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While out traveling the country I saw a well reviewed provider, who was on the pricey side (reviews indicated worth it). After doing a few things things, got covered and moved into the Mish position we are doing this for some time and I suggested we mover to doggie.

Upon pulling out, she and I see at the same time there is blood everything - she jumps up and runs into the bathroom probably embarrassed, I'm laughing softy because I didn't know what to think or say - actually I was a little mortified by the situation and the softy laughing was probably from just trying to process the situation at the moment (not rude laughing so people don't think that)

She comes back and says she thought Aunt Flow was done many days ago; but that she switched to new birth control and maybe that cause it? There was quite a lot of blood on the bed and she provided me a towel to wipe off. While this is normal female body function - I was totally turned off by the the situation and grossed out. Never have experienced this ever, maybe was a little shelled shocked because never even crossed my mind?

I tried to make her feel OK and be a gentlemen by telling her everything will be alright, she asked me if I want a back rub and I politely declined. I stayed a while longer and we just talked a little bit and she seemed alright.

I never once asked for any kind of rate reduction, but my question is; since we never finished should she have offered a discount, it was not cheap at 400.00. Not sure if she was aware of the possibility but I will give her the benefit of the doubt? Not sure what I should have done, there just wasn't anyway I was going to make her feel worst. I'm just not sure she did everything to make it right with me and that bothers me.

Not going to post under my handle it is embarressing - plus will not give out her name, so don't ask? Just was looking from advice ladies and guys - what would you have done or said?

I would just let it go, it was way more embarrassing for her than you and bringing it up again only reinforces it.

The right thing would have been for her to offer you a 50% discount. People don't always do the right thing.

In a perfect world, absolutely she should have been gracious enough to either offer a discount or some other compensation such as free time on a future visit. But that's a perfect world. In the real world, I can't think of too many providers I know, who having four hundred dollar bills in their hands, would willingly hand even one back where it came from. Money does strange things to people. Especially women.

The easy answer is to tell you to chalk it to the game but I sense some real frustration in your post and I don't blame you. In these times, $400 is nothing to throw away on a negative experience.

I say you put the ball in her court. Let her know in the same cool and professional manner you displayed here, that you were not satisfied with the recent visit and are wrestling with the decision of whether or not to leave a detailed review.

Don't put it like either give me a free session or I will sock it to you. Just reiterate that it would have been better to schedule the session after her cycle, that you performed your requirements in good faith, that you would certainly like to see her again, but being that the session was never completed, you were left dissatisfied with the service.

Then it's her turn. You never know, she actually could be wrestling herself with how to resolve such an embarrassing situation and your request to her would be the motivation she needs to reach out and make amends.

But if you never let her know, she just might assume you simply chalked it up to one to the game.

ilvmbg979 reads

I wasn't there and you were, but you said she offered you a back rub.  If it was me, that would signal me that she's trying to get things going again despite what happened.  I would have asked her how we could make the best of the situation.  It's unfortunate, but probably just as much for her as you.

I would put this in the same class as you agree to go through with an appointment, and then half way through you realize that she's just not going to do it for you.  Maybe she's not your ideal size.  I say it's too late to ask for a rate compromise.  There is risk involved in partaking.

I can see why this could be disturbing. While I don't seek out this particular case myself, I honestly would invest every ounce of energy I had to ensure she was okay.  Lemme 'splain.  

I have seen in the past that aggressive doggie can cause internal issues for ladies. Granted, there isn't blood "everywhere" (any chance this is hyperbole?) but any number of factors can cause some tearing or rupturing, and it usualy has nothing to do with your size.

So back to your feelings about the situation. I'm still the newb, but my impression is we donate money for the companionship only, and as such we men are absolutely not entitled to a damn thing except a good conversation. So, if anything extra happens, I would definitely consider myself lucky.

If I was a dick about something during a meeting, I wouldn't expect anything out of the date other than conversation. In other words, I get out of it what I put into it. I hope I don't offend anyone, but I don't believe we clients are entitled to a darn thing. Being a gentleman comes first, and if shit happens, then that's the test of being a gentleman.

There's a difference being getting screwed and getting some loving. I think you both just got unlucky. Show her what a good guy you can be and deal with it appropriately.  

These things DO happen and her reason is valid.  New birth control CAN mess with a woman's body.

I cannot speak for another but, I, personally,  would have offered a partial refund.  She may have just been dying of sheer embarassment and may not have even been thinking of anything but that much less of discounting your date.  

The best thing a guy can do in that situation is to be kind and understanding.  Don't freak out and panic.  It's a normal thing and is what makes us women curvy and sexy afterall.

