Are there any formal/informal gatherings planned to remember the one-year anniversaries of the fall of the Minnesota Nice Guys/MyFastPass groups?

Is that something to celebrate?

By the tone of your message it seems like you attended an anniversary gathering.

How is everyone?

The actions of the Minnesota Nice Guys ended up hurting a lot of people.

They should have been contained by the community rather than authorties.

In any event, all anniversaries are not celebrations.  Some anniversaries can simply be remembrances (e.g., Memorial Day).

The occasion is really not something to celebrate, but rather a time to remember. Personally, it reminds me of the importance of verifying new friends (providers and clients alike) and not always relying on "gentle screening" and verification websites.

Also, it's a good reminder not to jump to conclusions and gossip that someone is involved in something they are not. I remember being featured in online unofficial news outlets and hobby boards taking something I said out of context and implying that I could have been involved. Well, clearly I wasn't as weren't many innocent bystanders. Doh! It's important to be careful of what you type online as people can and will take it out of context.

Further, this day reminds me that the trust we have here can easily be crushed. At anytime, our board will go silent again because everyone is nervous...always. There's not much trust here.

I remember when we were all at each other's throats, not knowing who to take our frustrations out on because our city was in essence shut down. Providers were starving from lack of business and clients were horny as hell because they were too nervous to contact any of the ladies. We were all angry. Of course the make-up sex after the fact was awesome!?

I remember several of us trying to get the board going again to build trust here. I recall arguments about whether or not to post theme day threads, etc. when we were just trying to create some board activity. Gawd we (ladies and gents) were all having PMS for like six months straight!?? Some of us posted waaaaay too much because it felt safer than being completely quiet. Some people don't deal well with change. I don't. Continuing to post made me feel some comfort, as if everything would be ok again...and it was...eventually.

Some of us came up with aliases to lash out. Yes, MNisbullsh*t was me!!! Lol. Well, Minneapolis certainly was bullshit at the time.*blushing*

Anyway, overall I don't think this anniversary is a time to necessarily celebrate, but certainly a time to remember where we were then and how far we have come in one year.

Of course people throw informal gatherings all the time, although they are not official "meet and greets" or they would be treated accordingly. I'm regularly invited to monthly exclusive and truly elite/VIP ($100+++ entrance fees) private parties around the country. Again, they are simply small gatherings but not official meet and greets. And parties will happen everyday in every city. If you're interested in being invited to someone's party, see who's pushing or mentioning the topic (as someone is clearly doing so on this thread) and contact them. Others might be a little more discreet and discuss small gatherings UTR and you just never know they are happening...but they are all the time here. Keep your eyes and ears open. It's that simple.

Xoxo.

Yes, the memories of that time (less than a year ago!) are still fresh.

MyFastPass was a worthwhile attempt to forge a community among a group of individuals (hobbyists and providers) with genuine needs for safety and discretion.

It is still difficult to believe that the selfish motives of a few misguided individuals (Minnesota Nice Guys) spoiled the needs of the many (MyFastPass members).

I will always remember two things:
1.) The disbelief of the ringleader of the Minnesota Nice Guys after learning that the ladies he was "helping" turned on him to assist the law enforcement investigation.  Should he have expected loyalty from individuals with citizenship issues?
2.) During the initial days after the events, a fellow hobbyist -- who I was friends with -- told me to not contact him any longer at his e-mail address.  I have not been in contact with him since that time.

Hi Giamarie,
I like alot of what you have written here.

However, where you wrote:  it was "a time to remember where we were then and how far we have come in one year."

Well, I, for one, don't think we have come very far at all over the last year.  In fact, in many aspects, I think we are losing ground fast. Much of the mutual respect and camaraderie amongst and between hobbyist and provider is no longer there; verbal warfare breaks out on our MN board for practically any reason these days; distrust, confusion and anger runs amuk in our hobby community; and fear seems to be the only constant.   None of this was the norm before the MN Nice Guys/MFP tragedy befell our group.  I say we take back our personal power, give back our fear, and become a "community" again.  

If we are able to take back what we allowed to be taken away, then absolutely this is a time to celebrate.  Not what we lost a year ago... but what we gain today.

