You being single, it might be possible but make sure you have met the provider several times and trust her!

All variables being equal, I consider outcall safest for me.

Waaaayyyy too many risks involved with bringing a provider to your home. TRUST ME - it's simply NOT worth it. All it takes is ONE 'bad' experience and you can have your entire life turned upside down. I've seen it happen.

Hi. I am very new to this and I am very thankful for this website. I don't know if I would have taken the leap without the invaluable advice and information available here.

Anyway, I'm an early-30's, single, fit, gainfully employed guy that travels for work as a freelance designer. A lot. I do not hobby while out on the road because the risk is simply too great: my industry is a small one and if I get into any kind of trouble my career would be toast. That being said, my employer is based on the east coast so I'm pretty much safe when I'm home. And after all the hotels on the road I simply do not want to go to a provider's incall. I very much prefer the comfort of my home.

I was just thinking if any other guys were on the same boat? Am I missing out on great experiences by not going to providers' incalls? I know many guys don't have the option to host a lady at home, but what about the ones that do? Also a question to the Ladies, any tips to make girls I am hosting feel more at ease (aside from common courtesies of course)? An important lesson I learned with the first provider I had over was that she wanted to take a tour of my house. I thought she was being nice, but it dawned on me as she looked around that she was looking out for her safety: she wanted to make sure no one else was there. Duh. No matter how prepared we think we are there is always more to learn. I guess that's why this community is so helpful.

Anyway, rambling now: so to the single guys without a SO: do you prefer outcall or incall? Ladies, thoughts/advice for guys in my position?

ARE YOU FREAKING INSANE?

My hobby user name was recently comprimised when it showed up in the notebook of a provider under investigation.  Be careful what you disclose, your post said you're new to the hobby, don't be stupid.

I have a very select few that have been to my personal locations: NEVER EVER a first date, RARELY EVER over time, on FEW occassions with "FRIENDS".

some are, some aren't; you can always ask your chosen provider what her particular situation is before you set an appointment. a lot of us rent separate static incalls that are much more intimate than hotel rooms.

that said, if it still makes you uncomfortable, i don't see why you shouldn't have someone over to your house as long as you are smart about it. tell her to dress casually when she arrives, don't leave random piles of money or credit cards lying around, take that bottle of oxycontin out of your bathroom cabinet and put it somewhere else for the night.  not that most well-reviewed providers would ever show up in a g-string and stilettos at your door, or steal anything from you, but it's better to err on the side of caution than be too trusting.

my two cents anyway.

She now knows where you live.  Many escorts are fine and reputable and it won't be a problem.  Many are not and it could be a problem.  I would not have someone come to my place unless I had seen them a number of times, was very comfortable with them, and they had an excellent reputation.

Here's what I hang my hat on:

*In the history of mankind, no one has ever been arrested for the biz in his own home. Not one.

*You have zero control over events at an incall location. None. At incalls, you place your entire trust in the hands of a stranger.

*On outcalls however, most girls could not give a flying fuck where you live. They just want to show your a good time, get paid and get the heck out of Dodge. So long as you keep it professional, acknowledge their concern and graciously show them around to prove that you are the only one present, they will appreciate the gesture and your chances of a bad encounter drop to almost nil.

Now I'm not saying all outcalls are good and all incalls are bad, because there's nothing like a great incall where the girl has gone out of her way to make you feel relaxed and at home. And you know that your only job is to hit it and split. But I am a control freak. I have to be confident that I have prepared for all  outcomes and I can only exercise that control in my home.

I know there are good and bad points in both, but I am the King of My Castle.

And I'd much rather wrassle in the familiarity of my castle.

I've seen many, many escorts at my home.   Some were even pretty sketchy, but I didn't have any problems even with them.    I'm single so the risk involved for me is far less if I hobby at the house.

It's a good ice breaker.  I've never gotten such a creepy vibe that I've felt it a good idea to check a place out.  I'd probably just make an excuse and leave if I felt something was wrong.  When going to someone elses place, they're usually wonderful hosts and I've had a great time.  

Make sure your computer is closed and no camera's are out.  Personally, I worry about recording devices.  

Cuz once you do, she'll keep coming back and scratch at your door at all hours.

I agree..outcall are you nuts??  never do outcall unless you have seen this lady a minimum of 6 times and even then consider your risks!  much better to do incall and they are always not hotels.

I've had a shitload of incalls and 2 outcalls.  I can't say all my incalls were great experiences but I knew I could always walk if I wanted to. Both my outcalls to my hotel were ripoff's, i.e. fake pics and major upsells.

I have done both as a provider I perfer my house but I consider the day time and amount of people.  As i am single regs are the best for in call.  I hate hotels amd maried mens homes so it is a balance I try not to take all the money that may come to my house and be happy to pay bilss.  This is a delima I do feel some what safer as I live out of cities in a small community.  what do we do