... directing you to the cancellation page that said "HERE'S MY CANCELLATION POLICY. IT IS ONEROUS. READ IT CAREFULLY BEFORE YOU BOOK!!!"? If so, then I don't see your complaint. But if not, then I would personally be inclined to email Gina at P411 to let her know what this lady is doing. And in that case do us a favor and share the lady's identity, or at least the name of the city you were planning to visit. Gina runs a petty clean ship.

Contract law doesn't really apply. You can't contract to commit a crime, or at least the courts won't enforce it under the doctrine of in pari delicto (in equal fault). Yes, sure, no crime was contemplated as you were only paying for her time and anything that happened between two consenting adults ... But even so.

At the same time, Diva is not wrong that by waiting from Wednesday to Saturday, you had to know you were likely going to inconvenience the lady. If she had booked a hotel room in anticipation of your visit, she has a right to be pissed. Especially if she booked something non-refundable to get the best price.

Whether I sent an email to Gina or not, I hope I would send the lady $100. I won't know for sure until it happens to me.

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The 72 hrs cancellation policy is absurd but I think she may have already booked a room. It's justifiable to just send her the 100$ and get it over with and move on.

1. She was not out of pocket for hotel.
2. She is the one setting the rates and if she wants a cancelation fee, she should be conspicuously posting that information alongside her rates.  As you indicated, had you known, you wouldn't have booked.
3. Does she really want you to show up sick?  How many appointments will she miss due to illness she catches from you or how many clients would she piss off by passing an illness to them.
4. You should have informed her of your illness on Wednesday to let her decide whether to wait out her appointment with you or seek another opportunity.
5.  You "owe" her nothing.  Is it a nice gesture to throw her a $100?  Absolutely, but my sense is she'll still be unhappy because she didn't get the full hour and your out $100.

Are you serious about sending $100 for nothing, other than you became ill?  Cancellation Fee?  Who does this woman think she is?  Business meetings, or sales meetings are cancelled all the time, with no compensation.  But, it seems when a provider is involved, their time is more important than other sales or trade people.  

Imagine that you had made an appointment with a plumber to fix your toilet, but an hour before he showed up, you canceled.  If he sent you a bill for $100, you would think he is the biggest asshole on the planet. Or, if you told some commissioned Car Salesman that you were on your way to purchase a car, then changed your mind at the last minute and didn't show up. Should he send you a bill for his lost commission?  Of course not.  Escorts are no different than other business people, though some think they are very special.

Frankly, I would not send a dime, nor would I ever see her (I don't like her attitude), and I would let everyone on TER know who she is.  

Just my 2 cents, but still cheaper than $100

The worst she can do blacklist you and if you have nothing to lose, she can blacklist all she wants in my opinion.

I would understand if she had booked a hotel room only for you, had to travel or was extremely low volume or high end provider $500+ / hr but that doesn't seem to be the case here.

Here is a hint. Depending on when or how she reserved a room. Any reservation made within 72 hours of the date of arrival requires a 6:00 p.m. (local time) or later cancellation policy on the "day of arrival".

This is the VISA contract with hotels if they choose to accept VISA as a form of payment or reservation. Most other cards MC, Discover have similar policies.

http://usa.visa.com/download/merchants/visa-acceptance-guide-lodging-industry.pdf (page 19)

In your case, it was outcall so no hotel reservation issues.

She is being deceptive with her practices. Her cancellation policy should be stated on her rates page. No other logical place for it to be but there.

if you didn't pay, you shouldn't.  there was no contract.  did she give you any guarantees in writing about services provided?  she might not see you in the future, but there are lots of other providers. one might argue there is an implicit contract, but how did you make the arrangement?  what details did you know?  i really don't think there is any contractual obligation here.