I have been thinking about all that has transpired since "The Troubles," as I call the events that went down a year ago.

I do, of course, recall the anxiety and paranoia.

The time before The Troubles was remarkable. MFP established a safe haven for the gals and the guys. It humanized the hobby. Meeting other hobbyists helped me feel less isolated - and more "normal." Meeting the gals socially was so much fun. I know that it made it more comfortable for me, and for the gals I had not yet seen, to connect socially before I made appointments to see them privately. And just having the chance to see and talk to my ATFs was so enjoyable.

MFP created a community. It got too big. It was perhaps doomed from the start. But it was special.

If there is cause for celebration it might be this - that the gals and guys were willing to try and create something like MFP.

Cordially... with best wishes to all...

CordialSport

Are you serious? what is there to celebrate? For the life of me I cannot see one thing to celebrate about the 1 year anniversary of those groups.

and it's unfortunate for us.  We are now a fragmented group, unlike the united community that was developing until they screwed up.  I guess the fear that our civil "servants" bestow upon us is designed to separate us, because after all, there is power in numbers (where two or more are gathered).  When standing together, we can support bridges.  Alone, our legs wobble and shake (well, they wobble and shake after a good roll in the hay, too!).  But, when we stand alone, we have to work So much harder to stay standing!  

God, I wish we could all just Get Along and Chill Out.

I'm just an idealist, living in an Un-Ideal world....let's move to Amsterdam!!!

I miss you guys.

Perhaps you are exaggerating?

Not only to organize let alone just attend. And we still don't know for sure who all on the inside was in on it.

I think this post was started to re-stir trouble and instill fear (again). A celebration of the loss something many of us loved and participated in? To celebrate the fear and total chaos that ensued after?

A few bad apples spoiled the bunch. So unfortunate for many of us that loved the community and camaraderie that MFP gave us. I'm forever grateful to the founder of MFP and feel aweful she got dragged through the mud in all of it... Just like many of us who were victim of unfounded rumors and speculation.

There will never be another like it, unfortunately. But we can move past it and build a more positive community right here.

to create distrust and tear this community apart.  Sadly things will never be the same again.  A fun place for adults to play like adults without hurting anyone.

I was lucky to be part of MFP during my short stay in MN and have experienced nothing like it since.

May be the fates be kind to all involved(except LE!)

I have one question.
Was anyone actually charged with anything?

No need to post names or handles, just weather anyone was charged.

...is going to have a candidate for Governor on the November ballot. Is this true?

Well, the state is renowned for electing Jesse Ventura (former wrestler) and Al Franken (former comic) to high office.

All political dreams are possible in Minnesota!

Clearly, there are several divisions here and some people like to perpetuate silos and constant drama that tears apart the community, but there are others who try to pull us together. There's definitely a loss here. I just try to focus on the good, because it makes me feel better. But you're right that there are a lot of improvements that could be made. Things definitely are not ideal.

MFP held a community role that was relied on and of good value.  May MFP rest in peace and those responsible take pride in what was there for this community.

I toast MFP and fond memories.

The tea party and the MFP party are somewhat different.

I, for one, have never looked at the news media again the same way.  We who supported, enjoyed, and benefited from MFP could instantly see examples where the media just got it wrong and relied on the government's version of the story.

I especially got tired of hearing how the ladies were all such defenseless victims.  When I arrive for a date, I damn well know who is in charge, who has the power, and who is grateful for just an hour of time and attention.

Were it not for MFP, I would never have been introduced to one utterly spectacular massage artist in the northern suburbs.

After law enforcement confiscated his computer, the ringleader of the Minnesota Nice Guys was out of business.  Removing his electronic link to the world was perhaps suitable punishment.

As far as MyFastPass, the leader stood firm in the face of incredible pressures.  Note:  Please see the linked message leading to an external link.

And this was despite being sold down the river by one or more other people.  We will very likely never know who turned on her. I am sure many of us have heard all kinds of rumors, but of course, they are just that and cannot be verified.  

I wish Tiger all the best.  MFP was a wonderful organization and I greatly enjoyed it and the people I met through it.  Unfortunately, it was probably inevitable that eventually LE would go after it.



-- Modified on 6/5/2010 10:10:00 PM

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