Good for you for putting this out there, this is the best we can do to keep folks accountable, it's good for the hobby.
Ok so I'm new to the hobbie, but i am enjoying my education. So I contact a highly review person, set up a time and start driving out that way. I call as I get close and I get an odd question. Are you Black? I reply Yes, and she says sorry I don't see black guys. I don't have an issue of your preference, I have my own as well, but just put it in your posting so my time is not wasted.. Here's the kicker.. SHE'S BLACK! or the picture she chose to represnt here was that of a black woman. I have run into more of these so i will put their links below..keep in mind they are all black.. BTW I know some of you may have some racist comments you will want to make, how about you keep that to yourself.
http://eroticservices.cityvibe.com/escorts.php?do=view&p=1880501
http://minneapolis.backpage.com/FemaleEscorts/ready-to-play-mia-100-special-21/2369885
yeah, that sucks. The kicker is that girl in the first link describes herself as, "very open minded."
I can't believe people are still like that in this present day.
well if you have proper references/verification
you're more than welcome to many providers including myself.
1st one is a tin eye red flag, 2nd one looks like BS too for 100 bucks.
Why do you want to see a provider who is basically posting her incall address with maps, directions and everything on her website.
If the link you have posted is correct, this provider is asking for trouble.
in my opinion one of the dumbest things cityvibe could do. for what it's worth i've heard the location is rarely even close to accurate.
I believe it is a little presumptous to automatically assume someone would slam you racially.
I am wondering if warning people, in advance, not to make any racist comments toward you would in itself be playing the race card.
It's not even logical.
Good for you for putting this out there, this is the best we can do to keep folks accountable, it's good for the hobby.
First, I can't recall a single instance of someone making a racist comment on this board. Second, its a shame you are missing out on meeting up with such outstanding women otherwise (not).
I know several providers who screen for race and I have found that black providers are equally restrictive that way. There have been two primary reasons given to me and while I do not wish to get into those specifics, I would characterize it as discriminatory but not racist, if there can be a subtle distinction. The reasons have more to do with stereotypical anatomy distinctions as well as a some perceived social/economical behavior differences.
Personally, given the extreme intimate nature of a provider's services, I think its reasonable for her to discrimate about who she will choose to see. It simply is not the same as providing other types of personal services.
In this business, it is her right to turn down anyone she is not comfortable with but she should put that kind of restriction on her ad and/or website so guys don't waste their time on her. It would be pretty upsetting to make an appointment and actually meet only to have her turn you away the moment she lays eyes on you.
so who was the WELL reviewed provider that turned you away?
I do agree with you in that if they have that preference, they should make it kown on their ads to prevent men from wasting their time.
. . . a misguided attempt to eliminate "thugs" and "gangstas." If so, she's trying to screen for a personality type, and not a skin color, but it comes off that way. If she truly has skin color issues, well, then . . . wow.
Also, I would never have expected posters here to make racist comments, so the warning was needless and thus, somewhat off-putting.
Having said all that, my politics run toward extreme personal liberties, so I fully support the right of anyone to do business with anyone they damn well please, to the point of discriminating, if they so choose, against handsome, balding Finns!
Finally, totally agree with those who said she should state her preferences and requirements up front, in her ad.
Having had sex with women on four different continents, I don't understand. There were all lovely, and it felt equally wonderful. But I cannot say the race of the woman made any difference in sexual pleasure. All humans have the same (male or female) equipment, and it all...mates appropriately.
Now, the culture did make a huge difference in terms of what we did and how we did it. That did make a difference in sexual pleasure and satisfaction.
So maybe the provider is trying to screen by culture based on ethnicity? I would think the accuracy on that metric would be poor at best.
Most people have preferences and dislikes when it comes to their sexual desires. It can be as simple as the color of hair or body type.
I am cool with the preferences that does not bother me at all...it's a problem when providers do not put that on their website or don't say anything during screening.
....and I know the reasons I stated in my previous post sound crazy...but that is what I have been told.
So so sorry this happened to you.
However, it is a bold thing you did to link her information. She is not the only sister on the planet that does not see brothers. There are lots of sister who don't. I won't understand it....but here are the reasons I have heard directly from them:
1. They have pimps who are under the stupid assumption that a black man who hobby must be a pimp and white men cannot possibly be pimps....it's nothing personal they just don't want anyone taking their meal ticket. (isn't that the DUMBEST SHIT YOU EVER HEARD)(and you would be SHOCKED AT WHO IS BEING PIMPED)
2. They have bought into the stereotype that all black men are hung like bulls and want to fuck uncontrollably for the entire length of the session. (the biggest dick I have ever had to have the pleasure of enjoying belongs to a white man....who knew he had a huge dick and was enjoyably gentle with it)
3. They think all brothers are going to thug out on them when they are in session. (there is no way she screens, a simple reference check would have told her that).....no screening? maybe it is best she be left alone......race of her clients not withstanding.
4. They are terrified to black men....ummmmmmm????again she is assuming the only dangerous men are men of color. She has black men in her life who are not terrorizing her....father, grand father, brothers, uncles, cousins, baby daddy....some black man somewhere in her life is on his normal gentlemanly best at all times.....its not a fake game it is how he is wired.
5. They are scared they are not going to be able to control the appointment if a brother gets out of hand....again I am not sure why an out of control black man is any different than an out of control white man?
I have a BUNCH of black clients....and I have NEVER had any drama with any of them....not a single bit of drama.
those are some of the dumbest stereotypes I have ever read.
for me some of the worst stories I've heard from friends about horrible appointment experience - was not from seeing a black man.
very true in my experience as well that some of the largest cocks I've seen were belonging to white men, matter of fact not all Asian men are teeny tiny either.
Thanks everyone for your feedback. I actually dont have a problem with a provider having a preference of her clients. I have a preference in proivders. The problem I have is that their preference wasnt communicated until I was on my way and driving. There are a few providers that list no black men, which to me lets me know where I stand. In the end, its a lesson learned. Now I put on my stereotypical black guy voice more like will smith, less like carlton banks! :0)
I agree with the above comments that the provider should put her preference in her ad up front.
That being said, the dynamics of the hobby and the profession is based upon discrimination. We hobbiests look at the ads and say to ourselves: too heavy; too skinny; too short; too tall; too busty; not busty enought, etc., etc.
I would submit the proposal that romance and sexuality is the one arena of human endeavor where discrimination, even racial discrimination, is acceptable. We retain the right on both sides of the hobby to say, "That guy / gal just doesn't do it for me."
I consider it unlikely that if I met any provider I've been with in a bar and tried to hook up that I would be successful.
We each can, solely based on the look of the other person, decide not to take the money or not to have the sexual experience.