Guys please make sure it is Ok with massage providers to post about extras in your reviews.DATY,FS.BBBJ,CBJ,Rimming etc......Keep in mind that extras all depend on chemistry and have almost always been a YMMV thing.At least that has been my experience.She might not want to do what she did with you with every client she has.If that was the case they would be escorting right??By posting extras without consent your putting the girls in a very awkward/vulnerable position.And fellas please stop messaging me asking about details of my encounters.Everything I want people to know is in the review.I wrote a review a few months back and got around 7 messages asking me about extras.Go see for yourself everyone has there own experience.Yours could be better or it could be worse who knows.Some girls have told me yes please do because they know extras will bring in more business.Some have told me most definitely not and heres why.I now know of at least three girls who have been assaulted/harassed/bullied because they didnt comply to clients requests about activities they had read about in a review.And there is the classic "I will write you a bad review" threat which some have done and thats a fact..One girl got pinned against the table by a large man who humped her butt crack and left his mess all over her back.Keep in mind these girls rarely have security.I am not trying to start a debate.I am simply giving first hand feedback from a provider and hoping everyone stays safe and enjoys there hobbying.You can call me a white knight if you want I am cool with that.....peace

I just wanted to publicly say thank you. We all know that the "back channel" in Minnesota is real & thriving. However, I have been informed by some gents that have reviewed me that same thing you stated: people are reaching out asking for more info than what is appropriate in my opinion. Every experience is unique to the individual because despite how hard you screen or try to establish a rapport in the screening process/time leading up to a date, no one knows how the chemistry & connection will be in the actual date. Like you said, if you want to know, book. Take. The. Damn. Plunge.  

 
Also, I'm not sure whom the provider is you are speaking of, but please let them know some of us are out here and are a listening ear. If they'd like to grab drinks this week or get a mani/pedi, or something else, have them reach out. Self-care is incredibly important in this realm; especially when we are inviting other people's energy (and all that comes with that) into our spaces.

Well thought out  points by both of you. I pm'd a dude last week on this very matter.   Due to what I seen recently in reviewing, and his participation  in the matter.  He knows  exactly what I think of the matter.  

 Has it ever occured to some of you that you may not be helping .  Obviously not, because  alot are  more interested in collecting  that discount  or bennie badge  by  writing that review.  Because you  THINK you are doing them a nice favor.  Well not always  the case.    

Over exposure to fast  not always best.  Heres why.  It does  bring unwanted/ undesired  attention  to her door.    That could be LE  taking look, or the fucktard clients  as described by puck.  .  

There is merit in  accurate,  and  properly  timed   reviews.   To help in short  and long term interest.   But to much information to fast does create problems  for providers.   Not all screen the same idiots. Not all are clear  and willing to set boundaries.   People  do know   this and will take  advantage of the situation.  Lets not kid  ourselves.   Some are really unhinged in this theatre.  

I can tell you this  the providers that I know well , I tell them to make sure a close confidante  knows  when in a session ,  for good reasons. The predatory  behavior , Like the fat bastard. Lets be honest some are not poster  child  of stabilty.     Here is something to ponder , and yes it came from a relatively  recent review.  Leave  out  details in reviews that may lead   douchebags  to think  her judgment  , may be compromised.  This shit isn't  rocket science  .  

Some providers are very direct and set boundaries, but some are much less self confident and can be easily pushed around (both emotionally and physically) when someone does not get what they want.  The way reviews are written and the information contained in them can be a very positive tool for a provider, but as Puck and Charlie say, reviews that write about extras that are ymmv issues or are flat out wrong or exaggerated can be very challenging to a provider when she is in a session.
I have been fortunate to have wonderful men who have reviewed me accurately and I appreciate  that the reviews I have gotten have helped me, but some women are not so fortunate, so guys please take care when writing reviews.  Thanks.

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Moral of the story gentlemen? Don't be a jerk.   .

This is a long standing problem.  Guys need to think about all the information they put into a review and whether or this could cause a problem for the provider.  If you got some extra special treatment, enjoy it but don't blab it to the world.  She won't appreciate it and you probably won't get that treatment any longer.

Another problem area is being too specific about the location of a provider's incall.

