Hey guys I joined the site looking to find that perfect provider to enjoy my future trip to the twin cities. I read through all the tips and other postings and am left feeling a little nervous and unsure. I understand many of the providers wanna play it safe and I do as well. How can I set in motion a smooth meeting when I don't know exactly what they will need? Ethnic provider preferred Thanks and all help is appreciated.

If so, check out their ads, reviews, and websites.  If that doesn't clear it up, ask them.

I have narrowed it down to three porividers but I never see any of them come on this board. I just want to set up something that will be unforgettable in a good way and take care of the necessary hoops being I am a first timer.

It's quite possible they don't even read the board.  You'll have to contact them directly.

ne last question is it safe or fair to the provider to ask how much her donation is when I am on the phone? I don't want to do this wrong and be labeled a bad guy. I just want to enjoy my meeting and stay in my budget. Two of the three I have narrowed it down to do not have an email or webpage with that information.

If they have a TER profile, I would go with what is listed there.  Otherwise you don't have much choice but to ask but phrase it carefully.  She may well ask you how much time you are interested in and then tell you what her rate is.