Your son/father/brother brought home a girl that had provided for you in the past? Would you spill the beans on her or let dig her own grave? If you tell she may tell on you... I am not in this situation, just seems like it could happen. Some people go months before introducing their gf to family.

Unless I believe she is taking unfair advantage of him, I would probably let the two of them handle their own business.

Anyone.  I'd probably just think in my mind how lucky the bastard is !!

If it were a brother I'd have no problem letting her know I'll never say a thing.
If it were a father it would be too weird: I had sex with my mother before my father did. That would be so messed up that I might have to say something; what and to whom I don't know.
If it were a son I'd have to sit him down and tell him so the truth is out there; however, I would make it perfectly clear that he has my blessing if he wants to continue the relationship.
In either of the three cases I can only imagine how devastating it would be for a father/son/brother to find out a year, two or ten from now: better it be out in the open from the beginning.
Fortunately, my father is no longer, I have no kids, and it's probably too late in life for my brother.

Either she'll come clean with my son, or I'll be getting it for free.  Win Win.

Any son of mine would have been raised to understand.  He'd be proud of his father.

NO.  

I do not see a reason to tell a family member who is dating a provider.

Natalie,

WTF? You are either very pervy or an excellent marketeer. I haven't logged in to respond to a thread in months. Frankly, I don't know what I would do. If it was my brother I would be cheering him on, my Dad is no longer around and I don't have a son. Where do you come up with this stuff? Ha ha.

Your son/father/brother brought home a girl that had provided for you in the past?

I would be a bit envious, as I only see intelligent, independent, pleasant, well-mannered, well-groomed, professional, confident women.

Would you spill the beans on her or let dig her own grave? If you tell she may tell on you...

The provider-client relationship is professional and confidential. I would not break that confidence, and I would hope she would not either. That would be immoral. As for digging her own grave, there are lots of ways to do that in a romantic relationship. She doesn't need me sticking my nose in her private life where it doesn't belong. Being a provider is honest, hard work, no matter what some religious fundamentalists and chauvinists may think. If my male relative is affected by this thinking, he's the one digging his own grave. He is also probably not good enough for her.

I'd lean towards very pervy over the latter, but honestly this crossed my mind and I was curious! Don't tell me it wasn't a good question I' ve been watching 'Rules of Engagement' and 'The League' recently and there is a lot of "i slept with so-n-so before you and you don't know" kind of stuff happening! LOL!

What if you say something and your son gets pissed and dumps her?  What if you hadn't said anything and their relationship progressed and she eventually confided in him.....they came to terms with it.....and ended up getting married and being together forever?  You just never know IMO and you have to let things take their own course.  

By the way, pervy or not, I think these kinds of questions are great.  They honestly make you think about who you are and what you really stand for (said in my most masculine girly voice).

Perfect answer....the only thing I can add is my complete agreement!

Posted By: vallen

Your son/father/brother brought home a girl that had provided for you in the past?

I would be a bit envious, as I only see intelligent, independent, pleasant, well-mannered, well-groomed, professional, confident women.

Would you spill the beans on her or let dig her own grave? If you tell she may tell on you...

The provider-client relationship is professional and confidential. I would not break that confidence, and I would hope she would not either. That would be immoral. As for digging her own grave, there are lots of ways to do that in a romantic relationship. She doesn't need me sticking my nose in her private life where it doesn't belong. Being a provider is honest, hard work, no matter what some religious fundamentalists and chauvinists may think. If my male relative is affected by this thinking, he's the one digging his own grave. He is also probably not good enough for her.

I infer the young lady is presented as a serious relationship that might lead to something long term. If it's just a fling the decision is much easier.

So much would depend on the young lady. Mature or a flake? Smart or dumb? History of bad decisions or exploring her sexuality? I've met providers I'd be proud to have as a DIL. I've met providers I'd be horrified to have as a DIL. And by the way, those feelings wouldn't necessarily correlate to the numerical rating I gave in her review. I don't know how anyone could feel confident predicting his reaction without a great deal more information.

The one reaction I'm pretty confident about is I'd meet with her to discuss the situation and see how she wanted to proceed. The one thing I really, really hope I would not do is fail to speak if I thought it necessary, for fear of personal embarrassment.

MnJohnny is right.  The only thing to add is agreement!

ooxx,
Trinity

I think it would feel very awkward...perhaps even more for the provider but I wouldn't want to out her in any way.