I only do outcall, and have the envelope/card ready on my coffee table. I don't give token gifts, but if she is a good provider I'll see her again. I do make sure I have plenty of un-opened drinks for her choosing. Fresh clean bedding, and fresh from the shower myself.
One should get a sense from the provider before showing up with very visible gifts (apart from the unsealed white envelope kind). Some are worried about the appearance when too many guys show up bearing flowers or such.
Maybe, but a bottle of wine (or anything) in a bag is not going to raise concerns. It means a lot to us, shows that you feel we are special, beyond what the donation says. Plus it's like showing up for dinner party. It's just polite 😋
If it’s an early appointment, I sometimes bring breakfast.
I just find a way to discretely slip it out of my pocket and leave it where it will be easily seen.
I always make it a point to bring something as a token gift. It’s part of making the connection a little more special and letting the provider know you appreciate her efforts towards having a amazing time. Also, a extra tip of varying amounts from time to time to discreetly added to the envelope.
In retrospect, I’ve never regretted it.
I like how you think and I'm so glad you've never regretted it!
Crumpled 20's? I'm a sock full of quarters guy myself.
Reminds me of many years ago, when a woman told me I looked like Clint Eastwood—back when he was much younger. I don’t think I look much like Clint, then or now, but I appreciated the comment.
Anyhoo, I always use an envelope (with a card if it’s a special occasion like her birthday), I often bring a gift, but I don’t roll as well as I used to (getting older LOL).
Ooh, I like that version!
But I LOVE when it happens, it means more to me than you gents know, even if just a small thing like chocolate or a single flower. It's much appreciated and warms my goth heart lol 🖤
I feel that if you bring something special or different, you will be remembered and maybe make the initial ice more easily melted. I have found that leaving the body lotion that i make in my clinic and use on the lady while i massage them is always a favorite to leave as a memory. I also bring healthy treats that I make to pass out ie. mini blueberry muffins, and homemade healthy chocolates. if you really want to be remembered pay some of your tuition with new two dollar bills.....works great while eating out with waitress in diner so it seems to also work as we dine in 
in this day and age whatever you can do to stand out may get you invited back.
I always use an envelope for my donation and though I TRY to be discrete, I am sometimes embarrassing clumsy with it. I routinely bring a gift also. The gift is often a really good candy but if time allows I also brig a snack to share.
I mean I might sound like a douche but you're already paying the chick for her services and now guys are expected to bring an extra gift.. If she's giving me a discount I might bring it gift but other than that, I'm already paying out the ass for services rendered, not going to give extra. The only exception would be as if we had connection outside of the business
Douche…no might, you do sound like douche…again
Kinky showing his cheap ass…again.
“if she gives me a discount“ which means you’re negotiating…again
“I'm already paying out the ass for services rendered”… bitching about paying for it…again
Hey you never told us if you got the “special” (discount), after the provider was done running it on twitter? When you were told by experienced members on this board not to do it. How did that turn out?
Now you’re gonna go into your rant about how I said I was never gonna respond to your posts, (I changed my mind you’re just too easy and fun to troll), call me names and then tell me I have a hard-on for you.
(It is more of a semi-chub)
Well who do we have here fellas, this disingenuous fool coming back for more. "Now you’re gonna go into your rant about how I said I was never gonna respond to your posts, (I changed my mind you’re just too easy and fun to troll)"...
Well I know you look like a troll, which probably explains why you have to pay for pussy, oh wait, that's mean of me to say.
You seriously need to get a life and find something constructive and meaningful to do in your life and stop worrying about me. I mean the attention is nice but I'm not into guys.
Oh and thank you for your concern about the results of the Twitter special question I post and if it worked out. Sadly, no but another lady did provide a special not too lond after and I had a spectacular time and saved some cash..Best of both worlds.. take care kram while you agitate others and jerkoff in your mom's basement.
I learned shortly after getting into the hobby, I learned a little gift is appreciated. I always bring on the first visit, at least a nice Dark Chocolate bar. If I am repeating, and I have gotten to know her, some flowers, a bottle of wine, or a liqueur of her choice, or a craft beer if that what she enjoys. One lady requested sushi.
I feel not following proper protocol, money in a plain white envelope, or a card, placed where directed, shows a lack of disrespect. But thats just me!!!
Is that possibly why you in your reviews never seem short changed but leave as happy as anyone?
I believe it helps, along with being a gentlemen, and showing respect.
I genuinely believe that most providers do fall in line with the phrase, "Gifts are never expected or required but are greatly appreciated." I do believe the majority of us understand that there are a lot of clients out there that have to save their funds for quite some time before they can see us so we're just grateful that they wanted to see us. I think we understand that at the end of the day as long as our time is compensated all is well. But I'll be the first to admit that clients who dote on me do get a different level of access.
And gifts do not have to be luxury items. There are some clients who do like giving luxury things so we put them on wishlists but practical gifts are just as appreciated, if not more-so sometimes. Example of non-luxury gifts I've received and loved: Stockpile gift cards (to but stock), gift cards to retailers, 10 day boarding pass for my dog to be boarded, fuel gift cards. What do these gifts have in common? They make life a bit easier and these gift cards were not exorbitant and have ranged from $25 - $75. Now over time they do add up so there is that. Regardless, these are the kind of clients who can message me at the last minute and I'll try to work my schedule around to see them. They can text me in between appointments just to chat for a bit. They'll get first dibs at my summer date packages this year.
In addition, I know providers will also gift their clients things. Literally was having a chat with a group of providers about good gifts for long-term regular clients (1year+). Agains, gifts are never required or expected but if we are being honest, the gesture of gift giving is not lost on us.
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I usually try to look at the providers ads, personal websites or Twitter page to get an indication of what they like and in many cases bring a bottle of wine or alcohol…. And not to share during the session. I like bringing something they can enjoy later and always hope that it makes them remember me fondly and helps set up positive vibes for the next time we meet. I have brought gifts other than alcohol but have never brought flowers. I always use an envelope for the donation.
For me, first session is always. I like to set the vibe early, one of appreciation for them seeing me and let’s have fun.
If we click and become a regular, then I like to try to be more creative with gifts.
My ATF was from Northern Minnesota where I am from. I brought her a lot of Iron Range delicacies; Porchetta, poticia, walleyes, venison and pasties. She absolutely loved it.
I enjoy cooking. I have brought bone broth, (I make really good bone broth), homemade spaghetti sauce, soup and even a little egg bake for an early morning session.
Lingerie
Package of wife beater tank tops (every Women can use white tank tops)
gift cards; Target, caribou coffee, VonHassen Meats (nothing says I care like to gift of meat)
Wine
Weed, (provider a dependent)
Toys
Like I said I just enjoy giving gifts.
Hey Kinky, then I will even leave a tip. 😱
I appreciate the effort to turn something that is transactional into something more personal. To me, it adds to the anticipation and allure of a connection about to happen. Some of my favorite gifts... whiskey, perfume, flowers, a line drawing of me from a pic a client took, a song written for me and played in person (naked), oh yeah...my little red Mercedes.
Seriously though...I am so grateful for my clients and the investment of their time and personal space with me. I love what I do and my opportunity to share my sexual energy is a gift in itself.
