I like the company of an attractive, fun girl when my wife goes out of town.  I definately prefer outcall to my home, but am scared of the provider coming back again unannounced.  Is this a realistic fear?  Or am i being too paranoid???

I recently contacted a provider that lived way too close for comfort (literally down the street). I usually prefer have the provider visit me, but at times I do an in-call if my schedule is flexible, I have never had the problem of someone coming unannounced, however this particular case I was going to her in-call but after I found out the location I got cold feet. Of course I did have the courtesy to cancel the date at that point.

Women are no dummies.  A provider showing up unannouced is the least of your problems. It's the stray hairs on your sheets, the lipstick smudge on a tissue in the unchecked wastebasket before she blows you, etc.  No woman that is familiar with your home ever misses stuff like that. For the price of a good provider, getting a room is money well spent unless of course you are just itching to get caught for some stupid ass reason.  Look at your paycheck this week and imagine it mostly gone if your that f'ing stupid.

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If you are respectful of the provider and treat her well before, during and after your visit, there is no reason to expect her to pay you any unexpected visits.  I certainly would not want to meet a gents wife (unless prearranged by both the gent and the wife, of course).   That scenario would cause way too much grief and headaches for me.   I only bring enough rope to tie up the gents.   wink-wink.

Bad Ass Belinda

I don't think it is a big risk with most well reviewed providers.  I would stay clear of girls that only advertise on backpage etc.  I think the risk of problems from a provider is minimal if she has a good reputation.

I do think a bigger danger is your wife finding out.  She could find something the lady left behind.  A hair on the pillow could make for a long discussion.  Also how friendly are your neighbors with your wife?  Even is they don't suspect you are straying, a comment to your wife about a visitor could cause problems.  

But like everything with this hobby, we weigh the risk against the reward.
Take care.  If you do this let us know how it went.

What you should weigh in your deliberation about this is if your visitor is well-reviewed and that you trust her.  As someone wrote in an earlier post (this week):  you should never give your real name or place of employment for screening purposes.  I almost hate to say this, but you should have the confidence that the provider that you invite to your HOME should have as much to lose by indiscretion as you.  That sort of levels the playing field in case one of you goes crazy.  I understand the convenience thing......but......that's a heavy but!

I mentioned above "well-reviewed" visitors, but even that is not a guarantee.  I have heard of the horror stories of black mail and extortion.  Hell I even have a regular client who is a MD where there was an attempt to black mail him and out him to his family.  Fortunately for him.......he never gave out any personal information for the black mail to succeed.  Even I don't know who he really is, much less know where he lives, and I've been seeing him for over a year.

Be careful grasshopper.

Yes I am a provider, and I use employment information for screening if the person has nothing else.  Just be careful WHERE you roll you dice sir.

it's not only hair on pillows you have to worry about. women's noses are something like ten times more sensitive than men's. even a lingering scent of perfume, smoke, hairspray, lotion, latex or scented/flavored lube could be a tip-off to her. not to mention a smear of lipstick on a pillowcase, or a slightly different rumple to the bedsheets....

so yes, while most of us would never dream of stopping by unannounced, it's not a smart idea if you want to preserve your marriage and sanity.

Everyone who is reading this thread should go on Netflix and order the 1967 movie "A Guide for the Married Man" starring Walter Matthau.  This question of having a woman to your home when your wife is away is addressed directly.  In short, the answer is "NO!"

The movie has other good advice that is still current today.

The problem is not a provider showing up unannounced but the wife sniffing something out. The neighbors might see something and make a comment to your wife, you never know.

Do some research and go see a well reviewed provider at her place. I like you had a fear for in-calls, but got over it after a while in the hobby.

At worst rent a hotel room if you leave in a bigger city. Leave the key card in the room and use a side exit when if checking out early.

Depends on your level of comfort - if you live by yourself I wouldn't worry.

If you share a room/house/apartment then it's a little risky.

I've visited clients while the woman of the house is away, and quite frankly, it's unsettling.  To me.  That's personal space we're talking about.  And, what if my hair show up on the pillow, or my odor is in the bed?  If another bed is used, that's a little better.  But, it's still not as relaxing as meeting in a neutral place, or my in call location.  It feels too much like a civie "affair", and that is NOT what this is about.  

Also, if I were the client, I would never, ever have a lady come to the house for sex.  Her energy will always linger, and there are huge risks that they'd be taking.  It's not worth it.  Just get a room, boys.

There are no names, because it happened to me!!  I came home after a long weekend away with the kids, and knew that my husband had screwed the babysitter (I had suspected that he was, but didn't have any real proof) on our sofa.  

Guess how I knew?  I'll tell you...there were cum stains on it, and they hadn't been there the week before, when I vacumed it!!

And, I knew from our own personal rendezvous on various pieces of furniture what dried semen looks like.  It was a dead give away.  I payed attention.  Most wives do.

End of story.

belinda again with the the domination.  damn girl!!!  you have my ears twitching....oh my ears aren't down there.    

Most providers won't do show up unannounced but if you should pick the wrong one then you have a really serious problem.  And there is also the problem that others have pointed out that making sure no one else picks up on any signs of the girl having been there is problematic.

I doubt that even couples with an open relationship would like to walk into the place that they call home and see the person that they share that place with someone else, or find out that they have been sharing that place with someone else.  Look we all take some risks, but risks like bringing someone into your home is sending a message, one that is clear and direct.  There are better ways to break up, plus they probably will be less expensive.  Think with big head, fuck with the other.  

Especially if its a provider you do not know.  All sorts of risks.  Also, consider that most woman, including your wife, can generally tell when another woman has been present.  Fragrances and perhaps other telltale evidence such as hairs, or accidentally dropped personal items, etc.

And her pimp was the least of his concerns!  Be careful and don't take the chance.

Dude I may be delusional but to think that my life is like the movie “risky business” ?????  Or to gain some insight into the business based on this movie??  WTF??  Let’s set up an incall at my parent’s house and invite all of my high school friends to come over and spend their allowance on hookers????  And Rebecca De Mornay will fall for me and fuck me on the train??  
I WANT YOUR LIFE…. AND THE DRUGS YOU ARE TAKING

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