I promise to be a nicer neighbor in 2016.    PM sent

You should post these musings or questions daily or weekly for discussion.
Many interesting topics there.

I'll take a shot at this.

Q.      Do most of you see the "like" button? (Pretty sure it's for paying members only) how do you use the "like" sparingly or generously? (I try & use it very generously w/pictures & only what I really agree with when it comes to opinions)  

A.     Actually, non-VIP can like a post. You just have to be logged in. I know it's there and I do use it when I think of it. Trouble is, I frequently don't log in, particularly when I'm not VIP, so then I don't see the button and don't think to use it.  
   
Q.     Do men realize that some of us read your review history to get a feel for how you write/think/talk?  

A.     I hope so.  
   
Q.      Do most of the men truly think part of the reference check is sharing juicy details between us gals?  
               (For the most part it's not at all that way, it's yes or no I saw him,I feel he's safe,I would/wouldn't see him again-                        exceptions to every rule,eg:very good friends may elaborate more)  
   
 A.     I guess that's a difference between men and women. I for sure would spend time on the juicy details if I were giving a reference. Or maybe it's just the difference between vendor and vendee?

Q.     How does everyone feel about sweat? Sure we all do it, but do some of you really believe there's no fun if there's no sweat?  Do some of you get really turned off by it? I personally don't wanna "body slide" w/sweat nuru or some lube fine.  
   
A.     Interesting question. Sweat is certainly not necessary, but if the woman works up a sweat it really signals, to me at least, that she is into the moment, having fun, and working to please me. Also there's an ego aspect. I'm old enough that my stamina isn't what it once was, so when the woman I'm with is sweaty before I'm exhausted it makes me feel macho and manly and good about my conditioning routine.  

Q.     Do you believe in specific ways to tell if a women has an orgasm?  
  (guys I've had plenty alone & w/company, when my nipples were not fully erect...so I think that's a myth -not sure about    dilated pupils yet- I have a few tell tail signs I believe in)  

A.     Sure. The way I know is if she says to me "I'm coming." And I really like it if she does. She could be lying, of course, but I'm willing to take her word. Otherwise, individual reactions are so completely idiosyncratic that I am never sure unless it is someone I've been with often enough to learn her "tells."
   
Q.     Guys how many of you have ever faked an orgasm? Was it ever in the hobby, or more often in civvie life?  

A.     Yes, long ago in a galaxy far, far away, before I got in the hobby. Paying my money relieves me of any obligation to fake anything.  
   
Q.     How many men know (or have heard) that if you hold back from cumming too often it can become extremely difficult to get there & the effects are cumulative -meaning after years of this, the act of ejaculation may not ever happen  
                       Hint:visit gals that allow for more than one pop- my motto as many as u can in our shared time.  

A.     Holding back is not my issue. Getting there is. Age, ya know.  
   
Q.    How many know about edging & understand that sometimes orgasm doesn't have to be the end goal....  
              It's great,best to make ur desire for it clear.    

A.     Getting there is my problem, so being prevented has no appeal    

Q.     Does anyone actually think the FC is somehow less safe (personally I feel it's safer) how many of you tried it?  
 Like it or not? (hint: lube, lube, lube!!) also I think it might feel more "natural" but I've never  
 had a penis so what do I know...LOL  

A.     I also think FCs are safer, and they feel just fine to me, but they do have a couple issues. The first is having to stop and wait for the installation before we can move forward. I always want DATY which just doesn't work that well with an FC in place. If we don't think about protection until I am hard and raring to go, well, with a regular condom at least I'm getting a handjob while she puts it on. Some women don't like to be watched putting in an FC so that leaves me looking at the ceiling and jacking off until she is finished. The second is, as you say, lube, lube, lube. A break for more lube every few minutes makes everything feel much better, but it can be distracting and hard on the mood.  
   
Q.    I love the idea of jumping in the shower w/some of you & if my day allows I SO would, however I have a very specific hair routine it's easy (believe it or not) & lasts for a full 2 days....so if it's a fresh hair day (or I hafta be somewhere)  
 I'm not likely to wet it down... Is this a huge turn off? Being an Xhairstylist 4me it's a small price to pay to only spend 15mi. On it every other day & never have to use product...but hey we all have our opinions, would love 2 hear yours....  

A.     Nah, I'd rather spend as much time as possible in bed, working on another pop. Besides, I can't go home to the SO with wet hair.  
   
