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Goodintentions 492 reads
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I guess I'm entirely confused by what your saying.
But let me tell you how your sounding: jaded...and slightly sexiest or at least kind of one sided, not seeing a women's point of view.
 It sounds like you are trying to observe, judge and maybe (as your recent post hints ) even grade, something that I believe is a normally healthy, happy, fun event,  no matter what circumstances brought it about.  

It seems sexiest because your using the fact that the event is not occurring in the most natural way, where as I was trying to say, hey it's sex no matter how you got there, be in the moment and don't analyze the so called tells. If it was not a provider circumstance would you even be trying to analyze it? ( the one night stand or old girlfriend or stressed housewife?) probably not.
It's an act that is supposed to be enjoyable and personally I would find it hard not to be completely in the moment.          
 As for your question it's..beeswax non of yours ;)

turboted1200 reads

While researching a provider (i.e., skimming reviews), I happened across the following statement a reviewer made about the provider:  "As good as most high-end providers are, every one I have seen still has those little “tells,” no matter how small, that let you know the monger/provider relationship is a business arrangement -- except her."

Inquiry:  Are "tells" a necessary part of the hobby in order to maintain adequate boundaries?

Note:  "Tells" are commonly referenced in poker. For example, a “tell” is any physical reaction, kind of behavior, or habit that gives (or tells) the other players information about your hand.

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FFSHF666 reads

They likely do, whether by design or subconsciously..... My ATF does not, and sometimes it is very easy to slip into the"I forgot it was a service" mode because she is so genuine. But as a rule, I agree...the tells are just there.

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turboted642 reads

I feel that you are very fortunate to have developed such chemistry with a provider.

As well, the provider should be praised for their effort to be so genuine.

For the provider, an appropriate analogy may be a major league baseball pitcher throwing a perfect game (i.e., someone at the top of their craft dazzling patrons with their skills).

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Goodintentions522 reads

Top of their game? What in the world do you mean? Is it not just possible they view, and engage in, sex without thought
As to how it all came about?  
I mean I'm sure a guy who picked someone up in a bar isn't replaying how many drinks he purchased while getting it on. I'm sure husbands who are doing their wives aren't thinking of that expensive gift he got her recently or the newlywed's  aren't screwing thinking of the size or cost of the ring.  
Come on, in this highly sexualized world we live in, thinking of, and getting lost in, the sounds, & feelings of the event that brings on an orgasm probably isn't that hard to accomplish. So why would someone try to monitor a possible tell? Why not just enjoy the moment?

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turboted479 reads

I am assuming you are a provider. Please correct me if I am mistaken.

Although I did not use the term "game" (rather "craft"), I believe there is a recent example of providers referencing their skill set within sessions with the descriptive word game.

If you look on the advertisement board for Minnesota, a provider recently posted that she is "bringing her A game" to sessions.

Effort within sessions is not put forth uniformly.

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Goodintentions493 reads

I guess I'm entirely confused by what your saying.
But let me tell you how your sounding: jaded...and slightly sexiest or at least kind of one sided, not seeing a women's point of view.
 It sounds like you are trying to observe, judge and maybe (as your recent post hints ) even grade, something that I believe is a normally healthy, happy, fun event,  no matter what circumstances brought it about.  

It seems sexiest because your using the fact that the event is not occurring in the most natural way, where as I was trying to say, hey it's sex no matter how you got there, be in the moment and don't analyze the so called tells. If it was not a provider circumstance would you even be trying to analyze it? ( the one night stand or old girlfriend or stressed housewife?) probably not.
It's an act that is supposed to be enjoyable and personally I would find it hard not to be completely in the moment.          
 As for your question it's..beeswax non of yours ;)

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jgoodman222443 reads

Let me guess, no I don't need to...

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monieb589 reads

however work as a reminder of the true nature of the relationship, which is a good thing.  Its human nature and hobbyists likely have 'tells' in the same vein.

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brilove453 reads

however if you see that as tell tale signs then so be it.I do not think that you mean this in a negative way and neither do I but if we r to keep boundaries we need to set up some walls. With something so fun and intimate I can see how people can easily be intrigued with the idea of a lasting relationship. However in the end for most of us this is a business and although the majority of us enjoy it tremendously we do have to keep our space. I hope those who have seen me agree that I am genuine and for that hour or weekend or whatever ... I am their's and they are mine.just be careful not to get too close I see that some of us can be like black widowsmale or female. I personally have not experienced that and very grateful for it. Enjoy the hobby

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BenSubdude484 reads

but there will always be a few that are hoping for that hour to turn into something more. and those that allow themselves to be delusional will probably not see the writing on the wall or notice the most obvious of tells. alas, delusions are fragile and eventually the harsh light of day will make things clear.

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Cropduster1441 reads

Many of the consistent problems I see with providers have something to do with these two items.
However, these two issues I count after you meet. Biggest problem, many cannot schedule at all, or give
directions. But we LOVE them anyway!

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BenSubdude359 reads

In the civvie world it's a lot harder to know what the boundaries are. People say one thing and do something else. and I suppose that there are some providers that do as well. but the quality providers know why we are here. we just  want to have some fun before we go back to doing what we have to do, without the complications. then again the bobby has it's own complications. unfortunately.

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vorlon468 reads

Although we have plenty of examples where it didn't and those usually end badly.  For my part, I enjoy my affairs with the ladies and the principal boundary I keep in mind is that I know going in just how long the affair will last.

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