NOT SEE HER. There has been a flux recently in men(not gentlemen) who have previously been active in seeing NON REPUTBALE providers and have gotten fed up and have just recently bought computers so that they can minmize their lost$$$$$ spent on rip off providers ect.  These men call at 11am to a provdier who doesnt know them from adam and says hi my name is joe where is your incall?  And by the way can I have a 1pm appt.  I have no problem going out on  a limb last minute for a sweet person I have seen before!! But um JOE joe who ...and do  I know you? Have some respect..if I dont respect you I will not see you or if I am with you I can not get turned on by someone I dont respect.  And if you dont have respect for our saftley as well as your own there are plenty of girls in MSp who would be happy to see your $$$ than you as a person!!!!
AS I have said before there are...
streetwalkers ie crack heads
escorts ie cp and some eros with pimps who lead raunchy sp? lifestyes ect
call girls
and there are courteseans ahh my spelling is terrible must be jet laghehe

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The Ladies do take a big risk seeing new guys, especially in a town where LE has proven themselves to be complete a**holes, willing to spend the taxpayers' money to stop "crime" that basically involves two consenting adults discreetly doing something that harms no one.

My recommendation is to check around, and find Ladies who will take a chance on you. Be prepared to provide other screening information, and be careful to do nothing to set off alarm bells. Once you have seen a Lady or two, you will have references, and off you go

It's like jobs - the good ones are available only to people with experience, so sometimes you need to start flipping burgers at Mickey D's, then work your way up to bigger & better things. Same deal with the Ladies - the ones who are most in demand can best afford to be choosy, so you may need to start at the Mickey D level and work your way up.

Which Ladies are the Mickey D's?  JESUS, I am not THAT stupid! For the record, I think they are all sublime creatures with whom I am exceedingly fortunate to be able to spend my time. But if you widen your horizons a bit and communicate like a decent guy, you will find some Ladies who will take a chance on you. And the fact that they will doesn't mean that you will have a bad time, only that at that particular time, that particular Lady is not in a position to be quite as cautious as some other Ladies.

Good Luck!

Although I agree with most of your points, I'd like to take issue with one: I never considered that asking for a "spur-of-the-moment" appointment was a sign of disrespect.

I usually partake in this hobby on a whim and don't schedule days or weeks in advance. That's why I was a big fan of MGC as they were always happy to accomidate my business on a momment's notice.

I guess my point is: If you don't feel comfortable making same-day appointments with new clients, that's fine, but not all of us are jerks for requesting it.

have slipped through the cracks..trust me the good guys stand out like blackand white next to the ....Fatmann hope this isnt too personal but he is an example of someone who had never seen someone before but the way he went about trying to set up and appointment and more than two months in advance  and a multi hour and  he provided more than enough info ect ect..so I took a chance and he was the sweetest thing ever!  Sometimes men contact me who have been out of the hobby and from other parts of the country or newer to the hobby ect and they just sound so respectful and understanding to the point that I almost want to tun right over to their hotel and hug them!!!  Now in the case of one of those tonight I still said no and also I have an appointment later with someone who has been in my calendar since late march early april and I cant handle more than one a night!!  I would pass out..hehe thats the fun part.  Anyway once in a big while and only three times with me good guys slip through

"... so I took a chance and he was the sweetest thing ever!"

Geez, Catherine, he's going to be really pissed off that you said such a thing about him. I would sure hate it if a sweet, sexy, lovely Lady said that about ME in public!  

Hey Dude.....
I don't think you'll ever have to worry about the ladies
saying anything good about you in public.

I also agree with what Bo Bo has stated, I  don't feel as though
I am being disrepespectful by asking for a short notice appt.
But I do agree with Madison that it is only fair to provide
references for that first time seeing a provider and then after
that it is up to the provider to set the frame work as to
weather she will allow for short notice type requests.