That rule probably served a purpose when there were actual providers regularly posting. Now that it is a ghost town, at least provider-wise, the rule is a bit archaic.
I am a sexologist (says every escort, but seriously I have my PhD in Human Nature and live what I study ) so I am constantly studying sex and it's affect on society, culture, and relationships. I have been pondering this thought, even as far back as original sin. A fella told me in a session, while explaining how we arrived in my orbit/bed, that "variety leads to necessity". This was an amazing insight from a very aware man. What are your thoughts regarding this as it pertains to relationships or the hobby? Providers and Hobbyists I am sure will have different reactions, I know I did. No judgment zone, simply asking a question and excited to hear responses.
… I’m not sure what he meant by “variety leads to necessity.” Could you give us your take on that?
In my case, it’s more like “necessity leads to variety.” That is, the necessity created by unmet needs led to seeking sexual intimacy with more than one woman. Why more than one? Because one would be too akin to an affair or have too much risk of developing into an affair. That’s also why I enter the orbits only of professionals. With a civvy relationship, you never know if the other person is content being a “friend with benefits” or wants something more, which I’m unable to give.
My read would be that the ability to enjoy the variety of relationships hobbying provides leads to the necessity of maintaining the variety afforded each of us. And also that the variety (or lack thereof) some of us receive at home leads to the ‘necessity’ of the hobby.
Likewise, being a provider and pleasing a wide variety of clients doesn’t dull the senses for a ‘genuinely present’ provider but actually provides more motivation to share your passion with every suitor.
Related, as someone who has (very much) enjoyed Jersey Girl’s company, I can safely say she goes beyond expectations ‘one’ would have of a provider, and as a hobbyist….well, my motivators will remain for me to know!
Yea, this is just a way to get her name in front of us. Post a bunch of gibberish about some sort of esoteric quest she's engaged in to find true meaning in her work. I call BS on this, the true meaning in her work is collecting money and shes the first one to tell you this if you short the envelope. Nothing wrong with that but TER shouldnt allow these posts since its essentially free advertising for the providers.
You’re entitled to your opinion, but I appreciate all attempts by providers (and other members) to start threads that aren’t about the Same Old Stuff. Jersey Girl’s post above is in that category. And if you knew her, you’d know she’s a fascinating, multi-faceted person who likes to delve into questions like the one she asked.
... to want variety in his sex life. Getting back to primal needs/responsibility, we provide the seed for regeneration of the human race and nature calls us to seek out fertile environment for that. Morality and our current culture naturally conflict with that desire. Some men are better at keeping those inner needs tamped down, some are not. Myself, when I see a shapely ass and substantial milk production potential, I simply want to smash!
Does love for a woman stop those primal urges? Maybe sets them on hiatus for a bit but I really don't think so....
On a subconscious level it is just the baser instincts we were taught about evolution and perpetuation of the species to seek out many mates. On an intellectual level we strive for monogamy and the idea of true love instead of perpetuation of the species and safety from disease so condoms are used and one mate is preferred. But as they say the grass is always greener or we want what we can't have. Just some thoughts.
It was very interesting to read your comments. I am of the train of thought that this phrase sort of lends itself to personality type or coping skills.. I know for me, before being a provider, I had limited experiences with men. When I discovered how sexual I am (variety) it did in fact lead to a necessity for fill in the gap... freedom, expression, touch, desire, intimacy, knowledge, diversity, change, and divorce. This is fun to play with because it challenges my nature to want to rationalize who I am and why I do things. In the end, there is no right or wrong, we are all just having the human experience called life and some people are adventurers and others are collectors, perhaps some need and others just want, while others prefer comfort and routine. I am always in awe of you men creating solutions that fill your cup and my mouth with...well, you know.
You continue to make it clear that if the day ever comes and you actually find a way to get laid, it will be with the lowest piece of hanging fruit available if not some half decayed thing laying in the dirt.
I do just fine . What I don’t need that maybe other fucktards need is some clinical bullshit to understand .
I just condensed it , Mr. Primal needs to spread the seeds.
I’m sure you banged all the young girls of MNE for their mind blowing discussions on life. Then some magical epiphany came to you when communication stopped and then realized I’ll see some of the non cattle trough gals.
Spare me the low hanging fruit shit. You worked that as long as every swinging dick did that may now have difficulties with communications with them.
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