Good evening/morning, depending how you look at it. I hope that nobody considers this off base for the forum. I 'm just attempting to delve into the depths of human sexuality; partially to satisfy curiosity, and also to improve  "application" of the art. I'm wondering what is something that would stand out, or wow you, about a provider. How could she help you have a wonderful time. I know obviously having real photos,good looks, being prompt, your chemistry, and her willingness to satisfy are  all obvious answers and factors when it comes down to it. But i'm looking for what adds that oomph!  Is it her being dressed accordingly, her demeanor, a particular skill or action you desire. I obviously have my own little checklist of things that attract me to particular hobbysits or a "type." I would just like receive a nice consensus. I feel this is educational for all. If you'd rather PM me, or not answer at all....completely understandable. Thanks everyone



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You ask what makes a gal stand out, or WOW us, and these guys give you 'escorting 101'. Don't count the money during a session? Don't answer the phone during a session? WTF.

Not that I disagree with any of the points made in this thread, but come on guys, if that's all it takes for you to be blown away by the experience, then you need to start injecting your viagra intravenously.

I haven't had a lot of WOW moments in P4P, nor have I had many complaints. Though you wouldn't know it from reading all the drama on these boards, most of the time it's a very simple, headache-free transaction. And most of the time it has no profound effect, no moving of mountains, no shaking the Earth to it's core, just an entertaining diversion that in a month or two, I'll remember very few of the actual details to. We meet, we fuck, I leave, I go about my business. Not much different than a one night stand in the mainstream world. And that's just fine.

What it takes to wow me is raw sexual energy, bold, uninhibited, unabashed, no holds barred, thunder-fucks-lighting. Cause as much as these guys like to harp on the trivial details, what this all boils down to is a good fuck.

Inevitably someone will chime in here yapping about the "companionship" part - and that's cool, and not to be overlooked - but refuse to take your clothes off or give a blow job and see how business does. It is what it is.

Expanding the menu never hurt anyones business. Anyone know who invented the gyro?

Taboo is the name of the game for some guys. Watch lots of porn, it makes billions of dollars for a reason and we all know who the clientelle is - guys like girls who do the things that girls supposedly don't do.

A good dirty talker usually wins points.

Resisting the urge to laugh or slap the shit out of us when we start talking dirty back to you also helps.

Being open minded about various kinks/fetishes, and openly suggesting or sharing your own peaks interest - even if the dude has no interest in it, there is something arousing about just knowing you're kinky enough to do certain things.

Don't try wasting our time with one of those bullshit "massages" if you don't actually know how to, or aren't willing to put some effort in to, give an actual decent massage. That has become the new M.O. and it's fucking annoying.

Strip naked except for a pair of neon green moon boots and a big red Wonder Woman cape, cover yourself in maple syrup and start doing the funky chicken while belting out "Fuck you like an Animal" while using your pussy to queef out the bass line. No, that is not at all arousing, but I would definitely say WOW, and never forget you.

Or, you could just stay perfectly vanilla, and make every session a quid-pro-quo run through of all the typical acronyms, BBBJ, DATY, mish, K9, yada yada like the majority of girls do. Because most providers are just plainly average on so many levels, but they do just fine for themselves. Not everyone is cut out to be more than average. And hey, being an average escort beats being an average night manager at K-Mart.

But if you wanna be a rockstar, you can't just sing cover songs, you have to be courageous enough to share actual pieces of yourself. Write your own song and play it fucking loud, and we'll all wanna rock with you.    


Good Luck

If I believe that you really want to be with me, things would get off to a great start. If I get the feeling that you are just putting in your time the session would go downhill from there.

I don't know if this is what you're looking for or not, but a playfulness makes the time more fun and memorable for me. Being able to laugh with a beautiful woman while naked is a treat.

Nor is being on time - "going the extra mile".

But it is a killer. Everytime I do this I'm borrowing the time to do it from something else that needs doing. No, you will not impress me by being on time. You win no points for that, it's expected of you, and if you don't do it, shit tends to go down hill fast, and you'll definitely stand out, but not in a good way. But I digress.

No part of being exceptional at what you do, involves any of these common sense suggestions, which are merely good business practice. Going the extra mile is something entirely different.

Some of the "obvious" things are much more important than is commonly acknowledged. Among those, being ready and on time is critical; the word prompt leaves wiggle room.

If you read enough reviews, you'll notice a pattern of bad reviews following a mix-up or lateness (just look two threads down).

Ever notice how good it feels when you go to, say, a doctor appointment at 3 pm, you check in (without having to wait) at 2:59, and at 3:00 your name is called? You feel great, in fact. You feel like your time is respected and that you will be well taken care of - that you're in caring, capable hands.

Or, conversely, how irritated you feel when 3:35 rolls along - or how you're ready to give up if yet another 15 minutes passes? And how tiresome it is if the nurse takes your vitals and you sit waiting for the doctor for another 15 or more minutes or more? Then the doctor asks how you're doing!??

The truth is you're likely irritable and worn down - and the choice is to lie and say everything's fine or tell the truth. Neither leads to the best outcome because the provider has already failed to provide good service. Makes it much harder to slip into friendly banter and a good session. It doesn't matter how good the doctor's demeanor or skills are at that point. The irritation most often lingers and taints all that follows despite any attempts to let it go.

When we say the lateness if fine, we're usually lying to ourselves and you.

For me, the first impressions set the tone.  A genuine smile, a warm hug, a passionate kiss--especially DFK--really help to "make" a session.  As an "old guy," I don't need 59 minutes of panting, ramming, sweating sex.  A slow, sensual beginning, maybe disrobing each other, really makes it for me.  Lying together, talking and stroking--or kissing and stroking--are great.  The sex will take care of itself.  It's how we arrive at it that's critical for me.