Just to be clear, bad behavior on the part of the provider should not be covered up though.

If the lady does reach out, (or even if you'd just like to get together, anytime) please get in touch with me LJ, as I'd love to join for some girl time! Hope you're having an amazing night hun and look forward to hearing from you.  

Laney Luvs Ya!

1.  Tell her that it is not in her profile and ask if she wants you to write about it so that she can write to TER and get the profile changed.  Many providers do not know about profiles or their contents.  In some cases, an amended profile can make it possible for her to get higher scores with all that implies.
2. Keep quiet about it.
3.  Say, "I was surprised by this part of our experience.  Others have not written about this.  Do you want me to put it in the review?"
This applies equally well to massage providers as to escorts, as in the case of anal play, etc.

Exactly. "Just go be nice and watch what happens."

It is problematic. On one hand, expectations may be higher for some males (with a tendency to being a jerk) when going in thinking they're in for a better experience than they get. Then get demanding. Problem for the provider.

On the other hand, I can think back to a particular favorite provider that I once with whom we shared amazing chemistry, and despite reading what seemed consistently "above and beyond" reviews she always said they were lies. Well, I believed her. Never bothered to ask if she'd do anything extra for me even after NUMEROUS times with her. Still, I wondered if those other things WERE actually on the table but she knew I was too nice to ask and the donation was the same either way.

I think if everyone just went in, was personable and respectful, the hobby would provide better experiences for all. No? Because it's not all about the client. We've got human needs and desires. Well, so do the providers.

Sadly, the answer is that jerks and assholes DO get more menu, more sex, more dates, more girlfriends than "nice guys."

Unfortunately, being nice guys and even knowing this, we still remain nice guys and watch the jerks and assholes clean up in the dating scene.  Sigh.

Very much a bummer. Hold ourselves to a higher standard and for what? Honestly, it'd be nice if women would start rewarding well-behaved guys (in and out of the hobby). But hey, might as well start counting stars and trying to figure out which one grants wishes...

A very well known and well liked provider told me last year.
  "We tend to treat our regulars the worst"
  and if you really stop to think about it - that is way more true than you may think.

So why is that?

It all goes back to evolution.  The jerk and the asshole are more likely to become leaders (probably by overthrowing the current leader) of the tribe.  So chicks get the hots for the potential leader who is signalling his nature to ignore hierarchy and kill off competitors.

I don't know who you all are dating but if a dude is a jerk, I'm out of there. During a civilian date, I've walked out on a fella because he was incredibly rude to the waitstaff. And in regards to this realm, I make it very clear that I have the right to end a date at any time if someone's behaviour is not in line with the characteristics I expect in someone I'm opting to spend alone time with.  

*Sighs*

Simple  because they have  been  denutted and allow  them to.  Probably years ago by wifey in many cases.

Maybe you need to walk in holding a Wells Fargo sign , that should turn them around  .

If you don't tell all.  That's the reason people  are paying for VIP, otherwise it's fucking useless review.  Who the fuck cares about feeling, fuck-pay-leave or pay-fuck-leave it's just a fucking business.  It's just a fucking business like any other.

Are all reviews done after the initial review to be based on the initial review?  For example, if the first review said HJ only, no kissing, then I see the provider after the first review was posted, and I had DFK, then I can't post that in the review unless the provider says I can?  Note, as mentioned by nutbar, this applies to all providers, not just massage providers.

So, is this the "rule": the initial review sets the limits on what can be posted about the session, unless the provider gives an exception?  I wonder how many reviewers broke this "rule."

Also, does that mean I can't post a review unless I've read all the previous reviews for that provider?

I should note that I've never discussed with a provider what (or if) I'm going to write in a review.  Is that wrong?

I never said that you have to match the previous reviews only that you should not write a menu that is more expansive than is what is on the profile.  That is easy to check.
I do review with providers if I am posting beyond what is on their profile.  Most will offer some extra services to some clients but do not want to be coerced by a profile into offering beyond their profile.

I never said that you said anything any of that, or referred to you, except "as mentioned by nutbar, this applies to all providers, not just massage providers." which I'm pretty sure you did say, more or less.

Again, reading would be your friend.