Q.     How important is sexy lingerie for ya'all? Do you feel comfortable requesting it?  

A.     I'm pretty neutral on lingerie. It's what's underneath that interests me. On the other hand, I really like a woman who has her own sense of style so I look forward to seeing what she has chosen to wear when the door opens. Sexy lingerie is fine if it is part of the journey.  

Q.     How about role play- comfort in asking/ talking about it?  
 Personally I say- meet at least once b4 making special requests, after you meet you may have better ideas on what you wanna see or experience w/ each other.  
   
A.     The times I have tried it hasn't really worked out. I reckon the ladies are working hard enough just pretending to find me sexy.    

Great post, Mindy. A nice way to start the new year. I hope others respond.

Mindy, some very good questions and thought - my responses.
 
Q.      Do most of you see the "like" button? (Pretty sure it's for paying members only) how do you use the "like" sparingly or generously? (I try & use it very generously w/pictures & only what I really agree with when it comes to opinions)    
 
A.     I use it when a post really strikes my interest, so not very often!
   
Q.     Do men realize that some of us read your review history to get a feel for how you write/think/talk?  
 
A.     I have been told as much, but can't speak for others.  Some probably care and others probably not so much.
   
Q.      Do most of the men truly think part of the reference check is sharing juicy details between us gals?  
               (For the most part it's not at all that way, it's yes or no I saw him,I feel he's safe,I would/wouldn't see him again-                        exceptions to every rule,eg:very good friends may elaborate more)    
   
 A.     I know some women do say more than ok or not okay and some talk about their clients with other clients and that gets shared as well.  It makes me more conscious of what i say...even the degree of compliment I give if that makes any sense.
 
Q.     How does everyone feel about sweat? Sure we all do it, but do some of you really believe there's no fun if there's no sweat?  Do some of you get really turned off by it? I personally don't wanna "body slide" w/sweat nuru or some lube fine.    
   
A.    Some people sweat a lot and easily and some don't, it does not bother me either way.  I don't mind either of us breaking a sweat!  I'll encorage that that want to , to go for it though!
 
Q.     Do you believe in specific ways to tell if a women has an orgasm?  
  (guys I've had plenty alone & w/company, when my nipples were not fully erect...so I think that's a myth -not sure about    dilated pupils yet- I have a few tell tail signs I believe in)    
 
A.     I try and let that be as it may, if the lady fakes it she does, nothing I can do about it.  I think they do it for many reasons, some to try and help the guy along that needs to hear the lady have a good time.  Some to move it along to speed things up and get it over with.  some genuinely do it.  I want it to be mutual but I am not paying to think about it!
   
Q.     Guys how many of you have ever faked an orgasm? Was it ever in the hobby, or more often in civvie life?  
 
A.     This one mystifies me and I am waiting to hear/read more responses!
   
Q.     How many men know (or have heard) that if you hold back from cumming too often it can become extremely difficult to get there & the effects are cumulative -meaning after years of this, the act of ejaculation may not ever happen    
                       Hint:visit gals that allow for more than one pop- my motto as many as u can in our shared time.  
 
A.    I don't want to hold back...I look forward to it when it happens.  Had not heard holding back has lasting effects though.
   
Q.    How many know about edging & understand that sometimes orgasm doesn't have to be the end goal....  
              It's great,best to make ur desire for it clear.    
 
A.     How is this good then if holding back does lasting damage!?  The prospect seems exciting though!
 
Q.     Does anyone actually think the FC is somehow less safe (personally I feel it's safer) how many of you tried it?    
 Like it or not? (hint: lube, lube, lube!!) also I think it might feel more "natural" but I've never    
 had a penis so what do I know...LOL    
 
A.     I like them better for constrictive feeling purposes.  The lube thing is every persons choice I imagine.  Just enough lube is enough for me...too much lube takes away from the natural friction for me and desensitizes the entire act.   HJ, BJ, Sex itself it it is so wet there is not friction the ending is harder to come by for me.
   
Q.    I love the idea of jumping in the shower w/some of you & if my day allows I SO would, however I have a very specific hair routine it's easy (believe it or not) & lasts for a full 2 days....so if it's a fresh hair day (or I hafta be somewhere)  
 I'm not likely to wet it down... Is this a huge turn off? Being an Xhairstylist 4me it's a small price to pay to only spend 15mi. On it every other day & never have to use product...but hey we all have our opinions, would love 2 hear yours....  
 
A.     A shower is the most natural of feelings for me.  Nothing is fake there everything is natural.  Bring a cover and and lets have some fun!  When I go out with a lady it is great that she is all primped and even when we meet at first, but running makeup and a hair spray glue kills a little bit for me, I like the natural feel of a ladies hair!
   
