Quick update on my situation.  Just flew back last night from OUS to find 4 more txts and a note on my front door.  I sometimes forget how much info you girls can get when doing your research.  Anyway, she is going to take a CVS test and I have to wait 1wk for them to take a swab and blood.  I guess the cost is $1k for me.  She said she knows because she fixed it to happen...don't know wtf that means.  I'm just going to take it and hopefully it will be the end of this.  This will be it as I don't want to be a buzz kill here when it's all supposed to be fun, right?

Chorionic villus sampling (CVS) is a prenatal test that detects chromosomal abnormalities such as Down syndrome, as well as a host of other genetic disorders.

If you pay her anything it will never end.  Sorry man, it sounds like you were set up for this.  Get an attorney now!!!!!

he was set up and they will keep him paying as much and as long as they can.  He needs to get legal help, now!

Yeah, I don't know...that's what she called it.  Based on this it doesn't seem right.  Honestly, never been in this position before, no kids either.  At the very least I know now I need to my own research...just going off what she said.

There are some smart people that frequent that board and will give you some good advice.  You are not the first nor the last man in this situation.

Good Luck!!!

...soothe your soul in Rock and Roll.
BLGs post made me think of this song which I hadn't heard in a long time.

Dude if you got her pregnant, there musta been unprotected taking place?? You were crazy for that. Before you do anything contact an attorney. When it is all said and done you may wanta out her for blackmail, the the threats etc... Good Luck

She's trying to shake you down; don't just give into it.  Talk to a lawyer.

Nope....not that stupid. Shit still happens, plus if she f'd with it...

notaCLfan, pm if you can. I am also having one of the local ladies trying to pull a fast one on me. Just wondering if it is the same one.

Thanks all for the advice.  I wasn't actually expecting anything...just needed a place to vent as there are very few people who I could share this with.  Nevertheless...1) She has never really demanded anything, including cash. 2) The LC board looks helpful, but have a family lawyer if ever needed.3) I'd rather not out her even in private as she has never made any threats of doing it to me.4) I'm now less concerned about why and more about what if.  Very difficult discussion with the wife if it is.I agreed to meet her at her real place tomorrow.  I just hope she remains civil.  To the one prov I talked with about this..I'm so sorry for bringing drama in what should be fun and drama free.No matter what the results, I'll have to own up to it.  Just sucks that in 3 short months I made 1 bad decision, but 3 very, very good decisions.  That's all I got.

Good luck!  Are you sure she will be alone?  You don't need anymore setup stuff.  I would be very cautious.  Take a lesson from the ladies, make sure someone knows where you are going and when you should be done. Use the call a friend trick.

You might want to talk to a lawyer who has experience dealing with problems related to the hobby.  Lawyers specialize and your family lawyer might not be the best person to help you deal with this.

Also, when you say she has not really demanded anything, what do you mean?  What is your meeting with her supposed to accomplish?  I suggest you be very careful before you agree to anything with her.

I wouldn't meet at her place, do it somewhere in public. You never know if there is going to be a boyfriend/ pimp around. I also would let a close friend know whats going on and your where abouts.

Don't meet with her.

If she is blackmailing you, she may take this opportunity to record your conversation or otherwise collect evidence of your illicit encounter to use against you later with your wife.  

Think about what evidence she actually has of your meeting.  A cell call? Maybe a business card? So what - this is very little evidence.  You meet with her you will create all sorts of new tracks.  

Same goes with some "test".  Your best hope at this point is to go completely radio silent.  No meetings, no tests, block her calls.  Mildly complain about some pyscho person you met at work or at a bar or whatever so she understands if she ever calls her.

It's not blackmail yet, but it's headed that way.  Don't be stupid.

-Wadsworth

I work in family law.  Do NOT meet with her, do not talk to her, do not have any more involvement with her.  One idea (though I have no idea whether it is a good one for you or not) is to suck it up and tell the wife now (lie and say it was a one time thing).  

You'll know you did the right thing when you are not served with any official summons for paternity or support.  If you are, then that's when you worry about genetic testing, etc.  When (and if) a kid is born DO NOT sign a document called a Recognition of Parentage. (I can't stress this last one enough).

Of course, who the hell am I to be giving you any advice?  As always, the way you decide to work out your own problems is usually the best.

741512th is right.
Time to cut off ALL communication with her.
Doing nothing sometimes is the best solution .
giving in could mean it will NEVER end for you.
good luck

I promised not to add more, and bored enough people with this issue.  But do appreciate it.  It will all soon be over.

No one is bored, on the contrary, we're riveted.  I think we're all fearful of this happening, and sorry to say this, learning from your experience.  I hope this works out for you, and PLEASE let us know the outcome, if that is not asking too much.

Pardon me but...Just think of the possibility of how many dudes she's probably pulled this on or how many more she could do this to in the future.
I mean how the heck could you trust the word of a person like that, let alone be scared of them ?
I'm not bored of the subject I'm very intrigued & I'm offended as A MILF
That someone has to stoop so low like that.
BTW I have plenty of kids and know who they're daddy is & I'm still with him.
No offense to all the mama's out there without.