Speaking of disrobing, I posted on the GD board recently about this: I really like it when I can slowly take the provider's clothes (or robe) off, and she does the same to me.  It similates sex in the civvie world, getting to first base, second base, third base, and then finally home plate!  So, to come out of the bathroom with her lying naked on the bed already--while I appreciate her quick availability, that doesn't do it for me so much as a chance to slowly take each other's clothes off.

My two cents.  

Convince me we are both there to have a good time.

Timeliness is also very important but if something does delay you, don't leave me hanging.  Keep in touch with accurate updates and as many are needed.  I understand unexpected things can and do happen.

just not real big on redundancy, which is about all this thread has provided - guys telling her what she has already plainly stated in her post that she is keenly aware of.

My opinion does not dissent from any of those posts - all valid points - but NOT an answer to her question.

If you lack the wherewithal, or the creativity to say anything out of the box or beyond the obvious, don't be mad at me because I can.

Don't take calls or even look at your phone during a session
Don't be a one-and-done kinda girl that goes to the bathroom or starts getting dressed 10 seconds after round 1.
Don't take regulars for granted and stop being as prepared as the first time you saw them.  (its almost predictable that a girl will start cutting corners on preparedness - showing up in the same clothes you would wear to the supermarket, hair tied back in a pony tail, no makeup.  
Don't tell a guy to stop and pick up condoms because you ran out
Don't talk about your SO or other clients during a session

Those that have hit a home run with me have been able to make me truly feel as though it was as enjoyable for them as for me, whether actually true or not.  So do what it takes to be mentally prepared to get really into it.

From a couple months ago, this was my response to what helps make a "10."

The prereq of timeliness met, this still holds, and in that order.

Second that emotion!  Excellent points.  (eom)

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At least you know your strengths and play to them. It's all good - nerdy chicks with dirty secrets are hot!

Red riding hood for sure - so I could play the big bad wolf. "Oh my, mr wolf, what a huge **** you have!" LMAO

Do smile as much as you can, especially when he arrives.
Do shower and clean up and remove every possible trace of the guy before him.
If you smoke, do as much as you can to remove the smell from you and your room.
Do compliment him on whatever you can.  He will compliment you back times three.
Don't count the donation if he has references.  It is very rare that a legitimate hobbyist will short a lady.
Do look at him at times while give bj.
Do send him a text right after the session thanking him for coming and asking him to see you again.  Regulars are the key to this business, so get them and keep them by not taking them for granted.
Promptly answer emails and texts.

Do this and you will see great reviews coming in and your regulars will keep coming back.  The key is that some hobbyists want a release.  Most want an experience.  If they leave with an experience, they will come back.

When you have an appointment with someone who has submitted reviews, read those reviews to learn what he really likes during a session and then try to fulfill those same desires. Even w/o reviews from a particular client, look at reviews with really high ratings and hone your skills on those things that guys really like.

Good luck.

but "escorting 101" seems to be undervalued by all but the top providers. As for the rest, to each his own; there won't be a consensus.

I actually thought he had a good point.  The OP stated the following:

"I know obviously having real photos,good looks, being prompt, your chemistry, and her willingness to satisfy are  all obvious answers and factors when it comes down to it. But i'm looking for what adds that oomph!  Is it her being dressed accordingly, her demeanor, a particular skill or action you desire."

Simply rehashing the "obvious" (however undervalued you believe them to be) wasn't what she was looking for when she started this thread.

But ... sometimes you just might find ...
You get what you need

Rolling Stones: You Can't Always Get What You Want

LOL!!  I DO NOT repeat DO NOT Massage.  I suck at it and I know I do!  Much better in the BBBJ dept.  Just saying.... I know my strengths and weaknesses!  
My theory has always been to just be myself and it works for me!  I'm a nerd who likes to laugh.  I don't like high heals or those panties that go up my ass.  Not my thing!  However, being me is so much easier than trying to be a fake.  I am comfortable being me and always have a good time.  I also seem to attract men I get along with and have fun with.  Average and plain to one is stellar and exciting to the next.   Thank goodness we are all so different and our opinions vary.  What a boring world it would be otherwise.  

find a doctor's office that works like your first example? Getting in within 15 minutes makes my day! And they wonder why a person's blood pressure is up! Is a doctors office the dumbest place ever to take ones blood pressure!?

You know if there was a business person running every doctors office, we would not have this health care problem and everyone could afford it. i think the biggest problem with health care is too much of it is run by doctors! Where in the hell did they ever get trained to run a business?

So were you thinking a Super Woman kind of thing or more Red Riding Hoodish?

The lipstick stains were just too much! She deffinately left an "impression".

Very Funny Stuff.

I quit two very good doctors in the past for that very reason.

And following your minor stray from topic, the only place I've not had to wait (well, except for blood draws) is the V.A. If you have an appointment, 9:00 am most often means 9:00 am. (The walk-in is an entirely different story, though.)

A woman truly enjoying herself is the sexiest thing in the world.

Hey, I never said they all had common sense, just that such things ARE common sense.

And my point was that having common sense is not equivical to going the extra mile, it's only having common sense.

It's a real shame if things are so bad that we have to shower them with praise, simply for not being stupid.

I can think of several sweet young things that would have scored a 9 or 10 from me if they had simply executed without any of the common sense do nots.  Because in all other aspects they did go the extra mile but then totally fuck it up by looking at their phone while I was just about to bust a nut doing them doggy style.  

Its kinda like the star NFL receiver who decides to hotdog his way across the finish line for a certain touchdown but then accidentally fumble the ball on the one yard line.