i would like to know who you would recommend for oral sex that includes deepthroat and be able to hold and control the providers head. if there is any provider that allows that. i hope that the providers don't get mad at this request as it has been a fantasy of mine for sometime. thanks to all.

Just ask them or read reviews for your answer.  I know I have a toaster that won't pop up the bread unless I hold the button down...oh, wait, we're talking about human beings aren't we and not kitchen appliances.

Hold their hair, sure, no problem.  But "control their head"......not likely.  
Of course, I could be wrong.

You have to be able to build a rapport. If your cock is the size of a Buick, then you'll have to adjust your fantasy. If you see average size, then it's back to the rapport. I have several clients I trust...  

Ooxx,
Trinity

This is totally a rapport thing. Once you know someone, there is more trust. This is one of my favorite things, but it takes time. Now I'm not the size of a Buick, but not too small either and some have tried very hard because of the trust. Dang, now I'm feeling the need... LOL
I can only think of one (Heaven Elise) that loves it and has no issue doing it right from the get go, but she is currently in Seattle and not sure when she'll be back.

BTW, good morning sweet Trinity. :

So a bit of PSE? I don't mind providing the experience you're describing, so long as the gentleman in question understands that I *will* pull away if held for so long that I can't breathe or start actively gagging.

So if you own one of these models does it help in making your decision???  Verses a Buick or Cadillac or HuMMer...???  

I agree, this is all about rapport, trust and respect...this is something I truly enjoy...I have gone very slow with some providers, but some like to dive right in...if pays to drive a small foreign model for once...

thanks
Kram

I went with the foreign "models" but now, although late, I realize the local models are the most trustorthy and efficient ones and I will stay with them from now on.

The psychological aspects of domination and submission is an area I have had a lot of experience with.

That feeling of being objectified, that your partner is "using" you for their selfish pleasure can be a heartbreaking turn-off, or a deeply intimate moment of revelation and mutual trust.  Which of those it turns out to be will depend entirely on the personality of the person on the receiving end, and, the nature of your relationship with them.

A lot of women will say "if you think you're going to force my head down on your cock like I am a meaningless slab of meat, I will kick your ass."  And that has to be respected.

But other women will have a different perspective on it.  "I want to know that you respect me, care about me, trust me...  but once I know that, once it's been proven, then I want you to take risks with me.  It's intimate and erotic when you trust me enough to not hold back so much, let a little of the inner caveman out...  as long as it's honest and authentic, then reveal a little of your dark side to me."  In this context, exposing your primal wants to your partner actually is an act of vulnerability in revealing yourself, not an act of diminishing the other