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(Sorry, in a great mood today.  Thanks GoP, you're sweet)  :)

1) Anal
2) BBBJTC
3) A discount

She did not fulfill her end of the contract as far as I am concerned.
Her suggestion of a backrub was a cop out for you to fill the entire allotted time.

jerthebear1230 reads

I for one think you sound like a real gentleman!Guys like you give me hope for us hobbyists.I'm proud of you!I'm sure she was mortified and probably wasn't thinking real clear at that moment.

But that didn't happen so in your shoes I would have probably said something like "well, how do you want to handle things now?" and see what kind of response you get.

If you think this is someone you would like to see again should the opportunity come up, you could email her and politely inquire if she would be willing to make some sort of adjustment in a future get-together.

A couple of things come to mind.  Considering how weird some hobbyists are about menstrual women, she may have assumed that offering something like oral still would not have been of interest to you.  

The other is that if you got over being weirded out by menstrual women, situations like this would cease to be an issue.  That said, I still hear that it was an awkward and frustrating situation for you.  You did the right thing by posting under and alias and I'm sorry things didn't go better for you.

BoardQuestion745 reads

Thank everyone for the constructive feedback.

In my personal life of course I have come across this situation, but never in the hobby.
There was no rough sex, all we did was Mish but even in personal past experience never experienced that amount of blood - that is all.

It is a nature female body function I understand that - I just wasn't even expecting this - and just wasn't sure if she was either?

I will not no any with negative to her, she was a nice girl - I really think she was surprised and not sure what to do - I don't think the back rub was meant to go any further.
I won't use it against her for doing a review - at the time, all I really did was try to make her feel better as she appeared "weirded" out and in the end you are either a gentlemen or you are not - there just isn't any middle ground.

Thanks for the feedback....

TCButtman1695 reads

yuck! definitely a turn off. No vampire here!!!

Your going to reviw her but I bet she doesn't want a bad review. Shewill fix the issue and offer a redo session if she cares. She probly doesn't want a bad review mentioning her period. So mention you want to review her anD she will comply.

I think I would just chalk this one up to "You can't always get what you want" and "Nothing ever goes as planned". This was very embarassing for the both of you. She was mortified, offered to finish your time together with a massage and you opted not to but just finished your time with talk. Who knows, that massage might have led to further action and an extended session. I don't think she owes you anything more. Don't suggest that you'll write about this in a review of her if she doesn't give you a discounted session or freebie. You're a better man than that. Have you ever accidently farted in the presence of someone else and it was quite obvious that the stank originated from you? (I sense everyone's head is nodding in agreement) Then that other person had the grace to act as if nothing had happened and carried on with you normally in order to allow you to save face. That's how a gentleman should act in this instance. When you see her again you might be surprised at the extra special treatment you might receive.
I'm surprised that you've never encountered this before. While it's never happened to me with a Provider, it's happened dozens of times with me in my personal life. Vigorous coitus can trigger the onset of menses of a woman who's on the cusp. My ladies have often revealed that they're hornier during their period so when they learn that I don't mind at all having sex during menses that can turn what a woman often uses as a reason NOT to have sex into a good reason TO have sex. Just lay a towel down on the bed and have fun!

'Relax, it's just sex!'

DS

I have to disagree with you, bro.
She left him with blue balls. No sexual compensation at all. That was not right. Remember, this was a paid session, not a civie scenario.
The offering of a massage was inadequate. She should have wrapped her lips around his dick and made up for it.  

Yes, these things do happen. It had happened to me on one occasion, and the BBBJTC certainly made up for it. It was enough for me to repeat with her several more times after that.  

Wow you guys are funny.  
No, he should not have gotten a discount or "rate reduction", she obviously tried to make it up to him with a back rub/massage, that probably would have ended with either a hj or bj.  BUT since he declined she most likely assumed he was too weirded out & didn't want to continue with the session.  
Yes this is an awkward situation & no one knows what the other person is thinking.  So he should have said something to let her know he wanted to complete the session in another way.  BTW he said he was grossed out so it was up to him to let her know that he wanted to finish the session.
Which if this was a contract (that comment made me laugh so hard I almost fell off my chair) it would have been he who had voided it.
As for trying to obligate her into a discounted session with a bad review - Shame on you!!!

There were other options that went unexplored starting with a good bj.  Sounds like it was more of an pyschological dilemma.  Asking for a refund with any provider is a waste of time let alone ungentlemanly.  Perhaps a reschedule or other options.  

Could have been far worse. Could have been in the middle of daty when it happened.  Been there (almost).  Only in my case, the bitch knew it and actually was using a sponge to conceal it.  Good thing she allowed fingers so that I could discover before too late.  A bbbj/cim followed but I still complained to the agency and was provided a free session with another lady a month later (tipped her good though).

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