Q.     How important is sexy lingerie for ya'all? Do you feel comfortable requesting it?  
 
A.     Boy this is an areas that I really think affects how a lady feels!  I say wear what makes YOU feel the most sexy, I'll be the benefactor by your mood and actions!
 
Q.     How about role play- comfort in asking/ talking about it?  
 Personally I say- meet at least once b4 making special requests, after you meet you may have better ideas on what you wanna see or experience w/ each other.    
   
A.     This takes practice and BOTH have to be on the same page!  It can go south FAST I am thinking.  
 
Mindy, you started something and have set a president...can you follow through? KIDDING!  Liked the post!

Why not submit these to TER in a simplified fashion and then more might answer the questions. We'd also be able to see the scores. As it is, some of the questions are interesting but it's too much effort to reply for me.

Do most of you see the "like" button? (Pretty sure it's for paying members only) how do you use the "like" sparingly or generously? (I try & use it very generously w/pictures & only what I really agree with when it comes to opinions)  

A: I use it once in a while if I actually like a post but don't really feel like saying something.
   
Do men realize that some of us read your review history to get a feel for how you write/think/talk?  

A: Yes
   
Do most of the men truly think part of the reference check is sharing juicy details between us gals?  
(For the most part it's not at all that way, it's yes or no I saw him,I feel he's safe,I would/wouldn't see him again-             exceptions to every rule,eg:very good friends may elaborate more)  
 
A: I figured it was what you said it was
   
How does everyone feel about sweat? Sure we all do it, but do some of you really believe there's no fun if there's no sweat?  
Do some of you get really turned off by it? I personally don't wanna "body slide" w/sweat nuru or some lube fine.  

A: If I get too hot, it interferes with my performance so I'd just as soon avoid it.
   
Do you believe in specific ways to tell if a women has an orgasm?  
 (guys I've had plenty alone & w/company, when my nipples were not fully erect...so I think that's a myth -not sure about    dilated pupils yet- I have a few tell tail signs I believe in)  

A: I think there are a few women I have spent enough time with that I have a pretty idea when they actually climax.
   
Guys how many of you have ever faked an orgasm? Was it ever in the hobby, or more often in civvie life?  

A:  Once in a while.  I really don't know why I have done it as I realize sometimes it's just not going to happen.
   
How many men know (or have heard) that if you hold back from cumming too often it can become extremely difficult to get there & the effects are cumulative -meaning after years of this, the act of ejaculation may not ever happen  
Hint:visit gals that allow for more than one pop- my motto as many as u can in our shared time.  

A:  I have noticed sometimes if I hold back too long, it seems to take longer.  My pet "theory" is that my penis decides to sulk because I didn't let it do what it wanted when it wanted.
   
 How many know about edging & understand that sometimes orgasm doesn't have to be the end goal....  
It's great,best to make ur desire for it clear.  

A: I've heard of it but am not that interested in trying it lest my penis decide to sulk (see previous answer).
   
 Does anyone actaully think the FC is somehow less safe (personally I feel it's safer) how many of you tried it?  
 Like it or not? (hint: lube, lube, lube!!) also I think it might feel more "natural" but I've never  
 had a penis so what do I know...LOL  

A:  I have tried it, do like it, and think it is probably safer because the possibility of it coming off, like a male condom can, isn't really possible.
   
 I love the idea of jumping in the shower w/some of you & if my day allows I SO would, however I have a very specific hair routine it's easy (believe it or not) & lasts for a full 2 days....so if it's a fresh hair day (or I hafta be somewhere)  
 I'm not likely to wet it down... Is this a huge turn off? Being an Xhairstylist 4me it's a small price to pay to only spend 15mi. On it every other day & never have to use product...but hey we all have our opinions, would love 2 hear yours....  

A:  I have no problem with the lady not wanting to get her hair wet and understand why.
   
How important is sexy lingerie for ya'all? Do you feel comfortable requesting it?  

A: I like it but it's not necessary.  So long as it's sexy, at least somewhat revealing, and easily removed, I'm happy.

How about role play- comfort in asking/ talking about it?  

A:  Not really my thing

Personally I say- meet at least once b4 making special requests, after you meet you may have better ideas on what you wanna see or experience w/ each other.  

A:  On a first appointment, I don't ask for anything specific.  Afterwards maybe, if something comes to mind that I'd like.

Great post Mindy!!!!!  

