I was a newbie six months ago, and I'd echo the one poster about newbies being nervous, etc.  Also, if your first point of contact is the phone, then, yes, your voice and attitude are ALL IMPORTANT!!  I've talked with some ladies who seemed like I was interrupting their great life by calling.  That first call--that first impression--is all-important.

Having said that, I prefer it when a lady has an e-mail as the first point of contact.  That way, there's not the danger of "immediate" decision-making.  You--and he--can have time to reflect on what's been said in the e-mails, and can respond after some reflection, rather than having to make split-second decisions on the phone.

And, like others have said, getting a Web site is a good idea.  You can post your rates, photos, FAQ's, etc.  FAQ's will help your screening process, among other things, as it will cut down on the dumb questions.  And, remember what the best ladies say: the rates are for time and companionship only.  You don't need (or want!!) to get into specifics on your Web site or ad, or even, really, in e-mail or phone conversations.  Let those come when you meet.  Emphasizing that there is no upsell will help, too.  

Spend some time surfing some of your fellow providers' Web sites for ideas.  There are templates out there that make it easy for you, so you don't have to have too many techie skills.  I'm sure lots of prividers would be happy to give you tips on setting one up.

But, finally, using sites like TER and others is great.  I began by prowling BP, and knew nothing about TER until a provider mentioned it in passing.  I've hung out here ever since, and have had only one bad experience (a top-rated provider who must have been having a very bad day that day).  So, hang out here, at least, if not also on some of the other sites mentioned.

Good luck!

og

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Sounds like this is your your full-time business.

So, why not treat it like a conventional business and invest more of your time and money in good marketing and screening? Find out what others are doing and copy the parts that work for you. At the very minimum, get the VIP here so you can reach out to fellow providers and others for ideas.

You probably have some excellent responses/ideas in your inbox already!

.... I screen and screen well..... still maybe not half but i'll be damned if it's still not about 1/4 ..... imo where or how you screen doesn't neccessarily equal the success of them showing up. I've gotten a lot of flakiness and bs from guys i've screened off date-check, p411 AND HERE esp here.  But i'm in another market right now (Washington DC area). I don't get blacklist happy but damn if I don't get tempted. So...... there. lol

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You will develop a reputation for NCNS yourself.  Develop a reputation for being a reliable provider who provides a quality experience and over time you will develop a better client base with plenty of regulars who keep coming back.

To offset the back luck you had, if you are available on Sunday the 13th, i'd be open to possibly arranging an over night...catch a movie etc. Out call to my hotel...I could help with some light screening, so you know I won't be a no show...etc. I am not 100% certain of your BP ad, so I thought I'd ask for it here...as well as your reviews on TER. Let me know if we can work something out.

Thank you and have a good one.

I will never start double booking, but guys who ncns make me want to. I'd like to say I have a decent reputation, 7 reviews that I believe are in my favor, although Ive only been able to read the whole review on the older ones. I have plenty of regulars who sometimes are the only ones I see, but I like to "branch out" and meet new people. Thats one of the perks of the job, at least from how I like to look at it. I have been a provider for a few years now, and somewhat know the ropes, although i'd have to say, your never going to know everything. I post on bp and here, occasionally eros, citypage, and just got a profile on p411. I of course prefer seeing ones with references, a p411 account or something I can verify, but I also try to not make it TOO hard for those just trying to get together and have fun.. Its a confusing world out there for all of us, and sometimes you just dont know which way to go with things. Be too strict and turn away calls or loosen up, while still following your gut. My gut has never gotten me in trouble before.
Thanks for all the input, I was really just trying to see who else has dealt with this, not so much hearing from providers saying it never happens to them, but thanks anyway!
I will continue to provide the best service possible, the best way I know how, withg maybe a few tweaks.

P.S. To all those trying to send me a PM.. Im not a vip and cant read them. Check my posts for my email!

Are you...

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=144125&boardID=21&page=

...or...

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?BoardID=21&SortBy=DateCreated%20desc&Search=khloe&SearchType=1&DayFrom=120&DayTo=0&MessageID=147432&frmSearch=1#147432

So I don't know which "John" had pulled a NCNS on you, but if you're therefore presumably a "hooker" then I'd say it's kind of an occupational hazard. Maybe you should get another job, such as an escort or masseuse?

Khloe,

I bet you'll get a lot of business from this thread.  I'd love to put you in my bucket list.  But, I can't find your ad or your e-mail address (which you say is in your posts).  Can you give us the link to the ad or give us your e-mail?

Thanks.

og

I feel for you. I really appreciate the responses from hobbyists who are nervous.  You have nothing to fear with me! I also screen much more now. I recently had an Instant messenger schedule, I am visiting. but when I tried to e-mail to confirm, the e-mail was no good. You just have to be careful.  but you can always e-mail a referral and see if she knows the  person. Otherwise ask for their name and Google them or call their work land line to hear their Voicemail. Or work e-mail where you just put something in headline like Inquiry but nothing else. I do not put prices at all except on website from now on. Time and companionship, I add modeling, only! That protects some from LE. I am an older gal so I always hope they are looking for the underage and brothel type set ups, not a sexy mature gal like me!  Hope that helps.  All this I got from a generous provider.  Some do not share too much, but others are girlfriends 4 life, so hope that helps. Kalina

Have to agree with oldguy here. Just one other thing to add.

Please, if at all possible, have your expected donation amount be available before I speak with you, so I have some idea what I'll be committing to if I call you. 'Sticker shock' is embarassing, and I'm sure I'd be tempted to NCNS if I didn't realize until too late that the lady I'm talking to is out of my budgetary league.

Khloe's current Backpage ad does contain this info, and I appreciate knowing it up-front.

I'm the fool that thought I had an appointment with Khloe, sent her an e-mail, asked if she wanted references, she did not, told her I was driving in from WI, she said call when I get into Mpls, after a long drive I called and suprise-no answer. She later tells me my name didn't match my e-mail address.
Why not bring it up sooner-there was plenty of time. Major time waister!

You called 2 hours before the appointment and I did not answer. Wasnt that a sign not to drive here? Besides, you didnt know my location and you signed your name diffently on the last email to which I did not respond. Sorry I didnt make it more obvious. I didnt even have your phone number because you never called prior to that day, like I had asked. I didnt answer my phone at all that day because I was a little concerned.. You even tried to set up another appointment with me after because you realized it was your fault. You are only mad because I wouldnt see you.

But in case anyone would like to see where he has discussed this before and where I have tried to defend myself, I will link that below.

Face it, you have a long history of NCNS, everyone should be forwarned-I thought that is one of the things this board is for. How about instead of the $50 discount you are currently advertising, send me  $50 for waisted time & fuel. By the way in regard to your use of the term "johns"should we start referring to the providers as hookers ?

The mistake I made was trusting you. You had my phone number and my e-mail address. You had no intention of keeping this appointment yet you never notified me, or voiced any concerns about my name or e-mail address until I posted the NCNS message. All anyone has to do is read thru the posts to find out what your all about.

That is grounds for banishment. Don't try it again.

LOL I just wanted to find one good man! Oh well..San Diego and Dallas here I come! Kalina

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