I am wanting to get back in action somewhat. Pretty active back in the MFP days.  I always  
had a good reputation with the ladies.  My references are about 7-8 yrs old. I  have now encountered
the requirement of  having to provide my real legal name and at least 2 recent companion references.
Why in hell would I ever provide my real legal name.  These ladies will be missing out on some real
good experiences with some good guys. It's a shame, doesn't need to happen.

I'm with Ya ,  see if we can get a message to one these schedulers to contact us. Yeah right !

Not offering a fucking tip to those fuckers for a click of the mouse  to send emails either. As has been suggested before on here.

While I'm sure you and others are good men, hell even great men who probably do provide mutually rewarding experiences... there are a plethora of amazing men out there who have no issue providing this information to reputable providers. So one could argue the providers are missing out but the providers have a valid argument for why *you* are missing out.

Very well said.  

Paige
I  will just say that I do understand your point of view.  I am just trying to present my side of the issue. But please, don't throw out this bullshit about "high profile clientele"  vs the "everyday man". It is really insulting and hopefully you should know better. In my case, I am an " everyday man"  who happens to be a financial professional.  I have years of experience dealing with clients in situations where honesty and trust are truly the most part of the relationship.  You have really insulted me and countless other men who are just honest guys trying to  make a connection.   If you had any idea about my history in the "hobby", you would not hesitate to see me.  But I get it:   woman's body, her rules.  But also:  man's money, his rules.

Indeed both sides of the playing field are missing out on opportunities . Yet the fact remains each individual decides that for themselves. Whether the provider of , or the collector of the Benjamin’s.  When it comes to private personal information all people are pointing out , is if the standard of men being willing to offer , why not the same basic expectation , so both parties have the same skin in game on that issue.  

Spot on!!!!  The emphasis on high profile , just screams of Golden Pussy mentality. Sorry not in relation to my privacy.

Color me surprised. That escalated rather quickly. Something that I've had to learn is that feelings are valid but they are not facts. They are often an indicator of something else but not the entire truth. I've had to apply that lesson to this board when reading it or comments about me and I encourage others to do the same.  

I prefer caramel, honey, or bronzed pussy, etc. but I digress.  

People on this website are living in the past.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qoYsfbq3vMc

I understand that there are times, periods and seasons of life that require us to pull back and focus energy in different areas of life.  I look at total history. I read posts. I pay attention to how a man communicates. Maybe a phone call would work or investing in a longer date (dinner first and I break away point agreed upon ahead of time if not working) as suggestions to express your interest? It just takes one to pop the cherry again.  

Well then, Pollenbroker, why don't you just come on this forum using your real legal name

Your truth  LOL...................

I probably won't see another provider unless she accepts referrals or has another way around the actual personal info.  I choose to never give that info out and if that keeps me from seeing a segment of talent, I'm OK with it.  For me, it's a bridge too far.  That said, there are options out there for guys seeking to gain some street cred (hate that term but it applies here) that will allow him to work his way into the local scene and thus have access to referrals.  It's an investment of time as well but there's worse ways of getting where you want to be.

I have always used my real name with providers. What exactly are they going to do to me?  Yes, there are the occasional stories of blackmail (Carmen Starr of Dallas comes to mind), but it's not that hard to make yourself blackmail proof. I should also add, if a provider were to fuck with me, I know some bad bitches (including my ex wife and a couple of my regulars) who would be perfectly willing to do a beatdown. It pays to have friends in low places, as the song goes.

no you did not

I like the way you think.  If you only knew the whole story behind my original post, you would be amazed.
i wont discuss it on this forum

When two adults are seeking the same thing, there should be room for compromise.

Flipping to condescension is a strategy. Not a great one but we all work with what we got in our respective arsenal.  

Based on the messages I’ve received... from both colleagues and TER users... you did. So, we’ll agree to disagree.  

As a fellow honest guy out here just trying to make a connection, I gotta level with you man. You have to be a damn snowflake to feel insulted by her initial response.

In 2010 I realized that reviews were just something I didn't want to do anymore.  

Maybe you are personally in a position where it would have few, if any, consequences, for you.  For most people, even though there is more tolerance for such things, it is still a problem.  And while many people may be tolerant of it in general, it is an entirely different matter if that person is you SO, child, sibling, parent, other relative, friend, or employee.

I can't speak for everyone but I was in MFP from close to its beginning and never gave my name to the lady who ran it.  In any event, it's obviously far less of a risk to give information to a person who has a vested interest in making sure it doesn't get out than to give that information to multiple providers, some of which are not as likely to be trustworthy.

I suspect "high profile clientele" are more likely to have the resources to have the resources to successfully deal with a provider who attempts to out or blackmail them without taking much of a hit in return.  They may be wrong about that but it would explain why they hand over their information.

It's not a guarantee nothing ever will.

I agree with you Vorlon.  It would not be worth the risk to me to give out my personal information.  Just like it was not worth the risk to me to be hobbying during a pandemic until I was fully vaccinated.   But everyone will have to make that decision for themselves.  Good Luck with it....

And you are more than welcome to speak the truth as you see it , and actually it’s a great quality to let others see , about you.  

I was blackmailed to be a mans sex slave or he was going to out me to the cops, my apartment complex, the revenue department, and social media. Didn't even take me to dinner first...insulting. We have to be Safe Sane and Consensual and a certain level of trust must be established before going behind closed doors. Come on... You guys know who's crazy or doing drugs, or not practicing safe sex and they probably all know your first name during pillow talk. Trust and Vulnerability go hand in hand...it's a dance best done between the sheets.

It's quite simple: I'm "out" to everyone; family, friends, and coworkers. I even talk about it on my Facebook page (minus names and juicy details). LGBTQ people and weed smokers have used this method to normalize their lifestyles and get criminalization off the table. It can work for us, too, but only if the clients join in. The providers can't get it done alone.

It's nice that the people in your life are at least tolerant enough of your P4P activities that you can do this.  However, for most people that is not true.

Same. I've been away from the U.S. and MN for a bit but I never provided my real name to MFP, MNG or MGC. Nor did I ever provide it to any Indies. Three providers did know who I was as we'd become friends outside the hobby but that's a different animal.

I'd like to think nobody did.