Edging was may favorite and most fulfilling.  Understanding your partners breathing,body movement, etc and stopping before the big O then picking it up again.  The fulfilling part is just being so in tune with your partner.

Posted By: Mindyzurgirl

How much do ya'all know (or notice) about the MN discussion board?  
   
 Do most of you see the "like" button? (Pretty sure it's for paying members only) how do you use the "like" sparingly or generously? (I try & use it very generously w/pictures & only what I really agree with when it comes to opinions)  
   
 Do men realize that some of us read your review history to get a feel for how you write/think/talk?  
   
   
 Do most of the men truly think part of the reference check is sharing juicy details between us gals?  
               (For the most part it's not at all that way, it's yes or no I saw him,I feel he's safe,I would/wouldn't see him again-                        exceptions to every rule,eg:very good friends may elaborate more)  
   
   
 How does everyone feel about sweat? Sure we all do it, but do some of you really believe there's no fun if there's no sweat?  
 Do some of you get really turned off by it? I personally don't wanna "body slide" w/sweat nuru or some lube fine.  
   
 Do you believe in specific ways to tell if a women has an orgasm?  
  (guys I've had plenty alone & w/company, when my nipples were not fully erect...so I think that's a myth -not sure about    dilated pupils yet- I have a few tell tail signs I believe in)  
   
 Guys how many of you have ever faked an orgasm? Was it ever in the hobby, or more often in civvie life?  
   
 How many men know (or have heard) that if you hold back from cumming too often it can become extremely difficult to get there & the effects are cumulative -meaning after years of this, the act of ejaculation may not ever happen  
                       Hint:visit gals that allow for more than one pop- my motto as many as u can in our shared time.  
   
  How many know about edging & understand that sometimes orgasm doesn't have to be the end goal....  
              It's great,best to make ur desire for it clear.    
   
 Does anyone actaully think the FC is somehow less safe (personally I feel it's safer) how many of you tried it?  
 Like it or not? (hint: lube, lube, lube!!) also I think it might feel more "natural" but I've never  
 had a penis so what do I know...LOL  
   
 I love the idea of jumping in the shower w/some of you & if my day allows I SO would, however I have a very specific hair routine it's easy (believe it or not) & lasts for a full 2 days....so if it's a fresh hair day (or I hafta be somewhere)  
 I'm not likely to wet it down... Is this a huge turn off? Being an Xhairstylist 4me it's a small price to pay to only spend 15mi. On it every other day & never have to use product...but hey we all have our opinions, would love 2 hear yours....  
   
 How important is sexy lingerie for ya'all? Do you feel comfortable requesting it?  
 How about role play- comfort in asking/ talking about it?  
 Personally I say- meet at least once b4 making special requests, after you meet you may have better ideas on what you wanna see or experience w/ each other.  
   
   
 Okay- wow did I ramble....(oh well)    
 that's my contribution for the start of 2016,  
   
 FYI: I wanted to post a good holiday picture but I was too caught up in trying to keep peace & harmony amongst family  
  (& I don't own a good camera)  
   
 I truly wish everyone the very best for this New Year!!  
   
 Thanks 4 ur time & opinions.  
   
 

1.  I digest everything on the MN board
2.  Like button - i use it and often don't think about it.
3.  Yes I understand reviews and my board posting history are considered by all.  It's surprising I am able to book dates, right?  Some may avoid me but I think I am able to prove i'm not LEO and i'm a real client.  If I get the turn down I move on
4.  I'm sure providers are too busy to get to involved in sharing juicy details.  I would think he's not LEO and he won't hurt me are enough.
5.  Sweat happens.  I don't care either way.  I've never had a p4p experience where either of us were literally dripping on each other so i guess it's all good.
6.  Personally I don't care if a provider fakes an O unless it's really cheesy and out of place.  I hope we both enjoy ourselves but I'm a realist.  
7.  In civie life I have faked an O when I was wearing protection so it wasn't obvious.  
8.  I'm all about edging.  love it
9.  Never tried a FC yet.  Would like to.  So with no experience i have nothing to add.
10.  Shower play is the bomb.  Nuff said but I understand your logistics.
11.  I appreciate a great set of lingerie but I also appreciate a beautiful woman who's wearing casual clothes.  I'm not really about the outfits.  They are often a surprise bonus for me

honestly, a bunch would blame me and a couple others (i think we were like a dirty 3)

that was last year though.  at the stroke of midnight earlier in this AM i decided to let last year be last year.  i'm going to only have fun.  the rest of you can have fun with me or be all 2015ish